Whats the rudest comment you've gotten?

I look very young [like maybe 18 or so on a good day], but i'm actually 22 & will be 23 when we tie the knot. when people find out i'm engaged they ask how old i am.. guess what, it doesn't matter. you are a stranger & even if i was 15 & a half it shouldn't concern you! for some reason, so far, that has been one of my biggest pest peeved during my engagement so far haha.

Wow, some of those area pretty rude. I got number 6. I told the girls we may have to go with gowns and I got b*tched out by my MOH because "she doesn't like them." Worst I got was from my dad who called and I told him my FH (he's in the Marine Corps) was gone all week in the field. To which he said something to the effect of, "well ya know. That can be tough and I guess you know, you love each other but you gotta ask yourself if you want to live that kind of lifestyle." I was mortified given that my father, who just retired after 30 years of service to the Army, would say that to a woman who has pledged her life to a serviceman.

Look at the bright side, atleast now you know who your REAL friends are from the fakes. Really, just don't send these people an invitation to the wedding and when they ask why they didn't receive one just be honest and say "After the comments you made to me before, I though you were making it clear that you didn't really want to be a part of our special day."

Some of those are pretty bad.

I got one yesterday...i wanted to cry.

My grandmother wrote on the "words of wisdom" card for the bridal shower..

Don't get married...I'm serious. Don't do it, you will just be divorced like your parents in 5 years.

I dont know if it was meant to be funny or what, but it wasn't appreciated.

I really haven't gotten any throughout this whole process, but before I met my FH, my grandma and aunt were on the "who are you dating" bandwagon - they would always ask me if I was dating anyone literally every time I saw them. So one time, just before a cousin's wedding, my aunt (not the mom of this cousin) asked when I'd meet the right guy so we could have wedding for me. My response was "when I find a guy who deserves me." Yep, I know how b***y that sounds, and I intended it to be. Needless to say, she never asked me again.

I have had a few..mainly because my FH and I already have 2 children.

we got alot of comments as to why would we even have a wedding, we should have just eloped before i had the fist child.

Here's the rudest thing anyone has said to me, "You are going to look so beautiful in your dress. So, are you gonna lose that last 10 pounds before the wedding so you can look REALLY skinny?"

*SLAP*

The other one was. "When are you getting married. A year from now?? I don't like long engagements."

I'm like ok well then YOU don't have one... lolol

I have had 2 doozies that stuck in my head... lol

A coworker said this, me and my fiance were engaged really fast (but a co-worked does not have any right to voice this opinion! lol)

"When's your date? Well at least you guys might actually know each other by then"

And this weekend a neighbor who we socialize with said

"So I can't wait to get my invite!" (we hadn't intended to invite them!) Then a couple minutes later when we mention we aren't allowing children (mainly because we don't know any or have any in our families) he says

"Well then don't invite us, if Katie (there 10 year old) can't come then we don't want to go."

He then went on to tell us about his cousin who got married and said no kids, but he forced him to let Katie go, and bragged about how she was the only 10 year old there! WOW! lol

@Chelle I got number two a lot when we announced our date. It was a long long engagement though so I can't really blame them.

@Jennifer N. WOW RUDE PEOPLE WITH KIDS. I am not allowing kids at my wedding because I can't afford 30 kids at my wedding and I don't have the budget to find something for them to do. If someone said that to me I would say, "that cool. I can find someone else to invite". RUDE. Wow. I don't know how you held your temper.

My own rude remark: FFIL told me that I would regret my wedding choices in 10 years and think, "What the hell was I thinking?"

This was because I said we were using instrumental beatles songs as our ceremony music. :/

1- Can you do something for us on the list, we can't leave our 19 year old home alone, she's the only one we've got.

2- Why u guys wasting your money? you should just go to the courthouse then have a party (coming from a GM, lucky he stops with that comment)

3- I promise to behave if you invite me (a coworker who's not invited)

4- I will pay for my GF (someone we know was single, all of a sudden is in a committed relationship and offered to pay for his GF, plain rude)

Wow!

Mine werent as bad as some of these...

Your going to be engaged HOW LONG (just under 1 1/2 years)?

I have this party I go to every labor day. I think you should change your date (nope!).

FMIL- So you know in a few months it would be okay to get pregnant- no one would know... (Seriously!!!)

I have one girl talking about the wedding as if she were invited. It's one year away. She doesn't even know the date (we are careful not to talk about it because at the moment, we can only afford to invite family).

She's made multiple comments. Everything from talking about finding a great outfit, wearing "stellar heels," and wanting to go dress shopping with me. She said, "Well I can't wait to take you shopping. I figured I'd let you get it over with with your mom first, and then we can go."

Also - we were out to a Greek dinner one night and the waiters dance every hour, throwing napkins and breaking plates. I overheard her mention to one of the girls at the table, "let's remember to do this at Puffins' wedding!" The other girl (recently married) thankfully said, "If we're invited and you do this, you're cleaning up the mess."

I'm going to have to intervene next time she makes a comment.

@ Patricia-- I've gotten both 2 and 3, both from coworkers! I try to just take it as a joke but wow. I can't believe people say those things so widespread!

@Jessica Sounds like FMIL Is really anxious to become a grandmum! LOL

To be honest, the number one question I get asked most often is "So how much is that costing you?" Ummmm.... really none of their business. Most people that ask this are people who I would never even dream of inviting. And then we also get the typical, "When are you planning on having kids?" which is not really rude but just a little too intrusive for me when it is someone who doesn't even know me that well.

KS85 you have every right and more then deserve a wedding you bared two kids for your FH, shame on ppl for saying that to you!

UNBELIEVABLE and then people have the nerve to call you a bridezilla , when they are basically setting you to be a BEECH!!!! This is why I have resorted to talking to pretty much no one about my plans, spare me the opinions, I just talk to past brides and my BMS!

I honestly feel this comes from people really not giving a dam about your nuptials its a free party and food for them, every guest wants to feel like a VIP and its become not about you as a couple but how you can make them feel good as a guest. I can be most offended b/c ive never thought to say things like this when ive gone to weddings, im always honored to be invited and just go with the flow...i would just be so happy to witness love i wasnt thinking about the food, drinks or superficial stuff and it disgust me that other people do.

Lol Heather I managed to keep my cool but mh FH told him exactly what he thought of that comment. And told him we don't need you to come if thats your attitide. It made it much easier for me to keep my cool when I found out about that! lol

LMAOOO Puffin S yes! I have coworkers that say oh i dont need an invite just give me the information HUH? who said you were invited? mind you they will want to bring a guest, and then you invite a few then a few more want to come in the office. You have to draw the line some where!

Mandee yes i get that alot too, my wedding is avg to me but to many its more of the upscale side, we will be engaged for a 1.5 when married mainly to pay off everything withing any debt or using savings. My wedding will be around 30K and i am embarrassed to say that but the food alone was 10k so it was inevitable. People have already made judgements about us based on the website and decide we dont need any gifts for what they see...

I don't really agree that it comes from people "not giving a darn" about the nuptials and being interested in a free party. I mean, maybe some people have that in mind, but my experience is a little different.

I feel like some people just want to be included. Especially when someone hears that we're keeping our list "small" because our location is "intimate" it suddenly becomes a challenge/honor to be invited to what they perceive to be an exclusive event. (Rolling my eyes at this, btw.) The comments that I get that are most outrageous are from 2 single girls I know that have been dying to have a wedding since we were 16! They want it to be their turn, so they get super excited when someone around us gets engaged.

And yes Chelle! It's so presumptuous. This SAME girl is recently single, and said something like "Well I guess I have to find a date or I'll be bringing my sister again." ORLY. Wrong.

My FH bought me a gorgeous antique natural ruby ring. We both love rubies, and aren't fond of diamonds. So of course I got the comment of..

"Oh. Why didn't he buy you a diamond?"

My response, "Diamonds are just so common." I made sure to make the word "common" came out with a bit of distaste and condecension.

BTW, I do not really feel one way or the other about diamonds. They are just not our preference, though they are lovely.

None of FH's immediate family members has said congratulations, except one sister. He proposed last Christmas. His mom speaks negatively of the wedding and only refers to it as "that thing they're planning." She's bitter, and insane. I try to just shake my head and move on.