Wedding Date and Bridal Shower Date faux pas?

Agreed. Any non-relatives might have plans with their own families, especially over Christmas. I can't imagine getting married or doing my shower without some of my best friends there, but wouldn't want them to miss out on time with their families on both holidays.

My suggestion would be to keep the New Years wedding date, but make the shower well before Thanksgiving. That will allow your favorite people time to visit with their families on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and be free to celebrate with you on your wedding date.

I would not attend a bridal shower on Christmas Eve. A NYE wedding I wouldn't have a problem with. But please consider her guests who work in restaurants, retail, etc. it's almost impossible to get holidays off

I wouldn't go to either one. Hijacking holidays sucks. People have plans!

I've been to NYE weddings. NYE typically being a "party" kind of holiday anyway, I don't think it's rude or odd to choose it as a wedding date especially if most of your guest list is local OR if you're wanting to have OOT come for "the holidays.." and your wedding.

A shower on Christmas Eve though is totally out of line. Firstly, she shouldn't be giving you a date for a shower that is almost a year away and for an event that is frankly, not hers to plan. If you want to throw her a shower, coordinate her on any other day but flippin' Christmas Eve...or Thanksgiving! September or October would be the months I'd look at. Any bride getting married typically has more "space" between shower and wedding than 7 days.

It's a hardship on guests to travel so close together (potentially) and to give gifts back to back- especially during an already exhausting, financially challenging month.

Wedding on NYE, yay! Shower on Christmas Eve- hell no.

Your sister should have nothing to do with planning her bridal shower. I agree with everyone else, she sounds very entitled, especially wanting to have her wedding events on everyone else's holidays.

Bridal showers take place at least a month or two before the wedding, not a week before.

She wants to have her bridal shower on Christmas Eve, a time that people have prepared for and stressed over. It's a time when everyone who celebrates Christmas is having their own family parties. That's selfish. No one at all is going to give a flying f about a bridal shower over their time with their families. If I was invited to a shower on Christmas Eve, it would be a hard decline from me, even if they were a close family member, because we have had the same family Christmas Eve party with my moms side every year since I was born.

As for a wedding on NYE, I agree with everyone else; it better be over the top spectacular, because that, too, is a holiday.

Holding her wedding date on NYE is her and her fiancé's choice, but holding a bridal shower on Christmas eve would be a VERY bad idea. Just ask her if she would be okay with the shower being about a month prior to the wedding, so it won't get in the way of anyone's holiday plans

NYE is fine, but Christmas Eve?? Uhh, no. My friend had her engagement party on Easter one year and I thought that was quite rude.

Richard had all the right points. She needs to get her date and venue confirmed before she can start bridalliza