Wedding Venue Issues

As others have said you can voice your opinions of the night to your vendor, but to be quite honest you probably wont get anything other than an apology. Expecting them to pay for something is insane and the cake i mean really? what about it was so special that your husband is so pissed about. You got more from the bakery how much leftover cake do you need?

I don't get this. Your bridal party complained bc they didn't get some mini jars of Jam? You really want to know what happened to a few slices of already cut cake that you probably would have thrown out yourself anyway? Did you really need to take those slices home with you? Are you honestly so frugal you had to have 100% of everything accounted for?

You need to redirect your focus and think about all the wonderful things that went right on your wedding day instead of nitpicking and looking for one or two tiny insignificant things no one honestly cares about.

Let it go Elsa, let it gooooo

This is now your third post harping on some "big problem" from your wedding.

What's the point in dwelling on and getting mad about these things? They're done, it's over, it doesn't matter anymore.

Speaking as someone else who got married very recently, I'm far too happy enjoying my H and our honeymoon to be worried about some trivial shit that went wrong. I'd suggest you try to do the same.

"Even if the vendors were given cake as instructed not to."

Why did you instruct your venue not to serve your vendors cake, especially when you ordered more than the number of guests attending? That's so rude.

Its cake and jam. Dont stress it. Worse could have happened..

You're not serious about being this upset over some cake and jam, right?? I find these things to be inconsequential, when you consider the big picture. Maybe you should write out a list of everything you enjoyed about your wedding, and you will be able to, hopefully, see that these small things are just that...small things.

Is there ANYTHING about your wedding that you're happy with? FFS

ETA: I would blame the DJ. I bet he took all the cakes and jams. Yeah. Had to be that damn DJ.

I agree with other posters and you need to not sweat the small stuff. Everyone has little mishaps that happen during their wedding. Everyone. No one's day will be 100% perfect. Focus on all the good parts and the fact that you are now married! Like my dress got ripped more than once, my veil flew off in my ceremony, I had 5 no shows, etc, but I don't care about any of that stuff because I got married to my husband and at the end of the day, everything was perfect to me. There are people on here that have had horrible disasters happen at their wedding and they chose to focus on the fact that they are married. You should do the same.

Did you go into shock?

I would honestly send an email to tell them what went wrong and just state so that you'd like them to pay better attention to the next bride they have. Other than that, I'd let it go. It's just cake. It's just jam. It's nothing compared to the vow you made. Now is the time to relax and be bliss!

@elizabeth beat me to it. If you, as you claimed, had more than enough cake to have a surplus, why would you deliberately make a point to exclude your vendors? Is 'the help' somehow unworthy of your leftovers? Girl, with love, check yourself. This is NOT the end of the world.

*haven't read the comments

wait, aren't you the one who complained about bunch of guests not giving you gifts/card and you were upset?

(correct me if I am wrong)

Seems like you are after money. They are NOT compensating you, boo-boo! it is such a petty thing to do to even mention it... FAVORS ARE NO BIG DEAL.

Does OP ever come back to comment on her posts about how horrible her vendors were and guests who didn't give her money? Or just ghost?

Maybe your guests snuck kids in after all and those damn brats stole everything.

FME - lmao - so I was right in my previous comment!!!

Oh god forbid your vendors get a piece of cake or a favor. Lawwwddddd.

Looks like OP ghosted.

Guess they favors and cake weren't that important to her after all.

If this is the worst that happened be happy. Your wedding party should have gotten gifts from you so that be. As far as the cake it's so not worth it. I don't think they would do anything other than say sorry. Let it go and look at the positives of your day.

2 things I don't give a shit about, at a wedding - favors (my social circle doesn't even do them) and CAKE!

Did you actually enjoy any part of your wedding day?