Wedding Venue Issues

@Del - ahhh okay cool lol

@Del: That song at the end is so catchy!

Richard wins. Oh my god yes.

OP, I am sorry about your health problems. I endometriosis is painful and when you are dealing with that much pain it is easy to view everything in a negative light. It is important to put the problems in perspective though. The cake should not be an issue. If you did not ask them to give you the leftover cake, they probably assumed you didn't want it. It doesn't sound like anyone wanted cake and didn't get some. The favors sound like an honest mistake and overall a pretty small one. Vendors getting jam is not the end of the world and you can think of it as giving them a small bonus.

I work for a restaurant that caters a lot of the weddings in our area. We don't eat food or cake, and we don't take favors. Not because we're not "allowed", but because normally we want to get the HELL outta there. I always cut the wedding cake while the rest of the staff packs up, so we can leave as soon as the cake is cut.

We box up 2 plates for the bride and groom for later and always box up at least 2 pieces of cake for them. Then we leave to go boxes out for everything and leave.

Some guests are rude af. I've seen people take 6 pieces of cake, I had a guy last week ask if we had a container from the cupcakes so he could take A DOZEN with him. I've seen people walk around to tables and load up on other people's favors. Honestly, it's probably more of a guest issue than a venue issue imo, based on experience.

Surely there are more important things in this life you can be worrying about than getting justice for 30 slices of cake. If you can't think of any, may I kindly direct your attention to the millions of people actually suffering right now? Or even your own medical issues?

You're a grown ass woman. Seek justice for the things that matter. Pick and choose your battles.

I really hope that none of our bride and grooms would ever refer any of us as hired help.

Do not beat around the bush if you plan to reach out about this.

Too bad about the jam. I totally understand being disappointed that some of your guests didn't receive the favors you got for them. These are your VIPs, you wanted them to have jam, and they didn't get jam. Darn.

The good news is that this is incredibly easy to remedy. How much can jam possibly cost? I just bought some super fancy imported stuff at a specialty shop a few days ago and I think it was about $4. Let's say $5 max per jar. So for $40 tops this "problem" goes poof.

Now the cake thing is just absurd. Serving sizes for wedding cake are typically quite small. It sounds like everyone got a serving. Some guests probably got two. Some maybe even more than that. Once the cake is cut it's not going to last anyway. Maybe the staff threw away the leftover pieces at the end of the night (right around the time the outside edges started getting all crusty.) Maybe they ate some of them rather than throwing them in the trash. Either way, cake was had by all guests who wanted cake. And that's what the wedding cake is for--for consumption at the wedding. If you want to eat more cake in the future, you can go out and buy yourself a cake, no crusty edges required!

These vendors were also tipped very generously the day of of stellar service, correct? That is a picture perfect example of why tips ARE NOT to be given until after the wedding is long past. You can't tell until the wedding is over how well things went and if certain vendors deserve praise while others do not. At this point, all you can do is write a honest review that they were not all that.