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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

What's your plus one policy?

Lynnie, on May 2, 2019 at 3:04 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 64

How did you decide who gets the option of bringing an additional guest? Are you giving all of your guests the plus one option, or are you limiting plus ones to just your wedding party or out-of-town guests?? What's your plus one policy? Photo from Laura Hooper Calligraphy in Alexandria, VA

How did you decide who gets the option of bringing an additional guest? Are you giving all of your guests the plus one option, or are you limiting plus ones to just your wedding party or out-of-town guests??

What's your plus one policy?



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Photo from Laura Hooper Calligraphy in Alexandria, VA

64 Comments

  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    We invited all spouses/partners and gave the single folks a +1.
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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Most everyone is coming in a relationship. I didn't give plus ones to my barely over 18 cousins not in relationships. Any other single adult got one but it was like...2 people. Lol.

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  • C
    Devoted September 2019
    Caitlyn ·
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    We are giving plus ones to people in relationships or engaged at the time we send out invitations.

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  • karen
    Master October 2017
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    We are inviting spouses, fiances and partners above 21 who have been in a relationship for at least 6 months at the time invites when out. These are not plus ones, these are invited guests. No plus ones. We do not want random people showing up.

    Read some of the stories here. People trying to bring a married friend as a plus one. Two people using their plus ones to invite both pieces of an uninvited couple. Nope, we get to determine the guest list. Not guests.

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    NO ONE will be receiving a plus one. I can’t wrap my head paying $60 for someone I don’t even know and who isn’t even married to my loved one to eat. In addition, when I imagine looking at wedding pics, I don’t want to see people in the pics who I don’t even know.
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  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    Every single adult gets a plus 1. The exception to this is my just graduated niece and nephew. They'll come with family.
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  • L
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    We gave plus one's to all single bridal party members and family members. Also 1-2 friends who didn't know anyone else.


    I had one friend invited as a single but RSVP'd for 2 - she had recently begun relationship that I did not know about and I had no problem at all accommodating because they are a couple and it was my mistake that he was not invited by name.

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  • Selena
    Super September 2019
    Selena ·
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    We gave everybody one.
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  • Leah
    Devoted August 2019
    Leah ·
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    We gave everyone plus ones, so far many haven’t used it but we’re happy to offer up the option to make people feel comfortable at our wedding!
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    We've never specified but is people have asked we've said yes.
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  • Gonnabeaburch
    Super July 2019
    Gonnabeaburch ·
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    No one at our wedding is getting a plus one, despite my mother's complaints. Anyone in a relationship will be getting an invitation with both their and SO's name. We wanted to keep our wedding intimate.
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  • Expert May 2021
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    Any singles will got a plus one and any SO’s will be invited. Guests with children can bring those as well.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    We're giving them to anyone who is married or in a long-term relationship. We pretty much know who is and isn't since we're not having a really big wedding. If someone asks if they can bring someone as a date, we'll try and let them if we have the space.

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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
    Maggie ·
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    We’re limiting it to those who are in a relationship when we got engaged. My Fh has a few family members who would bring a random person just to not be alone. No no. We’re also having the RSVPs be completely online and we have it where they cannot add people
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  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
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    Everyone is getting a plus one here.. DW.. I wouldn’t go to a wedding alone, specially on a DW..
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  • Maria
    Super October 2019
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    We allowed all adults in relationships to bring their significant other and all single adults to bring a date.

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
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    From what I remember, we gave plus ones to anyone who we knew was in a relationship OR we knew wouldn't know very many people. So - husband's coworkers who all knew each other and sat at the table together? They didn't get a plus one if they were "happily single" lol. But the friend of mine who didn't know anyone else but me and maybe one member of the bridal party? She got a plus one whether or not she was dating someone. But anyone who we knew had a significant other - whether a long term one or even just a few months - got a plus one.

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  • F
    Devoted June 2019
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    Our process was a little interesting. We tried to extend plus ones to most.

    Bridal party got a plus two. Known couple were given a plus one. People we knew didn’t know anyone invited to the wedding received a plus one. Adults who were single didn’t get a plus (many of them know 3 or more people attending the wedding).

    We have some people who asked to come to the wedding but we didn’t originally invite them, those individuals we told if space becomes available, they will be invited but wouldn’t receive a plus one. So they pretty much know they will be filling spot of last minute cancellations.
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  • Katie
    Devoted September 2020
    Katie ·
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    Anyone who's single gets a plus one
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  • Katherine
    Expert July 2019
    Katherine ·
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    I want to say we invited most significant others who we knew were together at the time of sending out the save the dates. We gave one person who doesn't know anyone but the groom (and met me once I guess lol) a plus 1, can be anyone he chooses. I have another person in mind that we will give a plus one if the people she knows invited can't come (a couple), because it's important for us for her to be there if possible! Other than that, no plus ones to nameless people

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