Elizabeth

Weekday wedding rude?

Elizabeth, on March 22, 2021 at 3:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 37
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Weekday venues are SO MUCH CHEAPER, but I still want people to come. Will they?
What are your experiences with weekday weddings?

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Latest activity by Amanda, on March 27, 2021 at 5:17 PM
  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    Weekday as in Monday-Thursday? I've been to plenty of Friday weddings and my wedding is on a Friday, so I think nothing of those. But Monday-Thursday weddings can be a little tougher because of people's schedules with work. I don't think that it is necessarily rude to have a weekday wedding, but I do think you would need to prepare yourself to have fewer guests because people may not be able to/want to take the time off for the wedding. Also, people may not stay late at your wedding because they'll have to go to work the next day.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    It's not rude but it's not feasible for many to take off work midweek unless they are local or work ofd hours. You need to survey your important people first.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I wouldn’t attend a weekday wedding unless it was an immediate family member or an extremely close friend. If you’re fine with something intimate with close friends and family where guests will likely leave early, go for it. If you want anything close to a “party” vibe, I would opt for a Friday or weekend.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I don't think weekday weddings are rude at all! I would anticipate a higher number of declines (some people may not be able to get off work, so they may need to either decline the invite or leave early), but as long as guests are aware well ahead of time, it can still be successful! A Friday wedding would be most ideal as a weekday wedding, since most people don't have to work the next day, but you could do like a Tuesday wedding and have just as much fun! The upside to a weekday wedding is that it's probably a lot easier to find vendors who are available. There are also Sunday weddings, which are also typically way cheaper than Saturday weddings. You could do a Sunday brunch wedding or a garden wedding in the afternoon. I think as long as guests are aware ahead of time, they can plan to attend if possible.
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
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    Completely agree. Personally, I love a Friday wedding! I’ve only been to a couple, but it’s such a fun way to kick start the weekend!
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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    I'm getting married on a Friday, so I seriously hope this isn't rude!

    My guests are all aware it's on a Friday and no one has seemed to be bothered by it. A lot of had said similar to other comments - that t's a nice kick start to the weekend!

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  • Heather
    Expert November 2021
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    What day of the week were you thinking of having your wedding? If it's on a Friday, you should be good. However, if it were some time between Monday-Thursday then that might be a little more difficult because most likely majority of your guests work schedules will fall within a Monday-Friday. Your guests can always see if they can switch around their schedules, take time off, etc. if they really wanted to attend. Smiley smile

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  • Elizabeth
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    I was looking at Fridays. I just had never been to one in a Friday so was unsure. Thanks ♥️
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  • Elizabeth
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    Awesome! I’m pretty beginner at wedding planning so I wasn’t sure lol 😂
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  • Elizabeth
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    Thanks for your input! I’d never been invited to one on Friday or anything but Saturday lol 😆
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  • Courtney
    Expert September 2022
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    Yea, I also wouldn't go to a weekday wedding unless it was someone I was super close to. And if I had to travel more than 30 minutes it would be a hard no. I'm not going to leave work super early to get ready and get out there on time.

    I would absolutely say you owe anybody who comes to your weekday wedding a full meal, but that's my opinion and certainly not an actual rule of any kind.

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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
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    I am getting married on a Tuesday (2/22/22). My entire guest list is made up of immediate family plus a few aunts and uncles and close friends who live within 2 hours of driving. We are planning to have the ceremony earlier in the day than usual to allow everyone to get home before too late but still allow guests time to enjoy the reception.
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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    My Friday wedding was over $1,000 cheaper than my Saturday wedding! Totally worth it, to me!

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  • Courtney
    Expert September 2022
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    Oh, whew. Friday's are usually fine, but you'll want to make sure the festivities take place at least after 5:30p if not a little later. The downside to that is that a lot of spaces only stay open so late.

    I know here in my city (located in the midwest) our venues only stay open till midnight for the most part, and that's party is over everyone has to be out, not party ends at midnight.

    So, it's definitely on what you're okay with. Saturdays are more expensive because they're more popular for a lot of reasons, and there is only 52 of them a year, so there's a lot of competition (even more when you consider that 1/3 of the year is off-season).

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Friday weddings are a fun lively way to kick off the weekend. But don't automatically assume they are cheaper. While some venues/vendors may give a discount, others will charge the same as a Saturday

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  • A
    Expert September 2020
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    I think you have to know your crowd for a Friday wedding. Most people would have to take the day off, or a half day, so if that’s feasible for most then should be fine.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    I wouldn't do a weekday wedding coupled with the drive from the venue from your other post. Ideally neither would be the case, but if that's unavoidable, I'd pick one or the other.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    Weekday weddings can work if all of your guests are local, but I probably wouldn't make the effort to attend a weekday wedding if I had to travel in order to get there.

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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    My fiancé and I attended one on a Thursday which is what gave us the initial idea and when we saw the price we were 100% sold and are having ours on a Thursday as well. We also picked the day for sentimental reasons(ironically first date)… But it was MOSTLY the money factor. It just sort of worked out that we noticed that our first date fell on a Thursday which worked out great so we went for that date. Many of our guests work weekends anyhow. I actually think it would’ve been a lot harder on people if we had it on a Saturday but this is a personal decision knowing our guests. Because everyone has been postponing with Covid I’m also glad that I don’t have to be competing with other couples for wedding dates. A cousin of mine is having theirs on the Saturday after my Thursday wedding because they postponed. Everyone we’ve spoken to so far has said they wouldn’t miss it for the world. We are having a smaller wedding of about 90 people and we are very close with pretty much everyone on the list. I definitely think it’s more of a “know your crowd “ kind of thing. I personally think if anyone gets “offended “ about you having your wedding day on the day that you want, would you really want a person like that at your wedding anyway?? We already started getting our RSVPs in which I’m super surprised about so I’ll let you know how that goes.
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    I would go to a local weekday wedding or one for an immediate family member. I wouldn't travel for a weekday wedding. I also think people may leave early, but not me! I love a wedding enough to be overtired at work the next day. I probably would drink less though
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