"we're just enjoying being engaged"

What people think it means: "This phase of our lives is so wonderful, we just want to savor it!"

What it really means: "You'er probably not invited."

I didn't enjoy jack sh*t about being engaged, there is no difference to me between where we were before, and where we are now.

Staring*

I personally am not a fan of that phrase. To me, getting engaged means you are going to plan a wedding. I am not a fan of just being engaged, without any intention of starting to plan. We were in a committed, long term relationship for 6 years, and then when he proposed, we started planning the wedding. We are enjoying our engagement, but it has an end goal of getting married. Our engagement wasn't short (14mo), but the wedding date was determined within 2 weeks of the proposal haha. I know people who thought they would just be engaged for a year or more before they even thought about starting to plan, and that doesn't make sense to me. why not just keep dating and be committed.

@m LOL! you didn't enjoy jack about it?

I initially said this too.. The way I take it is that you should just make sure you live in the moment and not stress too much about the wedding. Still take a couple of weekend trips and go to festivals or whatever you like to do. Don't stop the fun and replace with stressful wedding planning..

Anybody agree?

I take it to mean that the person is not actively planning. Some people get engaged and then don't get married for several years.

I don't get it either! We started planning right away and are still "enjoying being engaged." And honestly, I'm glad that we started right away because we've had a 13 month engagement and it seems to be the perfect amount of time to be planning and not be too stressed.

@Faran I was literally just thinking about that this morning! What does that phrase even mean?? My best guess is that you're enjoying all the attention from being newly-engaged? People tend to fawn over you and your ring.

We had our venue booked within a week of being engaged lol so I guess we didn't "just enjoy being engaged" very much.

I feel u @L&G!

@L&G I am w/ you. I told FH this last night, we were talking about a couple who have been engaged coming up on two years and still haven't set a date.

I think it is just a way to avoid talking about wedding planning. We were kind of on even more of a happy love cloud for a few months after.

I would HATE being engaged for that long without a date set or no intent...

I mean my bro and SIL were engaged for almost 2 years and no date, but that was b/c she went to a diff state to get work experience...but had the intent of coming back to the city...soooo idk

I take it to mean, "I don't really want to get married, but [he asked and I didn't want to break up / she said she'd dump me if I didn't propose]."

I called family immediately and just about everyone asked when the wedding is, I'm like "Dude, we JUST got engaged like literally a minute ago." Haha

I have a good friend of mine that got engaged a month or so before me and isn't planning anything. They have no date, just some ideas. I on the other hand, got engaged and jumped right in. Everyone takes the process differently. I take that saying as they're not really in the planning phase yet.

I also said this when people would ask when is the wedding....I didn't want to rush and do it under 6mos...so I wanted to take my time..stack money up and do things the right way..counseling, etc....so I can STAY married! lol

I just don't see anything to enjoy! I mean, I'm happy in my everyday life, but it has nothing to do with the engagement.

Frankly, until we're married, there's nothing unique about this experience to enjoy. It's just life with 10 months of logistical hell.

Well, I've been engaged for 7 years, and when I say it, it really means "I had my date set for July of 2012, and before I could send out my STDs, my asshole cousin announced that she was getting married, to the the guy she met 6 weeks prior, ON MY SAME DATE!!!" They got married and are still together, so I guess that's good.

I didn't bother to set a new date until a few weeks ago. Now my other cousin just got engaged the other day and I'm terrified she's gonna pick my new date before I send out invites in June!

I can see where the phrase seems a little silly. However, for those first few weeks before you have a date and EVERYONE is asking you questions you don't know the answer to yet, it's helpful. I hated when people asked me the date before I even knew it.

Personally I was taken a bit back when only after a week of being engaged the first question from people would be, "So, when's the big day?!" WOAH there bud, I just got engaged we haven't made the decision yet! I think saying "We're just enjoying being engaged." Simply means, we have yet to start our planning.