What wedding cliches are you using/avoiding and why?

@LaurenZ: my dad, my mom & stepdad, his mom & stepdad, his dad & stepmom. All at one table. Ha! And then we are doing a dance to "In my Life" (thanks again Kelsey!) With everyone, and my sister will dance with dad.

@Chrises, wow big family! It's so wonderful that everyone can be there with you!! And what a great idea for the family dance!

We are not doing anything with burlap, no dollar dance or anything like that, no signs for the ring bearer to carry, no "Mr / Mrs" signs etc.

However we are doing a "choose a seat, not a side" sign specifically because I was at my brother's wedding and a guest rudely told me that I was sitting on the bride side and I NEEDED to get up and move to the other side of the aisle. OK whatever. Well I asked them (my brother and his wife) if we needed to do that and they said they could not have cared less. Well, that guest was so rude to me that anytime I think of their wedding, I think of how inappropriate that guest was to me. So in order to ensure that my guests don't have a similar experience, I am having one of those signs. Sit wherever the hell you want! I could not care less.

They are all super important to us! It's hard at a wedding because typically it's just the MOG & FOB that have a role, and we wanted to make sure that all seven have a moment to be appreciated. It has the potential to be my favorite part of the night.

No burlap, no signs, no rhymes, no bouquet toss, no garter toss, no dances with parents (all are deceased), no ring-bearer, no photo booth, nothing labeled. We are feeding each other cake with forks and we are NOT doing that disgusting smashing it in the face--my cousin and his wife did it and she ended up with cake in her eyes and all over her beautiful dress. I am doing old/new/borrowed/blue and the sixpence in my shoe--English heritage. My borrowed something is going to be from my only remaining blood aunt, who is also my godmother. Not sure if the church will allow the unity candle, but we do plan to do that by having our kids light the two candles since our moms are no longer here. No bridal shower or bachelorette party, either. One of my cousins told my sister that we have to do something before the wedding, so we are going to have a very low-key wine and appetizer get-together at my house, although my sister and niece will be hosting it. We aren't doing a lot of stuff that bridal magazines and sites try to push on people. ETA: No dollar dance, even though it is common at Hungarian weddings. We will play a polka or two (I'm of English, German and Hungarian ancestry) and a tarantella, plus our entrance song is That's Amore by Dean Martin--FH is Italian.

These are all very interesting to read!

No: white dress (ivory, champagne, eggshell, and every other shade of "off-white" are still WHITE, people!), being given away, veil, BP proposals, burlap, mason jars, cake smash, line dances, glass clinking, flower girls probably or ring bearers

Yes: Cake (a small one at every table), first dance probably, family dance (mother-son & father-daughter together) probably, lots of food, photobooth, unlimited bar, bridal party

This thread makes me feel a little negative. So many 'no's, I just don't consider myself super traditional....

@Bryce--my dress is champagne and believe me, it is NOT white! I had planned to wear silver shoes but I can't because they don't look quite right with the dress color.

@GonnabeMrs.rjd

I knew someone would say something about it, haha. I respect people's preferences, but when I look online or say I want a dress that's not white I mean not in that field of a white/off-white color, but it's usually what I find.

We mostly avoided things due to budgetary constraints. There was no money for signs or things we'll only use once beyond ceremony flowers.

Purposefully avoided in music Cannon in D. It's just sooo overplayed.

Avoided wine as a color even though I do love it, so many color schemes just look exactly the same. So after seeing so many photos of reception/ ceremony that could have been *exactly* the same.

Embraced- traditional wedding vows. Sort of. We did our own vows but I based mine off of Ephesians 5. Yes, I said Ephesians 5 lol.

Avoided- Corinthians.

Avoided- matchy matchy anything.

Avoided- blowing more money than a single paycheck on our day. We kept our budget to less than half my monthly take home pay.

Embraced- old (earrings), new (dress), borrowed (tiara), blue (necklace).

We avoided smashing cake in each other's faces. That's just icky.

No bouquet toss or garter toss.

No games.

We just had a nice brunch/tea type reception and it was over and done with in a few hours.

Traditional:

Dress, Ceremony, Old/New/Borrowed/Blue, Toasts, Pictures

Cliche: I am putting his dad's hat on a chair in the front row, his dad was our #1 supporter and passed a couple years ago. I am not telling him I am going to do this.

Non-traditional: just having a cocktail reception with awesome heavy apps and a bar, we want to be able to mingle, neither of us are into dancing and all the other reception stuff. My dress is sliver and black my colors include a lot of black, our invites have bride and groom skulls and are black, the envelopes are black and will be addressed in silver. My accent colors are red and purple.

Not doing: flower girl, ring bearer, bouquet toss, garter toss, big entry to the reception

That was totally inappropriate, but I am now going to do a sign that says "Sit wherever the hell you want" because that's awesome and exactly how I feel!