Wearing white to someone else's wedding

White and ivory are not ok, but I'd say anything with an obvious print or light pink is fine. Honestly black bothers a little too (at least in the summer) even though it's actually quite common now. Black and white print, also fine!

Who gives an actual fuck, honestly?

Everyone will know who the bride is.

Both my mom and my MIL wore ivory/cream dresses with pink flowers. Both looked gorgeous. I don't remember what everyone else wore, so I obviously neither noticed nor cared. No-one "upstaged" me.

Y'all need to calm down and get some therapy for your insecurity issues, if you really believe a guest wearing white is the end of the world.

I agree that SOLID white is not appropriate. But anything else should be acceptable.

As far as black is concerned - in the 1950s through the apx 80s, if a parent wore black to the wedding it was considered a sign of disapproval/lack of support for the marriage, they were considered to be wearing funeral attire. Once the "little black dress" became "the" party outfit, this flew out the window.

I agree with kimi. It's rude and I try not to match the wedding colors. That being said someone wore a mostly white dress( with flowers all over) to my wedding. But she sent me a picture and asked before hand.. So it didn't bother me. I new she wasn't trying to steal my thunder. If someone did show up in white, you will probably be so happy and busy you won't even notice

If someone emailed me right now to ask if a white-ish non-wedding gown was appropriate, I think I'd be a little irritated. I have enough things to worry about without policing guest attire.

Also, glaring at people wearing white is at least as rude as wearing white. Maybe (probably) more so.

After recently getting married, I have a somewhat different perspective on this.

I showed up at my wedding to find my groom's sister in a short, but all-white, flowy, chiffon dress. Of course no one mistook her for the bride and it didn't at all ruin the day, but I couldn't understand why she would have done it. She is a very practical, older, married person who is not at all vindictive or the type of person to upstage, and in fact already had a track record of being thoughtful and helpful for our wedding planning. In questioning her motives afterwards, I came to the conclusion that she most likely just didn't know, like many people (after all, why should we all really have an innate sense of knowing not to wear white to a wedding, or have looked at wedding etiquette magazines and websites?) I also asked myself: what really bothered me about it? Was it that she wore an all-white dress, or that social customs and norms told me I should be upset about her wearing it? The answer was the latter.

In fact, for my beautiful, outdoor summer wedding, what would have, deep down, felt right for everyone to wear? Honestly, light, white, bright, happy colors. White is a color of hope, comfort, and honesty, and is a great feeling to have around you on your wedding day. What in the end wound up being more concerting to me was not the woman who wore the all-white flowy dress to my wedding, but the at least 3 young women who wore all black to my wedding, as if they were going to some kind of mournful wake instead of a gorgeous outdoor celebration.

Come on brides. No one else is going to wear a $1,500 gown to your wedding are they? Basically, I think that everyone needs to lighten up. Quite literally.

A friend of my husband's wore white to our wedding. It was a long sleeve, almost to the knee-length, tunic style dress. With black tights. And it was a winter wedding to boot. Not only did she wear white, but she proceeded to have a bunch of pictures taken by her friends, of her and my husband (in his full tux)standing alone together ….and then posted them all on her Facebook page without putting any tags or comments along with the photos. Which led 90% of the people who saw these pictures to comment her with a CONGRATULATIONS! thinking it was SHE who had just married my husband. And on not one of the comments did she correct anyone on their error. But I did….I just made sure I put a great big THANK YOU FOR COMING TO OUR WEDDING comment on each of her pictures so that people would realize she indeed did NOT marry my husband. I always had the feeling that she liked him. This kind of just solidified it for me. I just think it was SUPER tacky!