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Wedding Gown bought for prior engagement... that was cancelled

Stacey & Jay, on August 20, 2013 at 2:38 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 27
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I need some opinions..... I bought this wedding gown when I was engaged previously. Well he bailed, left me high and dry. Now Ive met an AMAZING wonderful man, that wants to marry me, and Ive said YES!! again...... Im struggling with if I should use the original dress, or get a new one. Or "change up" the original one. My FH says i can do whatever Id like, as long as Im happy with my choice. This is his 1st marriage, my 2nd.

I tried on dresses this weekend with my mom in her home town, including the original dress..... and she thinks I need to get over the attachment of the "ex" with that dress. I feel like when i put that dress on, that it is "tarnished" even though I know hes never seen it, nor has it been worn yet. I showed my FH all the "photos" of the different dresses i tried on, and he actually picked out the dress that I have, as his favorite on me.... He doesnt know which one I have.. So do I stick with my original..... anyone else going through something like this? Help!!!!


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Latest activity by Samantha, on August 20, 2013 at 8:20 PM
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    Savvy June 2015
    Stacey & Jay ·
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    Without the jacket


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  • C
    Expert October 2013
    Crystal ·
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    I asked the same question on here before.

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/calling-off-the-wedding-my-dress-and-ring/deb527a1fa6c3775.html

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  • Hot chocolate
    VIP November 2013
    Hot chocolate ·
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    Much better without the jacket. Its a nice dress you look pretty. But don't you want to buy a new dress? Its a new person a new engagement. To me I feel out with the old in with the new. I don't know maybe I am superstitious I just feel its bad karma especially if its from a relationship that didn't end well. I'd rather sell it

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  • Mrs.J
    VIP June 2013
    Mrs.J ·
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    I like it better without the jacket. Maybe you can changes it that way and add some amazing jewelry and headpiece with it.

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  • AshleyG2013
    Devoted October 2013
    AshleyG2013 ·
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    I had the same situation, right after I bought the dress is when he decided to let all the skeletons out of the closet. I found an amazing guy and a new dress Smiley smile I just couldn't see myself walking down the aisle in the old one. My only problem is now I can't find someone who wants to buy it (ahh!) I think the dress is beautiful with and without the jacket Smiley smile

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  • Augustbride
    Expert August 2013
    Augustbride ·
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    I say sell it and buy another dress...i wouldnt want my DH to give me something he originally had bought for his ex...LOL but hey if your FH's ok with it then go for it.

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  • Mrs. Soon2be Garcia
    Expert October 2015
    Mrs. Soon2be Garcia ·
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    I didn't have the same issues, but it was hard for me to pick out of 2 dresses so I did like you and showed FH a line up he picked our one of my favorites and he dosent know I liked that dress.

    If you feel tarnished in it then change but remember you showed your FH all those dresses and he picked that one! Either way when you walk down that asle he will only see you not the dress!

    Btw you look beautiful in that dress with / without jacket!

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  • Future_Lobos
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    Future_Lobos ·
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    If you think it's tarnished then I'd search for a new dress. I'd want to only think of FH with the dress I wear, not of what happened in the past. You can always try and sell the one you have.

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  • Lori
    Super June 2015
    Lori ·
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    I love that dress on you BTW.

    I actually had the exact same situation happen with me. I had a dress that ended up with a cancelled wedding. For me personally, I could not wear it for my wedding with my now-amazing-FH. It wouldn't feel right to me.

    Although, it is a personal choice, but you did say it felt tarnished.

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    Stacey & Jay ·
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    I feel silly thinking of the dress as "tarnished", i tried to sell it after the break up, but havent been able to as of yet. The way my FH makes me feel, deserves a much better dress that explains that then this dress does..... Thanks for making me not feel so silly everyone Smiley smile

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  • M2H
    Master September 2013
    M2H ·
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    I think you should have a dress that you feel great in and that you want your FH to stare at you and think you are the most beautiful woman in the world.

    If this dress makes you feel like that then def keep it (i also like it wi/o the jacket) but if not then don't just settle with it.

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  • STBMsMullings
    Super July 2015
    STBMsMullings ·
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    You said you feel tarnished so........

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  • *Mrs_D*
    Master October 2014
    *Mrs_D* ·
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    Tarnished.... get a new dress, girl!

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  • Starbuck
    Super October 2013
    Starbuck ·
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    Tarnished is not a bridal feeling.

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  • Private User
    VIP July 2013
    Private User ·
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    It depends on how much you love the dress. You didn't actually get married in the dress. I seriously thought about making the dress I designed during my first engagement. But I have no place to sew a wedding dress.

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  • T.
    Master November 2013
    T. ·
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    Hi Stacey!

    I agree with most of this thread. If you feel it's tarnished, that says to me that you don't love that dress anymore. Stacey, LOVE your dress like you LOVE your man. Allow yourself to feel beautiful, with no strings attached. If I were you, I would find a new dress, Love.

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  • Laudie
    Master October 2013
    Laudie ·
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    I didn't read the previous comments so sorry if i repeat...

    When you bought the dress did you buy it for yourself or for FH? Obviously you bought it for the wedding that was supposed to happen but did you buy it because you thought it looked great on you or because you thought ex-FH would love the dress?

    I totally understand if you want to sell but if the dress fits your personality and looks stunning on you (which it does), why get rid of it? If you bought the dress b/c you thought it represented who you both were together, then I would say get a new one...I hope I make sense!

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  • mc4dj13
    Master November 2013
    mc4dj13 ·
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    Any con's on your mind now will be magnified by 100 when the wedding day comes. You owe it to yourself to get a new dress. You still have time! Good luck!

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  • D
    Master May 2014
    D ·
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    If I loved the dress than I would wear it. To me it would be one less thing to pay for : )

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  • TooManyMistys
    Master June 2014
    TooManyMistys ·
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    I would sell it for it seems you are not comfortable in the dress anymore.

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