Wedding Photographer Etiquette?

Definitely not rude to have a list of photos you want. And I don't think the second part is rude either, but I'm also not an artist.

Thanks! yeah I just don't want to step on their toes or anything

I feel like I'm able to work WITH my vendors. I just explain that I need to know what I can expect n ask questions, gave pic suggestions etc. They have all been great to work with

Definitely not rude, they are working for you. Most will have a standard shot list, but plan this out with them to make sure you're getting the shots you want.

My photographer and I are using a google slide show so we can add ideas of photos and decide what shots will work for our wedding.

Absolutely give your photographer a list of specific pictures you want! You are their client and they do want to make you happy That's way easier to do if they know what you want!

I also think you can find a kind way to talk about the photography style. I'm hoping a pro photographer sees this post and can help us out with terminology! I like your idea of showing them your favorite pictures of their work.

I don't think it's rude. You signed a contract based on their work during that time. I totally get wanting to try new things, change it up but if my Bride comes to me and says, "Love your work but LOVE what we contracted for. I just wanted us to be on the same page as far as finished product." I would be very respectful of that.

Lists : again, not rude IMO. Ask if the images you want are part of their standard list shots. When I ask for a list, in my mind I'm thinking of specific people because all the detail shots are already on my radar and gotten. I never think to let the Bride know this because it's what I've always done. Let them know. I in turn will be letting my couples know of what I include without even being asked. Good post Chelsea.

Also, etiquette related - don't forget to order a vendor meal for your photographer! They're working for 6 hours and need to eat!

Thanks for the feedback everyone!

@Kathleen loved hearing your perspective as an actual photographer. I went ahead and emailed them politely asking if I can give them a list of things we'd love photos of, and if I can send them examples of previous photos we especially love the style of. Hopefully they're open to ideas. I think they will be!

Excellent!!!!

I agree with Kathleen (as usual) It's not rude to request a few specific photos of details, although the photographer will probably already plan to do this. I also don't think there is anything wrong with sending some of your favorite photos of your photographer's work that show the style you love and expressing that that's the style/look that you're hoping to achieve with your day.

We really do want to make you happy and deliver photos you love, so communication is key!

Our photographer has requested we make a list of "must haves" so not rude at all.

I think it's all about the way you say things - there's a difference between making unruly demands and polite requests. As long as you keep it polite and respectful, I don't think you'll come off as rude for sharing your ideas and expressing expectations.

Remember its your day! The photographer/videographer is there to capture YOUR moments. You have every right to request shots and we use Pinterest quite a bit to help bride select ahead of time. Ron and Joy