What are your 'pet peeves' (wedding related)?

When guests request you to do a room block specifically at an Inn where there’s no discount instead of just reserving the rooms themselves.

When people ask to bring random plus 1s. When family members demand you invite someone they want you to invite.

My own is probably dealing with brides who think that the entire universe is going to shuffle around their wedding (a la 'no [name] I cannot block out every Saturday for the next 10 months to do weekly wedding update meetings').

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YES! 'But, it's my second cousin's ex-girlfriend who doesn't want to miss out'.

1. Black tie dress code for an event that doesn't folloe the black tie standards!!!!
2. Any cash element at all, including honeyfunds
3. Being invited without my SO (the "no ring, no bring" rule)4. International destination weddings 5. Weekend bachelorette parties in rental properties6. Bride and groom not thanking guests for coming 7. Brides who get mad when someone gets engaged after them and married before them

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4. and 7. I can relate to so much. I had someone tell me that I was being 'selfish' for not being able go to their wedding (pre-covid) that was 16 hours by plane, in a city rife with crime, and which was at a peak period of the year. Yikes!

View Quoted Comment Yeah I had a very close family member get married in France and just insist we all come. It cost $2k+ and was a huge pain. Also they got married on a Sunday, so I had to take more days off to make the travel work. They also tried to have a cash bar, but a family member ended up paying for the tab because he knew a cash bar after guests spent so much would not go over well

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France is probably one of the few locations for an international wedding that I wouldn't roll my eyes about but oh my gosh, I can't imagine having a cash bar after guests have had to fork out thousands just to attend. Ouch!

View Quoted Comment Can I ask why you don’t like weekend bachelorette parties at rental places? Just curious!

View Quoted Comment I agree, I would not like this either. Not all bridesmaids know/are friends with each other and a weekend can be a long time with multiple personalities. It becomes "forced fun" and especially painful for us introverts. I don't understand why Bachelorette Parties can't be just that...an evening out or all day at a winery or spa. An entire weekend is quite costly and most people have other obligations before going back to work on Monday (whether own family obligations or just laundry!).

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I think it is really dependent on the group you have. I am having a weekend bachelorette party at a rental and it is only because (a) my group of girls all know each other really well and (b) having consulted the group, they agreed that it is more fun and better value for us to do a whole weekend away --> works out to be $100 more per person for the whole weekend than it would cost us to do something for only a few hours in town.

View Quoted Comment JM pretty much hit the nail on the head. I don't want to go on an expensive vacation with people I barely know to a destination I didn't choose when a simple night out would do. I think the weekend bachelorettes are super extra and often cause rifts between the bride and her girls, either secretly or quite obviously

Thought of another: head tables that don't include the wedding party's SOs. I don't want to bring my fiance to a wedding only to have him stuck alone at a random table with other people's plus ones!

Cash bar, self catering, honeymoon funds

View Quoted Comment This! We are only having a MOH and BM in the wedding party so don’t have to accommodate a bunch of people, they’re both from out of state so we will be sitting their SO’s with us at the head table

Pet peeves: 1. Bouquet/garter toss and being forced to join in ..
2. bachelor/bachelorette parties
3. Guests who change SO’s AFTER wedding invites go out and expect the new one to be included or who started dating after they were sent out

Pet Peeves

"It's 2021! *Insert here*"

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1. She can host her own bridal shower/bach party.

2. I can invite half a couple and they can't be mad at me

3. My bridal party should expect to dish out hundreds of dollars and take off a week of vacation because I'm getting married

Couples who have the “my day, my way” mindset. Your wedding stops being all about you when you decide to invite guests. If you don’t care about your guests experience, just elope.

I've genuinely never been to a wedding that I have been able to make a mental note of a "pet peeve". I've seen things I wouldn't necessarily do, but it's not my wedding so I don't care!

I remember weddings I've attended without a DOC and felt like it was an unorganized disaster. The only thing I would consider a 'pet peeve' would be standing around and doing nothing because of the lack of coordination. I love a smooth transitioning wedding!