Wednesday Wedding

Yes......would it be bad luck to change the date

We do weekday weddings all the time. I don't see miniature guests lists; generally, the fallout rate is about the same as the weekends.

if it's too inconvenient? They can always say no.

About 100ppl already know the date which is my family, bridal party, a few co-workers and some friends that I talk to on a regular basis.

No, it is not bad luck to change the date.

I officiate a lot of destination weddings during the week, but the guests are here for the whole week (at least). Your out-of-town guests may plan to make a vacation out of it.

I think it's pretty inconvenient, but those who want to attend still will.

Also, you are in Miami in June and really, it would be pretty easy for your OOT guests to make a vacation out of it. I'd probably do that.

If you were my family, I'd attend. If you were my close friend, I'd attend.

If you don't want anyone to come get married in the courthouse

I would probably decline a Wednesday wedding, but if it was on a Thursday I would probably go and think 4 day weekend.

I'm just thinking "out loud" here..........if you "polled" me (as one of those 100 people), I'd assume I'm getting an invite. What if you decide to no longer have this uber mega wedding and not invite the people you initially were thinking about inviting (i.e., co-workers)? I'd be annoyed. Don't ask me about coming to your potential weekday wedding and then don't give me an invite.

Also, it seems you've already made up your mind about having a weekday wedding considering you've "polled" people.

DeAndrea -- I don't know how you polled 400 people, but I have no reason to doubt you. Just remember, it was a straw poll. As long as you don't have your heart set on 200 guests, then you should be fine. As a guest, I'd prefer a weekend wedding, but I'd probably attend. I probably wouldn't stay until the end (but I'm in my 50's).

Arielle and Tony -- I prefer childless weddings, but not because the little ones take up space and waste food. I just don't think formal weddings make sense to kids, and I think they're going to act like kids, and that could be disruptive. Secondly, no wedding, for a guest, is "a free party". Celia just quoted (on another thread) something she heard on one of the morning news programs -- the average costs that guests incur to attend weddings, and it isn't cheap, let alone free. There is nothing free about a wedding -- for anyone.

If you don't want a lot of people at your wedding, couldn't you simply not invite a lot of people instead of making it terribly inconvenient for people to attend?

It's not as though having it on a weekday is going to automatically remove the unwanted guests from your list. You'll likely remove your nearest and dearest as well.

Also keep in mind that despite that you know most of your guests/wedding party have vacation time, it doesn't mean they want to use it for your wedding; I wouldn't assume. I've read stories on here of people getting declines from close relatives who they "for sure" knew were coming.

If it works for you, FH and your guest. I don't see why not. I personally would have an issue of attending a wedding mid-week, especially If I had to work the next day. It seems strange to pick a day so your guest response would be limited. Why not just "host what you can afford".

I had the same thought as @GymRat. Asking someone if they'd come to your potential wedding date (aka, polling), lets that person know that you are intending to invite them to your wedding. Anyone you've polled is probably expecting an invite.

We will likely be doing a Thursday wedding. We are also having a DW.

We made the choice we did for several reasons, one of which was keeping guests in mind: for them, choosing to attend and stay in the area will be less expensive if they stay on week nights, and flights to our location are the least expensive on Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays.

We are also able to have a smaller package that works better with our small guest list, so instead of a 4-hour reception where guests are just kind of sitting there talking (the guest list is really too small to expect much dancing, plus we included the little "food wasting, space taking" people,) for several hours, we are doing a 3-hour reception with basic first dances, cake cutting, and a full meal, open bar, and then offering other optional events that guests can choose to come to or not that evening and the next day.

We have also taken into account when our guests usually visit the area we're getting married, as most of them take a yearly vacation there. We are having our wedding during a less expensive season, but just after the school year ends, so that there aren't issues with school conflicts or higher summer rates, and so the temperatures haven't reached scorching hot yet.

Basically, we have consulted solely with the people we plan to invite, and taken them into consideration every step of the way. We want them there for a reason, which is why we're inviting them, so I think it's only fair to do what we can to make attending as easy on them as possible.

We actually budgeted for 300. I have a friend who does online polling that create one that I sent to my Facebook friends. Since our engagement was announce I have everyone calling, texting or inboxing reminding me about their invite. That was the first reason why I thought of a weekday wedding. Furthermore I'm a person who hardly say no.

Do you plan on inviting all of your facebook friends? I think it would be rude to ask them all about what day would work best for them, but then not send an invitation.

Start being a person who will say no. Seriously, you need to put your foot down. It's also rude to ask for an invite, or assume one. You should be indignant. Get your snob on!

Thanks ladies, I have a lot to consider. I'll try

Dang, y'all are harsh on this board! Sweetheart my wedding is on a Tuesday and my guest list keeps growing