Love113
Super September 2015

Weekday Wedding?

Love113, on February 20, 2013 at 5:25 PM Posted in Planning 0 28
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What are your thoughts/opinions on a wedding during the week?

My fiance thinks we should keep it on the weekend but I am thinking outside the box.

Let's face it, we all don't work typical Monday-Friday, 9-5 jobs anymore...myself included.

Having a wedding during the week would cut costs & would cut down on the number of guests attending.

..So what do you think? I am just looking for other people's opinions on this.

Nothing is set in stone, just a thought!

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  • Ozella
    Devoted August 2013
    Ozella ·
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    My wedding is on a Thursday because it ends up saving me $800, but mainly because I wanted this date. I've sent my STDs 8 months in advance, so if people can't take the time to get the day off, then I mean they just can't come. If they want to be there, they will be there, but letting them know well in advance gives guests time to make plans to be able to come. I wish I would've spent less on the wedding, and put the money toward the honeymoon.

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  • Just Reenski
    Master December 2012
    Just Reenski ·
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    A lot of people do work the typical M-F jobs, though, so you do have to consider people's ability to make it. Any OOTers may decline to take off a lot of time during the week. You may have to start later in the evening to allow for people leaving work/traffic/getting ready.

    Not saying don't do a weekday wedding, just really think about if the people you REALLY want there will be able to make it. If the VIPs will be there if it's on a Wednesday at 2, then go for it!

    Also keep in mind what you guys want -- if you want a party, then at least do Friday night. If you want more casual/intimate, a weekday may work well for you.

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  • Fireworks WIFE
    VIP July 2013
    Fireworks WIFE ·
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    Were having a Thursday wedding (4th of July) I think during the summer there is no problem - During the school year its a little tricky if alot of your guests have children or are in college.

    I think if your plan is the cut the guest list - great option!

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  • Jaclyn
    VIP April 2013
    Jaclyn ·
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    you will get negative feed back. i can assure you so be prepared!!!!

    but i am all for week day wedding! in fact originally our was at 630 am!! on a Tuesday. Smiley smile

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  • Mrs.
    Dedicated February 2013
    Mrs. ·
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    We are getting married next Wednesday. Not many ppl complained at all. People even took off from work if they had to. We just made sure to give them enough time ahead to request for time off if they needed to. We want a smaller wedding anyway, so it didn't matter to us. It does save on cost.

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  • PurpleSun
    Master September 2013
    PurpleSun ·
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    If you don't have a lot of out of town guests, it probably won't be that big of a deal.

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  • Love113
    Super September 2015
    Love113 ·
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    If we were to do it on a weekday, it would be a Monday because that is the day our anniversary falls on in 2014. I like the idea of having it on our actual anniversary & it would cut on the guest count.

    I just feel like, I am constantly taking time off work for these weekend weddings & feel as though, the people who are most important can do the same..if that's what we decide.

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  • Krista
    VIP May 2012
    Krista ·
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    I had mine on a thursday. Saved us about 3000 dollars, vendors are easier to get on weekdays as well. I had no complaints from guests, and if someone could not make it cause it was on a weekday I was glad. One less head to pay for. I say do it.

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  • Tracy
    Super May 2014
    Tracy ·
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    I feel like im in the minority on this one, but I hate weekday weddings. To be honest I probably wouldn't even take off a weekday for my own sisters wedding. Just my two cents.

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  • Lady Firefly
    Master October 2014
    Lady Firefly ·
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    We are having on a Friday but guest will be going out of town anyways. I would go if on a Friday because I would have the weekend and could take a half day that Friday, but would be a little difficult if on a Monday. Or at least I wouldn't drink as much and not stay long.

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  • Over the Top♥
    Master June 2013
    Over the Top♥ ·
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    Http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/im-married-pics-and-review-21413-wedding-date/886bd5faf20fb274.html?page=2 Ash just had her Thursday wedding! Read her review. It seemed like a small detail in the scheme of things. Smiley smile

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  • Katie
    Expert October 2013
    Katie ·
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    I having mine on a Friday at 5:45 pm because it cuts costs and gives a majority of our oot guests more time to enjoy the area. It's causing a few hiccups with fsil who is also a BM and needs to work the day before. My family is treating it as a vacation so that worked out. It doesn't hurt that we live 9 miles from the beach.

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  • mrsg
    Master September 2017
    mrsg ·
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    Annoying and inconsiderate to your guests if they mostly work M through F, but if that's the best way for you to cut the guest list, go for it. I would only go to a REALLY good friend or family member's Tuesday wedding.

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    I don't mind either way, although most people do work M-F, so it's easier to attend a wedding on a weekend. However, the only thing that really makes no sense to me is using it as a way to cut the guest list. I think the guest list should have people that you want to celebrate your marriage with, period.

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  • Ashley
    VIP May 2013
    Ashley ·
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    We're having our wedding on a Wednesday! We're saving $1500 how could we not jump at that? FMIL has been against it but it works within our budget. And plenty of family and friends have said they already requested that date off or to get off early to be at our evening wedding. So far she seems to be the only person having a problem with a weekday.

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  • The New Mrs. B
    Master May 2013
    The New Mrs. B ·
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    I think the most important people will make an effort to be there, that's for sure.. but it doesn't necessarily mean they will like it. If you're concerned about cutting costs, I would recommend a Fri or Sun so that people don't have to take off 2 days of work to attend (a Mon wedding, if it's out of town at all, would require that most guests take of Monday to drive there and get to the wedding on time and then if they stay overnight have to also take of Tuesday to get home.. verses Fri or Sun wedding may only be one day of PTO).. Honestly, I would never consider a weekday wedding for myself and as a guest, unless it was within an hour of where I lived, I probably wouldn't consider going. When I think of weddings I think of fun late nights, drinking, dancing, catching up with family and friends.. that's hard to do on a weeknight if you have work the next morning.. just my opinion though! I'm sure tons of brides can vouch for success..

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  • D
    Master May 2014
    D ·
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    I personally don't like Monday through Thursday. Friday to me is fine.

    I associate celebration and fun for weekends therefore wanting it on a Saturday. That's just me.

    I'm with Mrs. S though in regards to using a weekday to cut the guest list. That should not be a factor. I see Brides doing it to save money for the most part.

    What ever you decide it's going to be great! : )

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  • Anna Banana
    Expert November 2013
    Anna Banana ·
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    A wedding doesn't need to be on a Saturday, but a weekday wedding is going to be a tough sell. However, if you choose a Friday - that may be OK so guests only need to take part of Friday off and can really party that evening. Friday and Sunday weddings get similar discounts if money is an issue for you guys.

    I'm sure you can get bigger discounts for a Monday-Thursday wedding date, but it may be tough for guests to really enjoy your wedding if they have to work the next day. Do you really want your guests to leave your wedding early to get home? I don't.

    Like the other brides who have commented so far, think about what guests you WANT to be there and LIKELY to be there on a weekday and go from there. It all depends on who your guests are.

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  • FutureMrsL
    Master July 2014
    FutureMrsL ·
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    The venue we picked was a lot more reasonable on a Friday or Sunday. I got a lot of grief from some people just when we were considering a Friday, even though I think Friday weddings are pretty common. We ended up picking a holiday Friday when most people will have off anyway! We are still getting a bit of grief though. But you can't please everyone. Honestly though, I think most guests will be pretty unhappy with the idea of a weekday wedding.

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  • Love113
    Super September 2015
    Love113 ·
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    I only stated a Monday because that was our anniversary day. That's the idea I like. However, I will need to cut the guest list because my FMIL said we have to invite a ton of people that I never even met such as her friends & co-workers, which is an issue to me. Our budget only allows for approximately 150 guests. However, my fiance's family is HUGE & he has about 125 family members, if not more, we are obligated (for lack of a better word) to invite. My family is tiny & have at the most 50, including close friends, only 3/4 will probably show. The FMIL inviting or telling us we have to invite (250+) is an issue to me but to save an argument, I am willing to have a destination wedding or have our wedding near home on a weekday & let her invite whomever.

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