What to Say When People Ask Why They're Not Invited...

When the ask I just say we are still trying to work out the list with all the family and family friends we have to invite... we have 250 we are invited so I feel your pain

I would say, "we have a guest limit (they dont need to know what that is) and that close friends and family come first, and that your sorry but you cant invite everyone"

Basically if anyone asks me this question when it comes down to it I'm saying...."we had a set budget and unfortunately there was really no room for extra guests"....I pretty much invited the main people - parents, aunts, uncles, first cousins, only a couple second cousins who I'm close with in age, and close friends so anybody outside of that list will hear that

The venue only holds 300, how would they know the difference.

"Because I don't like your FACE."

Seriously though, just say you're sorry you just couldn't fit EVERYONE in your budget/venue.

Well so many people invited themselves on my wedding and few who are invited they ask me if they can bring their family member or friends along with them.....And I am really fail to understand that how can they ask that why they are not invited.....

I told so many people that because I am having small family wedding with some family members and close friends only I can not afford to invite them....Or I say that my wedding venue is not allowing me to invite more guests.....

Just tell them your venue capacity is 300 and you are at that limit.

Everyone is pretty spot on with the advice of letting the person know there is a guest limit. Don't say anything about the number - If they're rude enough to ask why they weren't invited they'll be rude enough to tell you to invite them when so-and-so declines the invitation.

Those types of questions crack me up! I don't understand the thought behind it, "Hmm, I wonder why I'm not invited. It can't be because I'm rude or anything. Let me ask why I'm not invited."

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I agree with everyone else. Say your venue has a maximum capacity and you have reached it. If someone gets particularly rude, I would say "You're not invited because the way you're acting RIGHT NOW." I mean, that's not in the etiquette books... but I'm a bish sometimes.

I pretty much agree with everyone else- guest limit has worked for me since my venue had a cap at 250 if we want a dance floor. I am in a sorority so I understand how everyone wants to be invited but unfortunately/fortunately I happened to pick the same day as the May graduation at my college sooooo most are graduating and cannot attend. I was thinking of having a house party with them when we buy a house to kind of celebrate me getting married but we really haven't thought too much about that yet.

@Kimi K - haha I can't wait to start dealing with that

@Charlotte - I also fail to understand...I get why they want to come, but it's a completely different story to actually say it out loud!

@Rachel - I would LOVE to see the look on their faces if that's what I responded with haha!

Thanks everyone for your advice!

I'm glad I have an answer now that isn't actually a lie (some of the other suggested answers I've seen I would feel guilty like I was lying to them)...my venue is only supposed to hold up to 200 and we made it work (also assuming that not all of the 300+ will come)...so it's going to be super tight if a lot more people show up than we thought...I'm actually kind of nervous that this will happen, but my venue owner said we will make it work regardless and that he's done 250+ before!

@Honey B - a house party is an excellent idea! We are going to be buying a house next year, and I can't wait to throw a giant party (once we furnish it!) We love hosting

@Puffins - haha that's hilarious...some people I just don't get!

I was in a store not to long ago, and a woman I went to high school with 33 years ago and haven't talk to or really seen that much of, except when I'm in that store to shop, ask if she could come. I told her that we were having a very small wedding/reception of just close family and a few close friends. She was like "oh, okay I understand".

I would just tell people that you have a limit, and it's unfortunate that everyone can't be invited.