Honestly I don’t even remember what music was playing during dinner, lol. I don’t think it was instrumental though. Pretty sure I just told my DJ I wanted quiet, slow/soft dinner music. But I know as soon as gusts were done eating they were hitting the dance floor even with just the soft dinner music. If you have a DJ just tell them the vibe you’re going for. If you don’t I think any instrumental or slow music is fine.
We just played early-mid 90s top 40 pop rock. People got a nostalgic kick out if it, and it was easily talked over. I'm talking like Spin Doctors era
For cocktail hour we had our dj play crooners/romantic oldies, and during dinner he played happy music you might hear on the radio, but nothing super dancey so people could eat without missing “their song”. I remember All of Me by John Legend and Ed Sheeran playing