What wedding cliches are you using/avoiding and why?

No burlap, but I do have jars and lace.

We are not having: any bible readings, no unity sand, wine box, braid, candle. Nothing that says bridesmaid, no garter toss.

We are doing an oath ing stone which I am very excited about!

NO: everything being decorated in 2-3 colors, "grand" entrance at the reception (we will already be introduced at the end of the ceremony), cutesy signs or poems, bouquet/garter tosses, STDs, inviting people we're not close to for political reasons (we are not the Kennedys), feeding each other cake in front of people (I hate people staring at me while I eat), no unity anything for the ceremony, buying things that we can't use after the wedding, dad walking me down the aisle, bridal party, pro getting ready photos, speeches (just a blessing), anything princess-y

YES: white-ish dress, veil, church ceremony, first dance, flower girls, 'featured cocktails' (I just couldn't say 'signature drink' for some reason)

Our wedding is not very traditional, so we're avoiding the majority of cliches like bouquet toss, etc. No bride/bridesmaid labeled stuff. I actually think it's cute, but it's a total waste of money.

I am loving reading through all of these. It seems these days that weddings in my area are all the same. Happy to see many couples changing it up a lot!

No hashtag, no rhymes..however, we are not having sides because my family is 10 times bigger than his.

Guilty of the burlap! But my wedding will be decorated with coffee beans and burlap bags.

One person's cliche is another person's tradition, and visa versa.....weddings have expanded to include so many details that, of course, they are going to feel hackneyed to anyone who inhabits the wedding world as a couple or a vendor. But if something is meaningful to you, go ahead and do it (I mean burlap, not cash bars....) That being said, I'd love garter tosses, anything that infers the groom (or other bride ) is being trapped and must make a valiant effort to escape, dollar dances and too many toasts/dances hit the road.

Here is another modern version of Paul's letter;

Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good.

Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth.

It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders all bitterness sweet and acceptable.

Nothing is sweeter than love, Nothing stronger,

Nothing higher, Nothing wider, Nothing more pleasant,

Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God.

Love flies, runs and leaps for joy. It is free and unrestrained.

Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.

Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil, attempts things beyond its strength.

Love sees nothing as impossible, for it feels able to achieve all things.

It is strange and effective while those who lack love faint and fail.

Love is not fickle and sentimental, nor is it intent on vanities.

Like a living flame and a burning torch, it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle. Anonymous

I want a sign that says "Thank you for being a Fan of our love," Next to a basket of Fans for the Ceremony.

Skipping: bouquet toss. I think my sister (who is engaged) and two of Justin's friends are the only two "single girls" at our small wedding. I've seen the bouquet toss to three girls at my friends wedding and while I "caught" the bouquet (crawling on your knees after it counts) I remember the flowers landed near none of us in the small group.

i would want to ditch feeding each other cake thing---but fh really wants it. and I'm just happy he's expressed excitement about anything.

eta: things I didn't think fell under cliche but might (and yes I'm doing) wedding CAKE (my mom went to my cousins wedding and talked about "cookiegate" for about a week). wedding dress. moh/best man.

Skipping: garter and bouquet toss, anything burlap/mason jar centric, photo booth, flower girl/ring bearer, unity candle, fondant cake.

Using: Monogrammed robes, Mr. & Mrs. Sign, cake cutting, floral centerpieces/bouquets, ceremony readings, traditional first dances, rehearsal dinner, and a few chalk board signs (but not rhyming). We're having a super traditional wedding.

No to:

burlap, bouquet throw, garter, NO MASON JARS!!! lol.

yes to:

- 'trust me, you can dance - alcohol.' i love that one too.

-unity ceremony

-the first dances

-photobooth

-late night snack

We are second-time arounders, so a lot of things just seem wrong for our situation: no garters, bouquet toss, absolutely no mason jars or burlap, no photo booth.. @FutureMrsKristenS- I agree on the fondant cakes! They can be beautiful, but I've had awful luck with their taste in the past...buttercream for me!

Also, I refuse to say " I feel like a princess" in my gown, even if I do

Skipping: garter and bouquet toss, anything "rustic", waiting till the ceremony to see each other, bridal party, unity candles, prayers/readings/poems/songs, fondant cake, formal send off, tons of posed photos, cutesy signs or chalkboards, bridal shower, engagement photos, champagne toast, father walking me down the aisle, dollar dances or group line dances, hashtags, old/new/borrowed/blue, cake smashing.

Doing: Mother walking me down the aisle, first look, first dances, a single toast with whatever drink you want, big gown and veil, and the Rickroll. I don't know how we are going to incorporate it yet, but at some point we will Rickroll our own wedding.

Wedding Dress - Mine is definitely not a traditional wedding dress and it is not white. It is a knee length peacock blue dress with pops of hot pink, yellow, lavender, and green. Think abstract pattern inspired by a real life peacock. It looks gorgeous on me. I love it!

Veil - no

Roses - I plan to carry a small bouquet of yellow roses. FH's grandmother had a rose garden, when he was a little boy. His favorite were the yellow roses.

Bouquet Toss - no

Garter Toss - no

Wedding Cake - We will have a small all white wedding cake with buttercream roses on top. We do plan to cut the cake together and feed each other. Definitely no cake smashing.

Photography - We will have a professional. We don't want to spend an hour or more posing for photos. It will be very scaled back.

Bridesmaids Dresses - I only have my Maid of Honor. I told her to pick out a dress, whatever she would like to wear. No colors. No restrictions.

Tuxedo - FH and his Best Man will be wearing Navy Blue suits.

Haha @ Claudia. yeah, saying (out loud) that you feel like a princess does start to feel strange past a certain age

@elphaba what's a broom jump?

No to monograms, favors, mr/mrs signs, rhyming anything, bouquet/garter toss, games, special 'getting ready' items, programs, pink floof, mason jars, burlap, rustic, 'unity' anything, religious stuff, mawkish nonsense, fancy DJ lighting, photo apps/hashtags no one will remember to use, caring about centerpieces

Yes to a kids' fun room, traditional cake, ceremony decor, big bouquet, white-ish dress, veil, flower girl and ring-bearer, BP, first dance, toasts. Yes to unplugged wedding.

We are having burlap with mason jars/baby's breath sitting on slices of wood cut from a tree that fell on our farm during a storm... SUPER overdone, but I didn't know that until I came to WW and had already given my FMIL creative freedom to run with the "rustic" theme to decorate the reception space.... (Guess my BAM is gonna make some people cringe! Oh well...)

ETA - We are not doing garter/bouquet toss, bridal party toasts, and I refused to have cowboy boots with the BM or FG dresses, although my FH and our sons will wear theirs.

We skipped: bouquet/garter toss, 1st dance, cake cutting, unity sand/candles, flower girls, ring bearers, no signs, no rhymes, no "trapped" stuff. No flowers (other than my bouquet, which I didn't know about until we got to the park...my mom surprised me with one), no aisle runner, no arch.

We had: good food, free drinks, father daughter dance, first look, getting ready kimonos/pictures, bridal party, and a toast from my sister, and one of the GM. We also had a poem reading by my cousin, and a Game of Throne reading by my officiant. (also, lots of Doctor Who and D&D references. lol)

No Burlap or mason jars.

No bouquet or garter toss

no BM proposals (since when is that a thing?)

no fondant cake

no champagne toast (according to a caterer we spoke with, they are falling out of favor in our area - go figure).

No "bridesmaid" or "bride" emblazoned items.

Certainly no princess-for-a-day stuff, as that is not a good look for my 29+ self .

No head table as venue doesn't quite have the space for a long table.

No matchy-matchy BMs - I am allowing them to choose hairstyle, shoes and jewelry - just wear the same color dress and carry same flowers. My mom and sister aren't quite understanding that yet...

Yes to: A bridesMAN and WOMAN of honor on FH side. His best friend is a woman, mine is a man!

We will have cupcakes!

I do want to get BM a getting ready robe, perhaps with monogram.

Back and forth on veil; haven't found one I like yet.

One flower tween, but no ring bearer.

FH will wear kilt. People are like, " are you really allowing him to do that?" It's his wedding too! I happen to like the way he looks in one

Various Chinese, African-American and Scottish traditions to reflect our many heritages!

Doing: Garter toss (but flipped, as FH will be wearing a kilt so I'll be removing his garter lol); cake cutting; burlap; food truck for late night eats; mother-daughter dance; mother-son dance;

Not doing: any songs with a choreographed dance (i.e. YMCA, Macarena); father-daughter dance, as my father is not invited; favours