What to do - gift/thank you question

Oh no!!! I have absolutely no bright ideas for you, but I'll think on it!

Ask those who were there when you opened your gifts if they remember who gave what. I'm sure your parents or bridal party wont be offended if you ask them. If they can't remember all of them I say put something simple in the card such as "Thank you for thinking of us on our special day and for the amazing gift." I know it seems very impersonal but if you don't know what they got you, what more can you do.

FINS I am so damn late....I thought about you over the weekend and I hope you had a wonderful time. I'm a picture whore so I can't wait! Oh YEAH CONGRATS!

I agree with franklin. if you cant find out, just keep it impersonal. still a thank you.

Have you opened the gifts yet? Sometimes there is a second small gift card inside (for just such a situation as you had).

Oh no! I think in this case... I wouldn't ask anyone what they gave you. I would thank the person for their gift & concentrate more on how much their presence at your wedding meant to you. I think what is most important is that you send a sincere thank you in a timely manner. It may seem petty but last yr. one of my gf"s from high school came back from DC & had her wedding shower & wedding in one week & I as well as my other gf's who attended never received a thank you for either. So, even though you may not be able to thank the person for their specific gift, it will be much better than no thank you at all!

Wow- that's a toughie. I agree, keep them somewhat impersonal and just say thoughtful and meaningful gift.

*Note to other brides- have someone man the gift table and tape the cards to the gifts! And don't let the groomsmen anywhere near them... they do things like this*

"generous gift" is also a nice generic wording.

Maybe use the gift receipts as hints? Match the store's city with your relatives if it is an unusual city that you only have 1 guest from. Otherwise, it sounds like you may just need to do a general "thank you" message.

I completely agree using the word "generous" and focus more on them being at your wedding instead of what the gift was exactly. This way no one has to know!

As long as they are all household items, in additiona to "generous" and "thoughtful and meaningful" you could put "It will come in handy around the house as we build our life together as a family"- A little cheese, but works.

Unfortunately it sounds like you're gonna have to do a general thank you.... But it really sucks that you won't know who gave you what. Every time I use a specific gift, I think of the person that gave us the gift.

I was in same shoes. So I just wrote in the card and said, "Thank you for being so thoughtful for the gift."

Fins, I have to agree with nikki d. completely, and even if you focus the wording on their presence more so than the gift itself, it is much better than no thank you whatsoever. My DH was the Best Man for his Brother & our SIL's Wedding, we even gave them money to enjoy toward something on their Honeymoon, and still almost 2 years later never received a Thank You note (or even been thanked in person). I'm sure it happens from time to time where cards get separated from the gift, but at least thanking the person for their presence and "generous gift" will be less embarassing for you to thank them that way, and for them to still know how much you appreciated their gift and them attending your wedding.

That's too bad. I have to agree that a general thank you card will have to do. I've attached a sample photo thank you card that would work great. A personal thank you is always best, but a generic thank you is better than nothing at all.

To the vendor, WHile I love photos, I think generic ty's are rude. The guest did not give a generic gift. A hand written thank you is the best way to go, imho. An addition of a photo is also very nice.

Fins....I would go with the more general wording, but mention thoughtfulness, generosity and sharing your special day, etc.

I have received some general thank you cards for shower gifts, wedding gifts, etc. people know this happens a lot more often than you think, focus on thanking them for attending your big day, then thank them for their presence and much you appreciated their thoughtfulness and that you are very fortunate to have such great friends/cousins/relatives. In that way if a guest was unable to provide a gift, it covers that situation also.

I don't think you have to get specific. Something like "We greatly appreciate your love and support for our special day. Thank you" could work.