What made you decide kids or no kids?

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Our best man will have a 3-month old at the time of the wedding. FH is one of the younger cousins in his family, so many of his cousins have kids. I have a few friends with kids. We knew going in that a lot of the families with kids either wouldn't come (for the out-of-staters) or would leave them with a babysitter/relative (if they're local). We still have a week to our RSVP deadline, but as it stands now, we'll have a couple babies and two kids around 9/10-ish.

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Your points are spot on with why we decided on no kids (not even in the wedding party). We'd be adding an additional 30-35 heads to account for and our venue is full price for each person. We're paying for everything ourselves and that adds up. We love all kids but we want our guests to enjoy a nice night out amongst adults. If they happen to not be able to attend due to sitter obligations, we apologize but its our preference on how we want to do things for our wedding.

My ceremony will include my closest family members my Mom , Dad, my 3 kids-16,9, and 7 also his 3 children which are all grown and his siblings .. Our pastor that's itnand our Reception will only be adults something intimate

We decided no kids unless they are in the wedding or still nursing. If we added kids it would be an additional 20 just on my side. It’s just not in our budget or our venues capacity.

There’s a gazillion kids in my family (I have 20 first cousins and almost all have 2-4 kids)— they’d almost out number our adult guests. Maybe in a world where we had unlimited space and unlimited budget, but really the fact of the matter is....my husband and I don’t have any real relationship with these kids. Frankly, I just think we weren’t close enough to any children to invite them. (We did include our only niece — different bond there!!)

Also for us, liability was an issue. It was a backyard wedding on the water . We did get insurance for the event, but I didn’t want to risk anything happening on my watch— too much opportunity for an accident

We are having kids at the wedding, but only immediate family/close friends. I am sort of against having kids, but it is my fiance's wedding too. He has 6 sisters, 3 of whom have children, and he really would like them in the wedding. I will also have my niece there, plus my best friend's/bridesmaid's children, but that's really about it. All together, it will probably be 15 children under the age of 18.

I have kids and I didn’t want them to be alone.

There was no way that kids wouldn’t have been a part of our day. I have been a significant part of their lives. I’ve been keeping the 🌺🙇‍♀️ while laid-off to help her Mom save some 💵.

All the kids that I wanted to be there to share in the experience were not able to attend due to school schedules.

For us it was the limited space for guests. While there are one or two children from our friends that we would have enjoyed celebrating with us, it meant leaving off adults we are closer to. The youngest guest will be my teenage niece. The only guests younger invited were our great nephews who are 3 & 4 and live out of state, but neither sets of parents can make it. We also didn't want young ones tearing through a space we would be responsible for on a beach without a lifeguard. We love kids, but felt this event was not going to be the most appropriate venue for them.

We are having kids because my FH’s side is FULL of children. It’d be kinda sad not to have them all there!

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PREACH. So much this.

We are not having kids at our wedding. Our reasons include: 1.) we’re having a smaller wedding of only 60 guests, which is the max that our venue holds. So that doesn’t leave space on our list for kids 2.) We’re getting married in Las Vegas and our venue (within the hotel/casino) has more of an adult/mature vibe, which is the tone we desire for our wedding. We want parents to enjoy the evening and don’t want it to be a free-for-all with kids running around like it’s Chuck E. Cheese. 3.) This is the second marriage for both FH and I, so there aren’t a lot of guests with young kids anyway. For those who do have younger children, they’ll have over a year to make babysitting arrangements.

View Quoted Comment Yes girl!!!!!

View Quoted Comment I'm glad some people understand this too. Lol I sometimes feel like a mean old lady for being so direct about it.

For us it was the fact that we’d be inviting almost 40+ kids. And we’d have to forgo inviting many of our own friends because these kids are our cousins kids (many of which we have never met, they live on the other side of the country). So we ultimately decided no kids. The only kid we are allowing to be there is our nephew who will be 5 months.

We are having a destination wedding, so that greatly impacted our decision. My son will be 12 at the time of our wedding, and obviously he will be there. Other than him only my niece and nephew and my fiancé’s niece were the only other kids invited, but I think all their parents are leaving them home. We are older (37 and 52) and don’t feel the need to please anyone else by inviting their kids. We also want our wedding to be fun for everyone without having to worry about watching kids. Most of our guests actually are happy their kids aren’t invited, as they can enjoy their time away without having to make excuses for leaving the little ones at home.

I also can’t stand weddings where you are tripping over little ones who are running all over. It’s great for those who are used to having little ones at home, but the rest of us don’t remember to look down and end up walking into them. No one wants a hurt or crying kid, no matter how unintentional!

A lot of my friends and family have kids and my fiance has a kid who loves to meet new friends so we are very kid-friendly. Our venue is a family-oriented resort with a waterpark and an arcade, and we will have coloring pages and bubbles and other small activities. It just wouldn't feel right to not include the kids.

Me and FH have 4 kids total plus we both come from big families, so we plan to have some kids there.. mainly just family, I’m not inviting my friend’s kids... a lot of my friends have 3/4 kids, so they gotta use this as a date night

It wasn't even a question- of course we were having kids. We're both close to our nieces and nephews, so it would be weird if they weren't there. I don't care if a kid cries or gets upset, but I don't expect that to be an issue with the kids we're having. Plus my fiance's entire family is his sister, brother-in-law, and their 4 kids, so without them, he'd have so few people there compared to my big extended family. I also don't want our friends and family with kids to not be able to come. And I've never actually been to a kids-free wedding; that's not really done by anyone I know.