Elizabeth

Weekday wedding rude?

Elizabeth, on March 22, 2021 at 3:20 PM

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Weekday venues are SO MUCH CHEAPER, but I still want people to come. Will they? What are your experiences with weekday weddings?
Weekday venues are SO MUCH CHEAPER, but I still want people to come. Will they?
What are your experiences with weekday weddings?

37 Comments

  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Never been to one but if it's on a friday evening i think that's fine!

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    Lisa ·
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    We had a Friday wedding and it was well attended. I personally would attend a wedding ANY day of the week!
    I also very much understand the financial opportunity to host your wedding reception during non peak times. I personally think it’s a nice compromise; being able to host the wedding as you envisioned without going into debt. Don’t go into debt.
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  • Erin
    Devoted September 2022
    Erin ·
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    We're having a Friday Wedding, its a Friday before Labor Day so we're hoping its well attended and a nice way to kick off a long weekend, almost all of our guests are in jobs that get Labor Day off. Our ceremony and reception are being held in the same place, and everyone is local besides my Future Brother and Sister in Law (they live in FL so would have to travel regardless of day of the week, but also are both in professions that allow them to be flexible with their schedule.)

    My Future Brother and Sister In Law are getting Married on a Sunday, and my cousin and her FH husband are also getting married on a Sunday which is OK! However, my cousin is getting married in a state none of our family lives in (also none of her FH's family) so both families have to travel, and since we don't want to drive the day of the wedding (especially because we anticipate an earlier wedding since it is on a Sunday) and FH and I would like to enjoy ourselves at the wedding we don't want to drive after, we'll need to book a hotel for Saturday and Sunday night as well as take Monday off of work which is a little inconvenient. I probably wouldn't do this for just any old person, but my cousins and I are very close and I wouldn't miss her wedding for the world.

    My Future Brother and Sister In Law are thankfully having their wedding in our home state of CT instead of FL where they live, but since we don't get to see them often, I was planning on taking some time before and after their wedding day to be able to spend time with them.

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    Devoted May 2021
    Ally ·
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    My SIL is doing a Friday wedding, and I am in the bridal party. Im having trouble getting off work the thursday and friday for the rehearsal and the wedding. Friday weddings are fine but I feel like its pretty rude to expect your bridal party to also have to take the day before off (her rehearsal is at 5 PM.) just make the ceremony as late as possible and do the rehearsal day of or the weekend before. As far as being a guest, I doubt anyone would have a problem with a Friday night wedding but might be pissed if they have to take off work for a Monday-Thursday
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  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2021
    Catherine ·
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    We’re doing a Thursday wedding. We bounced the idea off our VIP’s and got pretty much zero pushback, but it’s definitely a know your crowd situation. The majority of our VIP guests are either retired or work jobs outside the standard M-F 9-5 situation so it isn’t really a big deal to most of them. It’s also a destination wedding, and time off was pretty much going to be a factor anyway, so it all works out! We’re saving a ton of money, plus our venue was booked through the following summer on weekends so it was the only way to have it there (which was super important to me). Will we get some no’s? Of course. But it was worth it and the people we absolutely want there will be there, so we consider it a win!
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  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole ·
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    Same exact situations and reasoning for our Thursday wedding! The next weekend available at our venue was in 2023, all our VIPs were super excited, it's a destination wedding anyway and I'm OK if it's smaller.
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    How many of your guests are coming from out of town? How many work M-F 9-5 type jobs? I would evaluate those elements before committing to a weekday wedding, including Friday.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Friday night (maaaaybe Thur for close friends) for a party vibe. I’d be happy to attend a Sunday brunch or evening wedding if lower-key vibe (and if Sunday night wedding was over by 8 pm).
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  • Natalie
    August 2021
    Natalie ·
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    I don't think that having a weekday wedding is rude, it may be a significant date after all. But just note that some people may not make it because of their schedule

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    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    I got married on a Wednesday, because it was a significant date and it was the only date my husband wanted. But we had no out of town guests - everyone invited lived within 45 minutes of the venue. My experience having such a wedding was that booking vendors was largely a breeze, as there was basically zero competition.

    I am of the camp that I would go no matter what day of the week. I don't think it's rude, but I think there are some important considerations.

    1. People may leave earlier. If they can't get the day-after off, they may have to leave early so they can get to work the next day.

    2. Getting your save-the-dates out well in advance will be very important.

    3. Out of towners may skip regardless.

    Like others have suggested, I'd aim for Friday if possible. But I've also seen many venues that have "caught on" to the trend of having non-Saturday weddings for savings, so they have a Friday through Sunday rate and a Monday through Thursday rate. If that's the case, I would aim for Thursday so it's as close to the end of the work week as possible and can just be a long weekend for those able to take the time off.

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I think it partially depends on where everyone is coming from. If you're in a smaller town/city and almost everyone is local, a weekday may not be a big deal. If you have people coming from all over or live in a large city, then I think you'll probably be disappointed by thte number of people who decline.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    If it's possible to do a daytime Friday, since that is a more "normal" day for a wedding, it would have the least impact on their work schedules. It would only be rude if you didn't give them enough notice of it being on a weekday. On your save the dates, I would include the day (so instead of just putting March 23, 2021, put Tuesday, March 23, 2021)

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  • Kayla
    Beginner October 2021
    Kayla ·
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    My fiancé and I are paying for everything ourselves and we made the decision to have our wedding on a Thursday. It’s saving us $5,000. It was a tough decision but at the end of the day it’s our day, and money out of our pockets. The most important people will be there.
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    Expert November 2021
    Sara ·
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    I personally wouldn't attend a weekday wedding unless it was the wedding of an immediate family member or it was local. Either way I'd probably leave early

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  • Laquita
    Expert July 2021
    Laquita ·
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    I have always held the belief that those who are meant to be there, will be there. These days people work literally every day of the week & it'll be a hassle for some to get a day off no matter what day your wedding falls on. Book whatever date you feel is best and works within your budget. We booked for a Sunday & I'm not even worried about who will decline because those who are meant to be there, will be.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated July 2021
    Samantha ·
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    We are getting married at 7 AM on Thursday, July 1, 2021. We treated planning it similar to planning a destination wedding:

    1. We checked with our VIP guests to see if they could make it work

    2. We are sending out invites early to provide guests with all the info and allow guests to make whatever travel/time/work accommodations they need to make

    3. We are making an entire day of it, so that our guests aren't potentially taking time off of work for just an hour or two. Wedding ceremony is at 7 AM, then we are having a nice breakfast at our favorite restaurant, then we are coming to our home for an afternoon/evening reception with catered food and bar.

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  • Amanda
    Savvy April 2022
    Amanda ·
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    My fiance and I are planning our wedding on Tuesday April 12, 2022. Which is our anniversary. I called some key people asking if they could do a weekday wedding before we moved forward with it. The only push back I got was from my mother in-law who backed off quickly when I reminded her we didn't pick the 12 because it was a weekday we picked it cause it was special. Now I also want a mention I want a small wedding 50-65 people ideal with max 80. And to give everyone the best chance of coming I sent out Save the dates ASAP to the people on our guest list that are high priority.


    A weekday wedding is not rude. You just have to have realistic expectations. And I can honestly say we have saved a lot of money getting venders that on a weekend would have been out of our price range. The thing is your spending a lot of money on one day, but more importantly can the people who are key in your life come. Cause you don't wanna look back and regret it either.
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