What wedding cliches are you using/avoiding and why?

Burlap, 'to have and to hold and keep your drink cold', feeding each other cake, bouquet toss, garter toss, Mr & Mrs. signs on our chairs, things labeled 'bridesmaid' or 'bride & groom', etc. (I do have a dress hanger that says bride though!), silly signs that say "Uncle Joe here comes your bride" held by a ring bearer. or ring bearers and flowers girls at all, for that matter.

I am using: unplugged wedding sign at the ceremony and a thank you sign to hold in a picture of us. unfortunately I need to make a 'no smoking' sign for the balcony so no one burns the joint down...

@Novak I agree about anything labeled "bride, bridesmaid" etc. Not a huge fan of those you can never use them again lol

Not using "Chose a seat not a side, we're all family once the knot is tied" or any other saying that rhymes because my wedding is not a Dr. Seuss book.

Also avoiding bridesmaid labels, but I'm totally using Bride things! Skipping any of those "choose a seat not a side" things too.

Totally doing an Instagram sign though, and a photobooth!

No burlap or mason jars here, no rhyming signs, no bouquet/garter toss. We are doing the cake cutting, but we're going to use forks. I don't want to eat cake that's been manhandled.

Skipping: garter toss, bouquet toss, rhymes, BM or GM labels, BM robes, burlap, lace (except my dress!) and mason jars.

Doing: IG sign and maybe a Mr & Mrs sign (if we have a sweetheart table)

I am using a sign for FH's sons to carry. One side says, "Dad, here cones your girl", the other side says, "Hurry up, we want cake."

No tosses, no readings, and especially not a particular song (can't think of the name) that I have heard in almost every wedding I've been to (I truly hate it.) While there is a mother-son dance, there is not a father-daughter one because my dad us nit invited. Two ring bearers, no flower girl. Two MOH, no BM.

Burlap was never even considered. I can see how it might work for some weddings, but definitely not mine.

ETA: no hashtag - I hate them! No seating signs, either.

No bouquet/garter tosses because that's always my least favorite part of weddings.

Avoiding: old/new/borrowed/blue. I don't really have anything old or borrowed and I don't intend on going out of my way to find them. I already have my dress, veil, accessories, etc.

Using: Not letting FH see me until I walk down the aisle.

No bouquet/ garter toss, floral centre pieces or bouquets for the girls. We are doing a sign for my nine year old nephew: "Uncle Mike here comes your girl!" and one for my two year old nephew: "Hurry Up I want Cake!"

@2YearsAway ughhhh thank you. sorry to anyone using it, but that is played out and silly. people hardly choose a side the same way they used to when our parent's generation was wed.

Not doing: bouquet/garter toss, speeches, flower girls/ring bearers, readings. While our reception is at a barn, no burlap will be in sight.

Doing: Some variation of the pick a seat and not a side sign since the proportion of people between both our sides is too uneven and we won't have ushers.

If it was purely upto me I would skip the formal entrances to the reception. We'll be joining our guests at the cocktail hour and it's right outside the reception location so I'd rather just go into the barn with them. FH likes the bridal party/us being introduced into the reception. I also want to skip favors but FH wants to do them.

Seriously no rhymes. They all just sound so cheesy to me.

I think the only traditional thing we have is my dress. My mom cared so much about me wearing a long white dress I gave in and got one. Some regret there.

No cake, garter, bouquet, seating arrangement. I will have a glass for the night for whatever tastes right sign with diy name wine charms for each guest. Self serve beer and sangria so 1 glass per person!

The only cliche I'm really embracing is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Kinda.

We're having our officiant say in the welcome. "As family and friends, you are the ones who have taught John and Jane that in the final accounting, love is what life is all about. You have shown them that love is patient and that love is kind, that love is selfless, always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres."

Just enough that people will recognize it without it going into complete cheese factor.

@kimi I also wont be inviting my father. I wish people would stop asking! I haven't seen him in years!

We're still doing the bouquet and garter toss. We have enough single ladies attending who have said they're looking forward to participating in the bouquet toss. I could do without the garter toss, but FH has said it's something he wants to do and I don't want him to feel like he's missing out on a tradition. I have a sign with some Blake Shelton lyrics at the bar ("You be my glass of wine, I'll be your shot of whiskey") because we both like that song. I did get my girls wine glasses with their names/roles on it, but they're not overtly "HEY I AM A BRIDESMAID!" so I think they should be able to use them again. We will be cutting the cake, but we will NOT be doing any cake smashing - I told FH I would kill him if he did. I'm paying enough for hair and makeup where I don't want it trashed right as we get to the reception. I have been considering using an "unplugged ceremony" sign after seeing some disastrous professional wedding ceremony photos with intrusive guests trying to take pictures on their phones. Ew. We also do not have a flower girl or ring bearer. I will also be doing "something old, new, borrowed, and blue." We're definitely doing a first dance (FH has shocked me in his enthusiasm over this) and mother/son and father/daughter dances. Both my mother and father will be walking me down the aisle and giving me away because my parents have been divorced since I was 6; I always wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle, but I wanted my mother to be recognized for the major role she played in my upbringing - she was practically a single mother.

No burlap, mason jars, no stupid rhymes for seating, no here comes the bride signs, no real bridal party (maybe, maybe have 1 moh and 1 bestman). No garter toss or bouquet toss. No to unity braid or candles. No to cheesy dances. No to choreographed dancing. No to raw wood or bark. No to fondant cake. No to more than 1 dress.

No to photo booth.

Yes to Mr and Mrs signs. Yes to lanterns. Yes to his and her drinks. Yes to photo display of guests who can't be there (deployed and departed family). Yes to alternate guestbook (probably peachwik canvas). Yes to advice cards for the bride and groom. Yes to unity ceremony and arch. Yes to photo backdrop. Probably yes to unplugged ceremony.

We are using mason jars but they are the jars that my grandma actually used for canning. I took them from her house before the mason jar explosion but can't imagine not using them now.

I guess I have some more I forgot about

We are doing--- Garter, Bouquet, Old/New/Borrowed/Blue, Traditional dances, and floral centerpieces. Also Cake cutting (with forks).

We are not doing---Anything monogramed, rhyming signs, gimics like "message in a bottle for anniversary", head table (common for my area), formal rehersal dinner (we're doing pizza, bowling, and beer), bridesmaid "get ready" outfits, and I refuse to have anything to do with a rustic vibe.