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When did you start ttc?

Alyssa, on August 27, 2019 at 2:00 PM Posted in Fitness and Health 0 23
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We're not even 3 weeks married but we're considering switching to the pull out method. Hormonal birth control (all types) are giving me irregular periods and massive cysts. I'm also allergic to condoms. The copper IUD didnt sit right and needed to be removed.

I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to do so I'm in less pain. Its sooner than we were planning by a year. So right now I either try a 3rd hormonal option, or we do pull out and if we get pregnant than maybe it's just time.

I'm 29 and he's 36. Own a 2 bedroom condo. But we're planning to move early next year. And I think it's a little soon (he and I are on the same page). We were going to wait to try for a year, three years at the absolute most.

Any advice? BC options or otherwise.

Combined pill my periods were awful and I was getting cysts. Coming off it I didnt have a period for 9 months. After that when copper failed I got the arm implant. I'm a wreck with the hormones, now my cysts are 8 to 10 cm each cycle. Cycle every 3 to 8 weeks so I never really know.

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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    I hate the pill! We always used condoms. I'm 30 and my husband is 31. We were married in June and were thinking of waiting a year to TTC. We decided to throw caution to the wind and start now. He owns our home and we are stable. Check out the GLOW app. It can help you predict ovulation. If you dont want to get pregnant, you could avoid penetrative sex during that time period each month. Obviously, there's still a chance of conceiving but I've found that app helpful and informative.
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    Also, research menstrual support supplements. There may be something out there than can help you regulate your periods more effectively.
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  • L
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    I agree with PP, there are plenty of apps available that track your period (I use Clue) and can help alert you to your few fertile days each month. Essentially, you'd be practicing natural family planning - which can be a great option when hormonal BC and condoms are not feasible.

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  • Jessica
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    Jessica ·
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    I stopped with the pill because it was making me crazy among other things. I also will not try any other form so I recently started the pull out method lol. I am not allergic to condoms but most of them irritate me. We are not getting married until next year so we are trying to be super careful. I don't really have any advice except just stop doing all forms of BC. It sounds like you both are on the same page so I think you will be ok.

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  • A
    Dedicated August 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    I like the idea of using a planner, but since I'm irregular will it still work?
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  • October2019
    Dedicated October 2019
    October2019 ·
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    We are waiting until we are actually married to have sex but wrbdid take a natural family planning class and I have started using natural family planning apps to get used to everything and educate myself now so we are prepared once we get married. I would recommend something like this. I use lady comp, but Fitbit has something like it and it's cheaper.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I don't have any advice on the pull and pray method since we're a same sex couple, but I have problems with irregular periods and wanted to give some unwarranted advice lol. I suffer from PCOS and have always had ridiculous periods. They would be 30-40 days long, then none for months, maybe spotting in between, literally couldn't have been more random. I started taking Balance, a supplement by Alani Nu and it's worked wonders for me. Not only has it regulated my cycles, but it's helped with other side effects of my hormonal imbalance as well; my skin has cleared up, my hair is growing much faster, my metabolism seems to have regulated. I could go on, but I know that I sound like a paid spokesperson, which I'm not, I'm just really passionate because it's seriously a miracle to find something that helps. Definitely check out their reviews!

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Read taking charge of your fertility if you want to use natural family planning. Those phone apps are usually off about when you’re actually ovulating because they just guess based on your period.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    Just a heads up, I use those apps and they were off by 5 days of when I was actually ovulating! And I have super regular periods and they always predict my period so I was really surprised when I realized that.
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  • Nemo
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    Nemo ·
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    It is expensive, but have you thought about the Ava bracelet? It is for TTC but it tracks your ovulation and would let you know what days you were ovulating and you could use those days however you wanted to depending on if you were TTC or TTA(trying to avoid).

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    I use the "My calendar" app and have for years now. I'm not 100% sure how accurate the ovulation part it, but I'm guessing it's pretty close to the correct timing since we conceived on the first try. That said, we wanted to start our family asap!
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  • Formerbride
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    Thank you for the info! We're not super focused TTC. Just letting it happen naturally. I'm really regular also and this is my first month using the app. I'll check out the book you recommended. Smiley smile
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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    Aww congrats 💕💕
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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    The pill made me crazy. I took it for a good 10 years on and off. I would never try any other birth control again! I feel ya!
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  • Kelly
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    Yeah I started temping and using ovulation sticks after I read the book and couldn’t believe the apps were so wrong! It’s amazing how different women’s bodies are.
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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    First of all, I'd definitely discuss your fertility and your cycle with your OBGYN and plan a pre-conception visit! They are super informative and really helpful, even if you are trying to prevent pregnancy! But also, they can help discuss how likely you are to get pregnant, because if your periods are super irregular, its likely that your fertile window isn't regular either. I'd probably buy some fertility strips off of Amazon, and start using those daily until you can track your ovulation. They are super cheap and easy to use, and after you've used them for a while it'll be easier to know when you are ovulating so you can avoid pregnancy. Because your cycles are so irregular, those apps will be more annoying than helpful and they probably won't do much good for you right now. Definitely invest a little money into fertility strips and start there!

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    Alyssa ·
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    Great advice. Thank you!
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  • Allie
    Expert April 2019
    Allie ·
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    Talk with your doctor. There are options for you!
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    This is a super helpful book and I would absolutely recommend this as well.

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  • 2d Bride
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    2d Bride ·
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    There are other methods, e.g., implants, that can give you long-term but reversible protection. However, if you're not too concerned about failure rates, natural family planning can work. However, with irregular periods, you need to be checking for ovulation (there are several methods), rather than just using the calendar.

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