Wedding announcements are bad etiquette?

Im planning to send announcements to a few that we couldn't afford to include, such as my grandmas sister, my dads cousin, my grandpas brother. Old family friends. People like that who probably wouldn't expect to be invited to my wedding.. I don't think they are tacky and if anyone complains they can't argue with, We had a small wedding and couldn't afford much more but still wanted to include our loved ones by sending a sweet announcement..

Grandma's views aren't even outdated, they are just silly. Wedding announcements were common when I got married the first time in 1977, and when my parents got married in 1952. They have never required a gift, and are just for the purpose of letting people know you are married.

@Blushing- I signed up here for the same reasons back when I was having 100 person wedding this July with only 10 months to plan. Also, this is wedding related advice. I know you said you were not trying to be rude, but that doesn't excuse the fact that it kinda was. If you have no interest in the topic posted, feel free to move onto other posts.

I think that they are an okay idea and aren't meant to be rude, but I also think that anybody that close to me should already know when I am planning on being married.

According to whom? As long as you don't put your registry information on the announcement, I think it's fine. Lot's of people send me baby announcements. I don't send gifts unless I want to, nor do I think it is a ploy to get any.

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Well let me answer the thread.

The whole thing doesn't make sense, you are sending this card to people who apparently wouldn't otherwise know you've become married, and if they know you are married, why do they need an announcement?

Also if you're doing a 15 person wedding because of financial reasons, why are you then spending any money on an announcement?

The entire thing doesn't make any sense and the only logical deduction is that you are imploring people to send you a gift. Which I don't understand why anyone would do because you couldn't be bothered to host a minimal crackers and soda and invite them.

Wow, Blushing. You seem to be amazing at jumping to conclusions. lol. To me it makes sense to send announcements to certain family members. And while the OP is having a small wedding because of financial reasons, wedding announcements can be done and sent for pretty cheap. It also doesn't mean she will be sending out 100 of them, maybe she is just sending them to 10 different families.

It is sad that the only "logical" thing you can come up with is that she is trying to get a gift out of people.

@Blushing...I have seen other comments you have made on this site and you NEVER have ANYTHING nice to say. I couldn't be "bothered" to host a large wedding because of medical bills and the fact that FH lost his job, not that that's any of your business.

Announcements are not $45 per person like many venues cost per plate. And I'm not going to make my family travel from around the county for "coke and crackers"

You sound like a real peach...FH is a very lucky man. -___-

Are you doing anything in the near future that you could pair it with? My cousin got married two years ago and had a very small wedding. Shortly after, they moved into a new place so they sent out a change of address that also was a wedding announcement. Didn't bother me at all!

Or...you could wait and pair it with a Christmas card? I'm all about knocking out 2 birds with one stone!

@Koch- That sounds like a plan. lol

No problemo! And honestly, everyone will do something in wedding planning that pisses someone off. Whether its your grandmother, your mom or the woman who lived next door to you when you were 6 and therefore expects an invitation...someone is going to get their panties in a knot. Don't sweat it too much!