What made you decide kids or no kids?

Well it was very hard for us to decide because we want everyone to have a good time and enjoy our wedding and not to worried about their childrens behavior. In this case my brother in law has a 5yr old girl we started feeling bad because if he wasn't able to find a babysitter he had to choose either to go or stay and that was not acceptable. Also because we had like 20 kids between the Invites and they were sibblings that are very closed to us, so when we think about cutting the list if was not fair. So we just added a kids section to our wedding, we our going to have a table with games, board, coloring books and even our DJ will have a projector with movie's 👪😍. #bridetobe

We decided no kids for a couple of reasons. 1- it saves money. 2- we are getting married in a vineyard, so it isn’t super kid friendly. & 3- kids tend to be loud and rambunctious at events and I did not want any type of loud outbursts during the ceremony or them hogging the dance floor. I’ve been to weddings before where the kids took up most of the dance floor preventing anyone else from wanting to dance 😕.
We have not received any grief for this decision. We don’t have many friends or family with young children. And those that have them are excited for the night/weekend away!

I just don't want to deal with any hassle. I love kids and I feel like if I have children invited to my wedding I would be left babysitting and I just don't have time for any of that or them trying to jump all over me. I will only have my future Son and my niece there because they are my ring barrier and flower girl.

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My future son will be 6, his birthday is in December and our wedding is in September.

I haven't even done the math to figure out how many kids are on my side of the family, but it's at least 20. That's not including friends kids. When you think about it, even if kids are half as expensive as adults, that's still at least $500 for a bunch kids who I don't really know and aren't close to. They'll be distracting and will encourage their parents to head out early, so no thank you!

We decided no kids because it would literally double our 150 person count (ok maybe not double but would for sure add a minimum of 50). I love kids and have a big family but it’s mainly due to cost for us, I can’t afford to pay the astronomical kids food price for them to eat half a chicken nugget

We have a lot of people coming from out of town who have kids. They wouldn’t be able to come if they didn’t bring their kiddos and it was way more important to have them there than to be kid free. Also a bunch of kids announced their plans to be flower girls so what the heck! the more the merrier.

I think we are doing no kids reception. Only kids allowed are ones in the wedding party. We decided that bc we have an open bar with rowdy friends haha and honestly the cost of food and drinks for children who probably won’t really eat is insane.

I am having mine there of course because they’re mine. But I am asking that others not bring there’s because I don’t want to take on the extra responsibility of making sure they are supervised at all times. I know how kids can get and if I already have to deal with mine on my wedding day, I don’t want the stress of dealing with others as well. Plus they’ll probably get antsy and want to run around. Since ours is also in the evening, I feel that it should be a time for the adults to get away and enjoy themselves

It came down to price for us. I have three children and they are part of the day but all other children we said we were not including due to price. Nearly everyone said “yay, adult night out”.

Our guest list is at 160 which is already over what we initially wanted. However, we come from huge, supportive families and there’s no way we could not invite our families. Adding their kids would legit put us at 200. But, that’s not my deciding factor lol. The only kids we are allowing is my two nephews, niece and god child because they are in the wedding and are my only close loved ones (kids wise). I don’t want running around, crying, screaming, boredom, sleepiness and a distraction from our guests enjoying a night we paid more than $12,000 for.

We have large families. And his older 9 brothers and sisters and my 3 older and 2 younger married brothers and sisters all had kids. Some pregnant. And we both have 1st cousins who lived in our neighborhoods, went to same schools, so very close to lots of these relationship is. When we listed the family we wanted, and friends. Then set aside those who would not, could not come, that left an even 200 people. We counted 190 children 2-15, and 9 under a year, and several pregnant mom's. NOPE. We ended up with 170 guests 16 and up, 13 under 15 months plus 2 toddlers with special needs in a nursery at the venue. And only had the other 167 kids traveling with their parents at a lunch to 7 pm outside cookout and families day ( our friends families and our families) the day after the wedding. We wanted to have a formal wedding for 150-200 adult guests, paying ourselves. Not to cut 60%of the adults, and have more kids than adults there. People understood.

No kids or guests under 21 allowed at our affair! I work with kids (some good, mostly bad attitudes) all day 6 days a week. Our wedding is small anyway, and all my dream wedding decor ideas include candles and glass vases on the ground. I’m working so much to help pay for our wedding that I don’t want to have to feel like I have to accommodate for kids that I know might cause a scene. I only have 1 kid on my side of invited guests and told everyone with kids (on FH) it’s a kid free wedding 10 months in advance.

We made a list and there would have been 50 children if we had let everyone bring their's. Not everyone would have, but we still had to account for those 50 kids. That meant 50 less adults we wanted to celebrate with. Not to mention kids would have a hard time going from 4-? at a venue that is not built for children. And we wanted people to stay and celebrate with us, but if they have to leave because the kids are getting restless 🤷🏼‍♀️. Oh and our venue charges per person for the bar, and that included children. So ultimately it was the number of children that would potentially be there that pushed us to say no kids.

I haven't gotten any complaints. I know a couple people that RSVPd no because they don't go anywhere without their kids, but I wasn't surprised or upset that they said no, and they never said anything to me, so it's all good. A lot of friends are looking forward to kid-free and open-bar time 😄