What to write in Thank You cards to guests who didnt give gifts? 80% of our guests did not bring gift or card!

You don't need to send thank you cards to people who did not give you a gift. The reception was your thank you.

No gift, no thank you

I wouldn't send a card if they didn't give you a gift.

If you got not type of card or gift you don't need to write a thank you note. I just find it odd that 80% of your guests didn't give you anything.

80%? That seems like a huge amount of people to NOT give a gift! Is there more to the story? Did you say no gifts or anything?

No gift, no card. - If you really feel like you need to send a card... thank them for being there and leave it at that.

That is not cool! You spend all that time and

money creating a great time and they didn't bring a gift or card? Wow. I am sorry sweety that is awful. . If you must say something like Thank you for sharing our special day. It was great to see you.

WTF. How did 80% not bring at least a card?! So rude. You don't have to send a thank you.

This is RUDE! How do you not give ANYTHING when you go to someone's wedding? Never even heard of this.. its just rude. Unless they're all poor.

Oh, and do yourself a favor and DONT SENT THEM ANYTHING!

Wait, did they not give any thing at all? Or just nothing at the wedding?

If you have a honeyfund or online registry that people gave gifts through, they may not have brought anything to the wedding if they gave you something ahead of time through a shower or an online registry, and you do need to write thank you notes for that.

Guests do have up to a year to send a gift. If they don't, accept it graciously.

There is no need to send a thank you note to guests for attending your wedding. The reception you hosted is the thanks for attending the ceremony.

By all means if you are sending a thanks you note for a gift, it is fine to thank them for coming and say how much you enjoyed seeing them.

As pps have said, you only need to write thank you notes for gifts!!

I'm also really surprised that 80% of your attending guests did not give gifts! Is it possible they mailed them to you before the wedding? Do you have a registry with an address shipping elsewhere? Very few people actually bring physical gifts with them to the wedding now, must have them shipped to you directly through your registry.

I thought I was the "un-gifted" queen with 40% of our attending guests not giving gifts!

A number of my guests didn't bring anything with them either, or send a gift. Or if they did send a gift, it was for a few mixing bowls or towels costing no more than $50.

I'm extremely surprised because I live in a very high COL area, and the majority of the people we invited are older professionals who make good money, and live within 30 miles of our venue. They were pretty much all aware that my FH and I paid for our entire wedding ourselves (we are in our early 20's). We had a fully hosted premium open bar (more than $50 pp) and a 5 course plated meal so our pp cost was definitely not cheap.

One of our guests is a high up senior level position at a fortune 500 company. He brought $40 wine glasses, which I guess is something but still surprising.

But at the end of the day, we knew getting married wouldn't be a high ROI but it still stings a bit.

Hah wow I'm glad to get all that off my chest. Speaking that out loud makes me feel like such an ungrateful tool which I definitely am not.

If they didn't get you a gift or card, they don't need a thank you note

I wouldn't send thank yous to anyone who didn't send a card or gift. But like someone else said, guests have a year to send a gift, so I'd hold on to the thank yous to see if things come in the mail.

Did you do some kind of speech or something thanking everyone for being there that night? If you did, then I see no reason to send thank you cards to those who did not bring/send a gift.

I was raised to write a thank you note to all guests who attend any party or event in my life. Whether they could afford to give a gift or not, I have always sent a personal note of thanks. Its a simple "Thank you for sharing in our joy. We are glad you could make it."

What is wrong with that?

The only way I would send a ty note is if you got picture ones or something...what else would you do with them?

Otherwise...we made a list the day after wedding of gifters and the gifts...so thats the list we will use for ty cards.

EM - no, you definitely don't sound ungrateful. That is PATHETIC of them not to bring anything, ESPECIALLY when they make good money. My doctor told me that his daughter ( who is also a doctor) received a bowl for her wedding as a gift from another DOCTOR (!) and he actually called up that person and asked if his envelope got lost... LOL!! and the doctor (the guest) replied: "no, the bowl I brought WAS THE GIFT".) He thought it was pathetic, lol. (and I cant help but agree with him.)