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Happily Newson
Dedicated June 2017

Wednesday Wedding

Happily Newson, on August 1, 2016 at 2:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 50

I was planning on having my wedding on a Wednesday which I already book my venue for. Some reasons I choose the middle of the week was because of the potential guest list. To cut down the number I thought having it on a weekday would help. I have some guest bringing their kids and school would be out for the Summer by then. Also I have a few relatives who will be driving in. My Uncle is a new pastor and though its almost a year from now says has to get back by early Saturday. Do you think its wise and feasible to have the wedding during the week.

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Latest activity by Alfredo Valentine, on August 25, 2016 at 5:39 AM
  • Leelee
    VIP September 2018
    Leelee ·
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    I guess if it works for your guests as you are suggesting it does, then fine. In general I would advise against it because I think it would inconvenience most people and not be as big of a "party" because it's not on the weekend.

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  • MrsOtoBe
    VIP October 2017
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    You'll most likely get more declines than a weekend wedding but it sounds like you want to keep it small. If it works for you and your VIP's then there's nothing wrong with it.

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  • mimitrue
    Master January 2016
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    If I had proper notice for work and such, I would have no problem with a Wednesday wedding.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    While yes - you can obviously choose whatever date you want, Wednesday morning as to be one of the more universal inconvenient dates. It'll affect more time off work and travel.

    I wouldn't come.

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  • A
    Just Said Yes August 2016
    Arielle & Troy ·
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    Im getting married aug 16 this year. Obviously it's on a Tuesday and it was for 2 reasons. 1 was because its our 8 year anniversary the other because of the guest list. We have saved sooo much money by having a Tuesday wedding. Our final head count is 115 people when originally we had close to 200. Another way we cut down is by having an adult only wedding. This way kids are not taking up space and wasting food. Those who couldnt make it because of their kids but really wanted to go sent us a gift. Those who just wanted to go to a free party declined to come and we are perfectly fine with that. If Wednesday is your day. Then it's your day. Forget everyone else Smiley smile

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    Ouch, Arielle & Toni. Harsh wording there - "kids are not taking up space and wasting food" and "forget everyone else."

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  • Alicia
    Super November 2016
    Alicia ·
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    I'm getting married on a Monday! Choose a day that's best for you, and if your guests really want to be there, they will arrange it so they can!

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  • Happily Newson
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    Happily Newson ·
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    The wedding is in the evening. My guest list was over 400plus. I did a poll and I got a yes from over 200ppl. The only other problem would be traffic trying to get to the venue on time.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
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    Nope, don't do it. Nobody is going to go to this.

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  • Tamisha
    Devoted April 2017
    Tamisha ·
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    T-Rex, Arielle's wording may be harsh, but it's accurate.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    If there are people that you are worried about not being able to make it that you actually want to come, I'd check with them about whether they think it's feasible.

    If there are people on your guest list that you want to decline, I second @Alyssachu's question.

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  • Punkin Beer
    Master October 2017
    Punkin Beer ·
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    Clearly she used Doodle or Google Forms.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Haha @Beachy YES "if your goal is for people to decline..." Spot on as usual

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  • Sandra M.
    Super October 2016
    Sandra M. ·
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    I was a BM in a Thursday wedding and I hated everything. I had to take off a half day Wednesday for the rehearsal, all day Thursday because the reception went late into the evening, and a half day Friday because of getting home so late. The bride did it for the same reason as you, to cut down on guests and save money. I agree with Alyssa that you must properly host, which my friend didn't. There were only heavy hors d'oeuvres for an evening wedding - no meal was provided. I'm firmly in the "don't do it" camp, but that's just my opinion.

    ETA: you don't know what everyone's employment situation is, so that's another thing to consider. I was a contractor with no vacation time, so I had to take the time unpaid.

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  • Nessa
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    Nessa ·
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    As long as it works for your closest. My friend got married on a Thursday, during the school year, 4 hours away from her entire guest list. She invited 100 and about 70 went. These numbers include the bridal party. So, you'll definitely get less people but it won't be drastic. Especially if your wedding is local. I'd go to a local Wednesday wedding. I'd only go to a destination Wednesday wedding if I'm really close to the bride/groom.

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  • Mandi
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    Mandi ·
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    Its been said around these forums before that when you invite guests to your wedding it stops being all about you. You can get married pretty much any day of the week as long as you have the required basics, officiant, license and witnesses. You can save just as much money with a Friday or Sunday wedding and it will be less of a headache to your guests to attend than smack in the middle of the week. If you only want 200 to attend then only invite 200! Trust me, our wedding could have been 300-400 invited easy but we refused to invite people just because they were family and we haven't spoken to them or seen them in years!

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  • Kmess
    Master October 2015
    Kmess ·
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    Friday wedding: Yes ma'am, see ya there

    Thursday wedding: I'll do my best but no promises

    Mon-Wed wedding: Unless you are my sister or Bff, not happening

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  • MissMtoMrsC
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    I think it depends on your guest list. We were considering a weekday wedding but descided against it. You must know people won't stay to party if they have to work on Thursday.. I also think a lot of people will miss the actual wedding because they can't call off work unless you wait till 6 to be married

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  • Happily Newson
    Dedicated June 2017
    Happily Newson ·
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    The ceremony begins at 6 and most of my guest are local. Majority of my guest and wedding party have jobs with vacation time. What really concerns me is what can happen months from now. I haven't officially invited everyone I only poll them to see who would most likely be available. The rehearsal dinner and wedding is a full course menu. There's about 30ppl coming into town which my extended family will be housing for 3days no matter which day I choose.

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  • Venice
    Savvy November 2017
    Venice ·
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    If I have ample notice, I would attend.

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