What are your 'pet peeves' (wedding related)?

View Quoted Comment IMO if you know that a friend is seeing someone when you send out invites, the significant other should be invited.

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Mmm I somewhat disagree – to me, simply acknowledging a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean they are a significant other at that stage. My own rule is 12 months because while it is an arbitrary number, it otherwise opens a can of worms for other people to ask ‘can I bring my…’ and I personally don’t want to cover the cost of inviting the guy that ‘Amy’ has been seeing for a month. In this particular case, since I am ordering invitations super early I think I will address the invite to me friend alone and later extend an invite to her partner if he’s still around when I actually send them out.

View Quoted Comment By general rule, I don't believe it is my place to judge the seriousness of someone else's relationship. Some people decide to get married in less than 12 months. What's the difference between that and a couple who has been dating for the same amount of time other than a price of paper filed with the government? Not at all trying to change your mind, as this is a thread about personal pet-peeves. I just personally would not be able to ask people to come celebrate my relationship while choosing to not honor theirs.

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Naturally each relationship moves at a different rate and as you’ve said, some people are already married within a year (sometimes even within months). I appreciate the sentiment that no one should decide the seriousness of another couple’s relationship but frankly, while I will happily apply my own rule with flexibility and consider each case individually, I (and many others) don’t have the budget to include someone’s boyfriend of 2 months or the long term tinder hookup that has just been made ‘official’.

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Most people are truly not expecting anyone to consider a flavor the week to be serious. But many posts say unless the couple is engaged with a ring or married, they don't recognize them as being a couple. So that disrespects anyone who has been serious for any period of time.

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I feel like all people in relationships have to be considered individually. Not everyone gets engaged or married but that doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t significant. Heck, I know people who have been together for 30 years and there is no ring in that equation.

View Quoted Comment This! 🙌🏼💯

View Quoted Comment Yikeeees I’m having my wedding in the Bahamas .direct flights from ny is about 2 hours or a little over. the prices aren’t compared France 🤣🤣🤣🤣 .

View Quoted Comment If they are dating by tbe time the invitations go out, they should be invited. That isn't their "tinder hookup." We are in no place to judge others' relationships. I have friends who have been dating for years who I know are unserious about each other, while I know couples who got married within a year (and I was engaged within a year of our first date).


Putting yourself as judge over your guests' relationships is rude and bound to hurt feelings

View Quoted Comment I am giving a plus one to significant others only. I appreciate that it’s not enjoyable having to scrutinize the relationship of others but I don’t have the room budget wise to be generous with plus ones and it is not entirely uncommon either to limit them to significant others.
I will be making a final decision on this closer to the date but in any event, there are circumstances that I have not disclosed (nor will I) which I think warrant my decision and that’s all I’m going to say on this one. I asked about pet peeves and I can appreciate that not everyone is a fan of this but for my own wedding it is something I have to apply.

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I agree with this!

I remember dating my now fiancé for several months and not considering him my "signifiant other". He was my boyfriend, yes, but we weren't serious enough for me to offended by not receiving an invite to his friend's wedding. Depending on the time of our relationship, if he received an invite addressed to both of us, I would have been kind of taken aback, in all honesty LOL

View Quoted Comment To clarify, thats what I mean, significant others. Not going in casual dates, but consider themselves a couple.

Something I've noticed is advice isn't always consistent. Using cake and punch example, person/post one is on a budget doesn't think they can afford a full meal..not considering restaurant drop off options..is told "do not serve cake and punch to people who are traveling bc it's rude". Person/post 2 doesn't want to provide anything except to select guests..and is told "serve cake and punch to travelling guests". You really can't have both when the situations are essentially the same and guests traveling from similar distances and nearly every venue has the same mandatory 5pm start time with a 4 hr maximum time slot.

I really dislike when brides call certain Day of Items "gifts". Robes, pjs, wedding jewelry, HAMU, etc. Those are not gifts for the bridal party. Those are extras that the bride paid for so she could take aesthetically pleasing photos for her album. Is it nice that they get to keep them, sure. Gifts don't come with conditions IMO

View Quoted Comment YESSSSSSS EXACTLY! Those aren't gifts, they're props for your photos.

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Yes! Those are not gifts. They are props for the wedding. A gift is a token not related to the wedding at all that fits their individuality they can appreciate long after the wedding is over.

Bridesmaid proposal boxes fall into the same category. Ask the ladies you are closest to in a regular private conversation without pressure to say yes and them feeling guilty for tossing the expensive gifts they don't want.

View Quoted Comment If you didn’t want to do bridesmaids proposal boxes, just say that. You don’t have to explain why you chose not to do them, while acting as if people who do chose extravagant ways to ask them are wrong. You just didn’t do it, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them. 🤦🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment This entire thread is about personal pet-peeves. She gave her opinion, she wasn't shaming anyone.

Guests posting pictures on social media before the bride and groom. One of my bridesmaids posted wedding photos even though I specifically asked her not to.... I wanted her to wait until the professional pics. But the day after the wedding, she posted a few shots. They weren't even good shots... the one with me and my husband was of us looking towards the ground as we half way bent down to pick up something off my dress. Kinda unflattering, serves no real purpose, and not really the first pictures I wanted to put up on social media of our wedding. We were at the airport to go on our honeymoon and I was like "uh... I think she just posted some pictures of us on my wall" and we couldn't believe it. Lots of people left congratulatory messages so I didn't have the heart to take it down. That particular bridesmaid was difficult leading up to the wedding too, made mean sarcastic remarks at me all throughout my wedding day, so not a surprise she would do that I guess.

My biggest pet peeve would have to be parents letting their kids run wild and misbehave. I've seen parents laugh and say how "cute" it is when their kids are running around and trying to play tag on the dance floor while the bride and groom are having their first dance. I've seen beautiful cakes have to be thrown out because a kid licked his hand and then smeared said hand down the side of it, from top to bottom. I've seen kids knock over and break decorations, glassware, and photo booth extras and not be told to stop. And I was not impressed.