Wedding Date and Bridal Shower Date faux pas?

She doesn't get to plan her own Bridal shower and most certainly not on Christmas Eve. If I got an invite to that I would decline so fast! That's a family holiday. A NYE wedding is one thing but that is just tacky.

Christmas Eve is a huge no and why is she telling you when to host her shower.

She's telling me when to host her shower because she is bossy as heck about everything

It's okay for her to give you available dates only after YOU offer to throw a shower for her (it is not required). However, unless she only wants family present at the shower, this is a bad idea. No one else is going to attend a Christmas Eve bridal shower. Even family might be pissed, but considering most families get together anyway on Christmas Eve, you could work it in to the get-together.

As for her NYE wedding, unless she has a huge budget, this is also a mistake, in my opinion. NYE is the biggest party night of the year and something that some look forward to all year. If you're hosting a wedding on NYE, the expectations are pretty big because people are giving up their own NYE plans for your wedding. You should go all-out in terms of food, music, bar, etc. Just make sure she's aware of that.

Ummm, sister sounds a little entitled, first by dictating a date, second, expecting people to give up a family holiday for a bridal shower. Would be a decline from me.

And, as others are saying, she shouldn't be planning her shower.

IF you are hosting her bridal shower (she doesn't get to dictate who does), YOU get to decide when it is. A Christmas Eve bridal shower is just asking for no one to show up! It's very inconvenient and I would definitely decline, because my family and religious traditions would trump a bridal shower for sure.

Not to mention, this is WAY too far in advance to be planning a shower and a week before the wedding is WAY too close to have a shower! A shower should be held 2-3 months before the wedding.

Gross. She sounds extremely entitled and immature, and she needs to grow up.

It's incredibly rude and self centered for her to not only dictate when YOU should throw HER a shower, but to also expect families to drop everything on Christmas Eve to attend her shower (news flash: they won't!), and purchase and attend two major wedding events within a week's time.

She needs to grow the fuck up and realize the world doesn't revolve around her. Plan the shower ONLY IF you want to, for whenever you want to, and she can deal with the added expense and issues (as well as possible declines) that go along with a NYE wedding.

You plan one if you want to.

Has she booked a venue yet? If she hasn't booked a venue then her date is not secured.

My shower was about 6 weeks prior to my wedding, my sisters planned it.

OMG. Back away slowly from your sister, she's sounding super entitled.

HARD no on Christmas eve bridal shower. I can't even...

She sounds peachy. And a NYE wedding? I hope she's shelled out the $$$ for the venue deposit already because no venue, no date.

If she wants you to host the shower, you plan her shower (if you even want to). If you choose to, you pick the date, and you take care of the rest; she's the guest of honor, not a puppeteer pulling your strings. She can deal with what you decide to do, or else she'll be seen as *very* ungrateful; and guests will talk amongst themselves about that.

Also, why even have the bridal shower so close? My aunt got married in October and my mother hosted her shower in mid-August.

And why is she so focused on the winter holidays? She does realize she's running the risk of a high decline rate, right? Not to mention impeding on other's holidays? Goodness.

I wouldn't host that shower, if I were in your shoes, and I probably wouldn't attend. This just sounds like trouble all the way around.

I think even if she wants that day she should really think about who would show up. Probably hardly anyone and then she'll be upset. It seems like she's wants to be the center of attention on these major holidays, but people won't stop their lives for her shower.

I think Christmas Eve is a bad day for the bridal shower and it is very close to the wedding date so its like you are asking people to give two gifts within a week. I think you should do it a month or two before.

Another thing that's odd about that is that they are a week apart. Usually there is more space between them and I think it's a little rude to invite guests to two occasions so close because it seems like she just wants gifts.

I think no one will come to a bridal shower on Christmas Eve. But it's also rude and selfish.

I agree with what @kimmyinjapan said about the gifts. Shower gifts and wedding gifts within a week of each other, and Christmas in between?

Nooooo thank-yoooooou!

You could certainly throw her shower on Christmas Eve. You'd be the only one there, but if it's what she really wants... ;-)

Just kidding. I think her suggestion is quite self-involved. You choose the date and tell her when it will be, not the other way around. Her only job is to show up and be grateful.

Bridal shower on Christmas Eve?! Heck no! It should be either a few days before or after and you should get to decide when.

Christmas Eve for a bridal shower is unnecessary

I'm getting married this NYE and my shower was in October! With the holidays and a wedding it's very busy. I'm slight overwhelmed now. I agree with everyone above and say it's not a good idea to do 12/24. It's a big family day.

She doesn't get a say in the bridal shower. If you choose to host one, it's polite to ask which date works best for her, but I wouldn't attend a shower on Christmas Eve. My cousin and I hosted a baby shower for our best friend on New Year's Eve last year, and people didn't come.