Wedding Venue Issues

La Grosera - lmao

Seems like the venue treated vendors better than your guests. Yes, I would make that part of the review. These things may not be earthshattering, but I would be pissed with their attitude. NO, vendors are not treated like guests. They are employees, and should be fed, but no favors, and no cake, until AFTER all the guests are fed cake.

^haha how dare they be fed cake when there is plenty of cake. ETA: laughing at Karen's post.

OP - you have only complained about your wedding. None of this seems like that serious of an issue. Vendors should be allowed to have cake and I highly doubt your bridal party is super upset about not getting jam.

@Karen god forbid "the help" gets treated like actual humans that are working their asses off to make a person's wedding day goes smoothly.

I can't believe OP is complaining about some goddamn cake. This is so childish it hilarious.

H and I are very happy with how everything else went minus these issues and the DJ. It's the principle of the matter. We are about doing the right thing and if someone is at fault ie the venue then they need to rectify the situation.

Also the comment about me getting the D was inappropriate. I can't even have sex with my H due to continuous growing tumors and pain. I've been bleeding nonstop since July. I spent my 3rd day of marriage in the ER sent by my doctor only to find out I have 4 kidney stones, my uterus is a mess and I had constipation. Thank goodness when we said our vows particularly in sickness and in health we meant it. Things won't get better until after my December surgery to remove the endometriosis crap and tumors.

For the most part we had a great wedding but the jam and cake is very suspicious and we will say something. I was more so asking how to write it out in an email.

Not to mention our bridal party was looking forward to the jam favors. We gave them great gifts but yeah jam is awesome. But we saw the vendors as hired staff so in our eyes they are not guests and did not deserve to be treated as such. We feed them dinner, tipped them, and they ate among the guests but they were not guests. No they did not deserve cake or a favor.

MLC, some people on this board are vendors, or connected with vendors, which may create a conflict of interest. Of course you should say something. The venue needs to be told what happened, likely the person in charge of the cake wanted some for her friends, and the owners should be told what happened.

I agree that the comment about your sex life was uncalled for.

However, you keep with this attitude of justice and rectifying wrongs etc but... what are you really wanting from them? You want them to pay you back? Yeah, good luck with that. The only thing you can really do is write an OBJECTIVE review that a *reasonable* person would find helpful. You really do need to let these silly petty things go though. You're way too hung up on nitpicking right now

Agree Karen. Possible conflict and H definitely feels that the staff and coordinator swipped all the extra slices for themselves.

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"The cake and jam is suspicious"

Again - Why are you so honed in on this? Is it really that terrible the staff saw there was extra cake and had a slice? Do you really want to be the kind of person who is so stingy they would rather take already sliced cake home and let it go bad rather then share it with the people who made your wedding amazing (IE the vendors and venue staff?)

Again I personally think your priorities are way out of wack here. I am sorry you are having health issues. That really sucks. But I think you have a negative and superior attitude toward this whole situation. That cake, if it wasn't eaten probably got tossed out bc the venue assumed you wouldn't want to take cake home that had been sliced and sitting out and probably getting dry.

I think the jam sounds like it was an honest mistake and you can ask and express your disappointment over it, But honestly you're making a mountain out of a molehill and given your being in the hospital it seems you have bigger worries then some jam jars and stale cake.

You feel, but you don't know. For all you know, the guests could have "swiped" those extra slices at the end of the event. It's been known to happen. Go ahead. Write the review and have everyone who reads it react like the majority of WW users. Too bad the vendors can't review the people they work for. Those reviews would be priceless!

ETA: sorry, they "swipped" the cake.

Didn't you complain though that members of your bridal party didn't give you gifts, despite you buying them very nice gifts? To hell with them and their jam then.

Op - I m sorry that you are having some health issues, I hope you get well soon.

on another note, though - i'd never go to someone's wedding and mention to them that 1- I didn't get to eat the cake and 2- I didn't get the favor. it is so petty to even mention it, I would personally be so embarrassed to bring it up.

Good lord. There are REAL issues going on this world. Your cake and jam complaints are utter nonsense.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your health issues; it sounds painful. But given your health status, I'd assume you'd know what REAL issues are. This cake crap is not one of them. Move on.

The cake is a lie.

The cake is a lie.

The cake is a lie.

You really need to just let this go and focus on your new marriage and your health. Which I sincerely hope you heal and get better soon.

But seriously, coming from a person who suffers from serious health issues as well, I have learned that dwelling on such little things as some missing cake and a favor mix up, is not worth the stress, which makes any illness worse. Let. It. Go. Focus on healing and taking care of yourself. If you really want to email the venue, go for it. Bit they will probably just say it was a mix up and apologize. I highly doubt you will get any sort of compensation for it.

@Del - What do you mean? OP is lying about the cake?

@Munchkin

Nah, I've just got FH playing Portal 2 next to me It's a thing from the game.

You just sound so unpleasant. You just got married, try being happy.