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Lynnie
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What's your plus one policy?

Lynnie, on May 2, 2019 at 3:04 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 64

How did you decide who gets the option of bringing an additional guest? Are you giving all of your guests the plus one option, or are you limiting plus ones to just your wedding party or out-of-town guests??

What's your plus one policy?



What's your plus one policy? 1

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64 Comments

Latest activity by Lil Bug, on May 12, 2019 at 6:21 PM
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    We gave plus ones to those we knew were in a relationship or we gave one to one of my friends because the only person she knows aside from me that was invited just had a baby so may not be able to make it. I wanted her to feel comfortable and be able to bring a friend if she wanted to.
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    We gave everyone plus ones.

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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    We gave all adult single guests plus ones, and all adult guests that were in some kind of relationship were invited with their SO.

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  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
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    Everyone in the bridal party gets a plus one and people that are in serious relationships get a plus one.
    Anyone who is in a relationship at the time of invites being sent will most likely get a plus one. It kind of depends on what our venue allows though, we have about 265 on our list and one venue has a 250 limit while the other has 320. We are hoping to lock one down next week.
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  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
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    Most of our guests were married/engaged. So the plus 1 only went out to people who wouldn't have many people there to interact with (i.e. my dad is cut off from most of my family).

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Not giving “plus ones” at all but we did invite everyone’s SO if they were in a relationship at the time we sent out our invitations. Honestly most of our friends are either single, or in super longterm relationships so we are friends with their SOs too at this point haha, so it was only a few people in shorter term relationships that we hadn’t met/wouldn’t have otherwise added :p
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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    Anyone who is in a long-term relationship or engaged by the time we send out STDs will get a plus one.

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Everybody got a plus one! We don't expect anybody to travel alone. Not many people actually took us up on that extra guest.
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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
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    All adults are getting a plus one.

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  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
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    Most guests are getting a plus one. Cousins who still live at home with their parents and are on their parents' invitations had to have automatic plus ones revoked and will be given out if we have enough no replies due to guest list demands from FMIL.

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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    Everyone who we knew was in a relationship prior to the invites going out we invited with them SO. We weren’t able to give single guests a plus one. Nearly every knows at least one other person so we weren’t that worried. Depending on our rsvp count we plan to offer our couple local single friends the option to bring a date. We would love to give every single guests a plus one but is just wasn’t in the budget Smiley sad
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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
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    I might get so grief about this but we don't plan on giving many if any plus ones. Majority of the guests on each side is family and already married therefore that's a package deal already. For our wedding party and very few non married family members, they are all single so we didn't think a plus one was needed. Plus we don't have much extra room for plus ones because family is filling up majority of the numbers and we have limited space at our venue. Our wedding party is all friends with one another so its not like they wont have people to dance and hang out with.

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  • T
    Dedicated March 2020
    Tamsin ·
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    No plus ones
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  • Jennifer
    Savvy September 2020
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    The only person who isn't getting a plus one is my 16 year old God Son. Every other adult is either invited with their SO or getting a plus 1. some will likely come alone, but at least they have the option

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
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    All guests 18 or older will be given a plus one. Of course if they have a significant other and I know that persons name, they will be properly addressed on the invite. This is part of why FH and I decided to cut coworkers from our guest list. so we could properly host a date for every guest who wants to bring one. After all, a wedding celebrates love and relationships, so we want to honor and respect theirs no matter what stage they are at Smiley smile
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
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    I struggled with this but ended up giving all single adults a plus one. The only exception was for my cousin's kids who are in college and will be traveling with the family for the wedding. I decided it was worth the extra costs given that pretty much everyone is traveling and will be required to fly and get a hotel.
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
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    Anyone in a relationship they both get invited, so not technically a plus 1. For the few single people we do know, only a handful got them. Maybe about 5-6 tops. Single cousins are invited solo as they will know tons of other people there.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    All of our guests who are in relationships are being invited by name with their s/o. As far as single guests, we are giving plus ones to anyone who won't know at least 2 or 3 other guests so that the have someone to socialize with if they choose.

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  • S
    Dedicated October 2021
    Shaneka ·
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    Are you obligated to give everyone a plus one?? I really don't think i want to give everyone a plus one, i'm trying to cut my list down as much as possible. How do i tell people that i am not adding a plus one with their invite?

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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
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    Pretty much all of my guests are married so that made it easy. I really only have 3 or 4 that might be single so if they bring someone it won't be that big of a deal.

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