Wedding Date and Bridal Shower Date faux pas?

It doesn't work that way, and planning a Christmas eve event and NYE event is kind of problematic for family members.....One or the other would be fine but both?

Nope. And she gets no say in when or what happens.

I would be upset if I was expected to get a Christmas AND a shower gift PLUS a wedding gift within a week. TBH, all those gifts would be one and the same.

Anyways, she can't plan her own shower. That's a duty reserved for those who want to plan it. If no one wants to plan it, she doesn't get one.

I know I wouldn't attend a Christmas eve shower and don't know anyone else who would since we all have plans every Christmas eve. I usually send a gift even if I can't make something but if someone purposely picked this date knowing most people will decline? Nope, no gift from me.

This is super inconsiderate and weird. If she insists, I'm hoping she's ok with no one showing up.

How self centered can one human being be? Dear lord!

Yeah that's a terrible idea. No one will come to her bridal shower if it's on Christmas Eve. Not to mention bridal showers aren't usually a week before the wedding

I'm just going to second everything Richard said. Richard deserves a standing ovation.

Richard is 100000% correct.

Also taking bets on when OP's "sister" comes in to call us rud.

Do most NYE weddings go through midnight and the ball drop?

I'm not spending my holiday season attending wedding events, especially for one person. And if someone essentially told me that I was going to plan their shower, it would conveniently drop off my list of priorities. Everything she's telling/asking you to do is insanely rude.

ETA: @Lindsey I give it til midnight

*slow clap for Richard*

I would honestly feel offended if someone expected me to give up precious time with my family to go to a wedding shower. Does your sister realize how incredibly selfish and rude she's being and just doesn't care? I can't imagine someone wouldn't realize how rude that is, but people surprise me every day.

ETA: as for the NYE wedding, I would probably go assuming my FH was invited too, but I would hold extremely high expectations for said wedding. It better be the best drinks, dinner, and music I've ever experienced in my life

Too close together. I would have it October.

I wouldn't go to a shower on Christmas eve

I wouldn't go to a shower on Xmas Eve...I have my own family traditions...And it might be selfish but I'm not gonna skip a 25 year tradition for a bridal shower...

I think the NYE wedding is okay, but not the Christmas eve party... do it sooner.

On top of agreeing with everything everyone else said, what exactly was her reasoning for wanting a Christmas eve shower? I cant imagine that she would just arbitrarily pick that date.

I would tell her that planning a shower on Christmas eve is a horrible idea. That is a day that most people want to spend with their families. It's extremely rude to ask people to skip their family plans to attend a shower. I would never attend a shower on Christmas EVE.

She should also expect to have a lot of people decline the invitation to the wedding on NYE. It's still a big holiday and some people may not be willing to change their usual plans.

If the majority of the guests celebrate Christmas no one will show up

I wouldn't at all no way really rude

To be honest, I'd probably decline the bridal shower, 1..it's xmas eve, I'll be working. 2. It's xmas eve and that my time with my family and getting MY house ready for xmas. 3. I don't have the money or the time to be buying additional gifts on top of xmas.

And she should not have picked her date, if you are wanting to throw one for her, then it's a date you pick. And it does not have to be days before, it can a few months before the wedding.

Also... what Elizabeth said is on point-> I'm going to be expecting a huge party if I had to find a babysitter that night and turn down family events.

And she sounds entitled..you can tell her, we all think that.

Usually the shower is about a month or two before the wedding.