Wedding garter tradition

I’m planning to do it. I don’t understand why people think it requires going up someone’s dress; that’s just weird and is easily avoidable. A lot of garters come with a separate one to toss away so you can skip the cringey part if you want.

I am personally not having it. However, if it's something you want to do, and your biggest concern is the older generation, then by all means do it! Garter tosses have been at many many weddings I've been to, including very religious, conservative ones. So, as someone else already said, they've seen it. It's not new or shocking. Enjoy your day the way you want!

We're skipping it. The thought of him going under my dress in front of ALL of our family makes me cringe.

We are skipping the garter toss, bouquet toss and cake cutting. I don’t know if you’ve googled the tradition of the cake cutting, but after reading it we decided no thank you. Plus, we both think they’re awkward.

We had the garter toss and it was hilarious bc my husband is silly and he likes to make people laugh and my guest old and young enjoy it. We laugh all the time about the garter toss. As long as it is done respectfully should be ok.

View Quoted Comment Now that's cute! I've not heard of that before.

We are skipping the garter toss. I just think it's just awkward but I realize that people enjoy the silliness of it.
I hate the bouquet toss. I was a single woman for 25+ years and it never feels good to be called out in front of everyone that you're single and here's your chance to be the next one to find a husband. It's embarrassing for the divorced, widowed, and intentionally single women like me who had no desire to get married. Yet here we are, jumping after the bouquet like it's money. I love the videos of ladies moving away from the bouquet after it was tossed LOL. Ok rant over LOL.

We are skipping it. Neither one of us think it’s appropriate to do in front of 300 people. But if you want to do it, then go for it

I love the tradition of the bouquet toss, and I like the idea of the guys having something to toss, as well.... but personally I think the whole head up the dress thing is a pretty weird thing for both families to watch lol.

It's your wedding do what you want to do. I'm sure as long as your fiancé doesn't shove their head up your dress your elderly family won't die of shock.

My fiancé and I hate it 😅 so we were both on the same page from the get go that it’s a no go for us lol

I’m also not doing a bouquet toss. I find that weird as well

Honestly, it's very uncommon here to begin with, but even if it wasn't, we wouldn't do the garter OR bouquet toss.

I think one of the reasons for that is, because we are a bit older - mid 30s - so anyone in our group who wants to be married already is, and the remaining single people probably don't want to be reminded of that or dragged up by themselves for a bouquet/garter toss - having been single for many many years myself, I know how that feels - like we'd be making them uncomfortable and singling them out in an unkind way - and neither of us want to do that to our guests.

I think it's quite different if you're much younger, it's less like pointing a finger at that specific single person and being like 'hey you! You haven't found someone!' you know?

Putting it on the football is a funny twist!!! Tho we are opting not to do that, you do you!!! It’s your wedding!

We are going to do it but he thought that another man was going to touch me he said not he's not I'm like omg lol🤦🏽‍♀️🤣🤣. This our first marriage for the both of us. I said no baby only you and you toss it in the crowd of guys and then I toss my bouquet to the girls

I've never heard of the putting it on a football idea ... I actually kind of like that! I'm tempted to change my opinion now, lol

I've never wanted to do a garter toss (or bouquet toss, for that matter). If my fiancé really wanted to do it, I would, because I don't have THAT strong of an opinion ... but I don't think he'd care either, so I probably won't do it.

My philosophy is, don't include something into your wedding just for tradition sake - do it only if you want to, and bonus philosophy: make it your own, spice up the tradition.

View Quoted Comment I really like that philosophy Katiekies thank you! Yeah my fiance said he never heard of the garter toss just the bouquet toss and when I was describing it to him he didn't seem too enthused haha. So I probobly wont do it just for the sake of the tradition like you said. I do like alternate ideas like the boutonniere toss though.

View Quoted Comment Lol that's funny Monique! Congrats to you both and I hope it's a fun day!

View Quoted Comment Hi thank you I he may or may not do it,its ok if he does or not. We will just see how its goes

I did it! It was a lot of fun. My husband chose the song “Oh Yeah” from the end of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off. I actually had a pair of garters that I got in a set on sale from David’s Bridal. The one I wore for the ceremony had a navy blue ribbon and a K charm for my first initial. Then before the reception, I switched to a solid ivory one, and my husband tossed that one. A friend of ours caught it, and I think we let him keep it. Then I could keep the pretty one. 🥰