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When do you formally ask your bridal party?

Sarah, on April 16, 2017 at 3:19 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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We finally booked a venue and got a date (yay!). However, due to the venue's popularity we had to book in Aug 2018 which still almost 1.5 years away (boo!). I have a list of bridesmaid and my fiancé has his groomsman picked, but how early is too early to ask? I understand save the dates will be sent 8-10 months prior to the date (it's not a destination) so do you wait to ask until after that? Or can I ask sooner?

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Latest activity by T Marie, on April 16, 2017 at 11:01 AM

Master October 2017
RealLindseyO · on April 16, 2017 at 3:22 AM
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Save the dates go out 6-8 months in advance.
Same timeline for bridal party, 6-8 months.
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Devoted July 2018
AlyssaWynne · on April 16, 2017 at 8:37 AM
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I would definitely wait until you are closer. A lot of things can happen in a year and a half!
For example, I was going to ask my FBIL's girlfriend of 4 years to be a bridesmaid in my wedding (they were talking about marriage and he was thinking about proposing). However, they recently broke up instead. Fortunately I had not asked her yet, as that would have made an unfortunate situation that much harder!
Wait until closer!
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Dedicated May 2017
Jennifer · on April 16, 2017 at 8:47 AM
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You could start asking maybe at like a year out? I know that may be earlier than what the "timelines" say but consider things like picking out bridesmaids dresses and paying for them and getting them altered and what not... a few of my bridesmaids have waited until the last minute on every single one of those things so having more time has helped
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MrsLabrec · on April 16, 2017 at 8:48 AM
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I would wait on asking the BP. Things definitely change with friendships for sure. It happened to me. But congrats. That's so exciting
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Celia Milton · on April 16, 2017 at 8:56 AM
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6-8 months. Being the voice of the budget, I'd also research the $$ involved in gifts, flowers, RD, etc before you decide to include everyone.
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T Marie · on April 16, 2017 at 11:01 AM
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Got engaged in October 2015...didn't plan on asking anyone until I was at least 6-8 months out. He had already asked his groomsmen. Due to unforeseen circumstances we had to put wedding planning on hold for a while. Booked a venue this past Feb for this October & asked my MOH the day we booked the venue. Everyone else I asked mid March which is about 7 months out.
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