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Just Said Yes September 2022

Wedding blues, not excited about party any more and don't know why

Rashidah, on September 29, 2021 at 10:07 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
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Anyone having wedding planning blues or sadness, anxiety or any other negative feelings associated with planning. My date is 9/24/2022. I fought so hard to get my fiance' to agree to this wedding. He wanted to do the justice of the peace. I did not because I did it that way the first time. I have already decided this would be my second and last time so I wanted to do it nice. However I am currently over budget. Feeling a little overwhelmed and not excited about planning it anymore. I hired a coordinator who is also acting as my planner and helping with some little things because she knows I am overwhelmed. I have given deposits for the dj, food, venue, coordinator and photography. I am now in the process of trying to figure out bartending services. I am not having a bridal party because I figured it would make things super easy but I am still stressed. I just do not feel the way I thought I would feel about all of this. Someone say something to bring me back up please!!! Secretly wondering if he was right and we should have done something really small and quiet. Oh yeah the guest list is 150. Secretly feeling sad but still want to be married Smiley sad((

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Latest activity by CountryBride, on September 30, 2021 at 9:05 PM
  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    It is perfectly normal to feel this way! I wanted to do a cruise wedding & have the cruise be our honeymoon but my husband didn’t (he’s never been married). I’ve been married (twice) & each time it was a JP thing. I never had a real wedding & reception but was secretly glad he wanted it. That was until the planning started! My husband is a firefighter/ medic & is the captain of his crew which means 99% of the planning fell on me. I would get so overwhelmed, frustrated, happy & scared all at the same time! Thank God for my sister! I would call, crying or freaking out & she talked me down! I’m so glad we had the wedding of our dreams & would do it again!
    Have you talked with your fiancé about how you’re feeling?
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  • R
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Rashidah ·
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    Thank you for sharing this. I have been married before but this is a first for him. I have all of the emotions you listed. It’s been pure hell for me. I told him and he has asked is there anything he can do. Honestly i don’t want to think about what he can do. I am not sure.
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  • R
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Rashidah ·
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    It’s like coming up with telling him what’s wrong is too much work. I keep hoping that this feeling will pass. I don’t know that it will.
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  • Melinda
    Expert March 2022
    Melinda ·
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    Wedding burnout is very real!
    It's a lot of stress and planning and I often have days that make me say "is this worth it?"
    I have been feeling it a lot for the past two months- in fact other than being on here I have taken a break from planning for a month. I have been focusing on FH and I's relationship and we even planned a weekend get away to lay by a pool. You have plenty of time, maybe take a break for a bit for stress relief?

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  • R
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Rashidah ·
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    I think you are right. I just don’t feel like planning anymore. Worn out.
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  • Michelle
    Dedicated November 2021
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    You are not alone! My husband and I postponed our wedding last fall and pushed it to this fall but still got legally married. We have now been planning for 2.5 years and I am over it. And only about 50% of our guest list is actually coming. So many times I have questioned if it’s all worth it and even wish we had just left it at our legal ceremony but I’m sure it will all be worth it in the end. I have tried to do a few things on my to do list each week. So many times I’ve felt guilty for not being excited or enjoying the process but have accepted wedding planning isn’t for everyone (Covid or not).


    I guess my point is that your feelings are totally normal and you aren’t alone in all of this. It’s incredibly overwhelming and there is nothing wrong with feeling unexcited.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
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    I’m sorry your feeling this way take a week off and go back to it
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