Wedding dream being destroyed

Wouldn't all of your vendors be booked by now? Wouldn't you just lose all of your deposits by cancelling with them?

Sorry to hear about your FH's family emergency! If you have sent invitations and people have made travel arrangements, its probably too late to postpone the wedding. Also if you have done deposits with vendors etc, you may lose those as well. Check your contracts, it may be better to just scale back what you had initially planned and go from there. To make things cheaper: scale back on everything, less flowers, less booze, less food. DIY isn't always cheaper but it could help. I'm sure its super disappointing to have to scale back your dream wedding

Will your vendors let you reschedule the date without penalty?

Thank you so much @JClovesDM , I think i just have to start having less of things.

and ashley, yes our main issue is the venue..

@OriginalKD I will call and ask. I hope they won't. I think they gave me a specific time range when they will charge me and when they won't. hopefully if now, they won't

Hey Priscilla! I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this. So if I understand correctly, you've already booked the venue? And by postponing you'll lose your deposit?

In that case, I would think just trying to cut back on the non-essentials that aren't already in a contract would be best. Like fewer flowers, fewer apps, skip the full bar, etc.

Postponing would mean not having to make final payments (MAYBE, depends on the contract I guess). BUT, you'd also wind up spending more in the long run having to pay deposits on an entirely new wedding.

I hope everything works out for you, sorry to hear this happened so late in the game

Call your venue ASAP.

... and have documentation, if possible, if the family situation was a medical emergency. Many venues can't rent their space with so little time again, and they will lose the revenue, but if you can prove it was a genuine emergency - stroke and hospitalization followed by rehab, for example - the venue may be more lenient. I think they hear excuses all the time, so it's going to be important to be ready to back up your ask.

The other option, by the way, is to take your parents, sibs, and bridal party and officiant, and get married in a private ceremony in a local garden or park with a pretty view. Make it legal. Then, when you have recovered financially you can hold a 'wedding celebration' ceremony and party (reception) with all your loved ones. Your guests love you and will understand!

The reception is just a party - the ceremony is the whole reason the reception is even happening.

Thank you guys very much. Our church and family are helping us out and I couldn't be more thankful. I appreciate the time you guys took to help me out!!

Yay!! I'm so glad that it has all worked out for you! Feel free to come back anytime.