Wearing white to someone else's wedding

My dress is black and red, maybe it's because of that, but I don't really care what colors people wear. I don't know that I would even if I did wear white

Also, i'm from MT , so if I can keep the jean wearing to a minimum, I'll be stoked.lol.

Wait, black is offensive to wear to a wedding!? I ALWAYS wear black to weddings...haha.

I agree that wearing white to a wedding is very attention seeking and pretty rude! Even though all eyes will be on the bride and your guest's white dress likely won't even compare to your wedding dress it's still in poor taste IMO...

I don't give a crap one way or another what colour someone chooses to wear. I'm not wearing white anyway. Now, if someone shows up looking skanky, then I have issues.

I was one who had a problem with people wearing white to my wedding. A married couple wore white to my wedding. I didn't notice until other people pointed it out to me. I was having too much fun to care. I wouldn't personally wear white to someone else's wedding because it can still be considered rude. It just didn't matter to me as much as I was sure that it would.

I didn't even know the black thing was an issue until my mom nervously asked me if I would be upset by her wearing black. I was like "why would I?"

Like Celia said, it's a "tradition". Yes, etiquette says you shouldn't wear white to a wedding. Gets a lot murkier when the bride isn't wearing white (my dress is ivory). It is one tradition that seems to be dwindling, and really, everyone will know who the bride is. Not a big deal.

I recently wore an ivory and black striped dress to a wedding - but I had asked the bride in advance if it was ok or not first, as well as a few friends. Pic attached!

I've noticed this too, and when I've mentioned it to people they've genuinely seemed confused and said the only reason they wouldn't wear white to a wedding is because they don't suit white...

I agree with most on here. There's an unlimited amount of colors you can chose from. Wearing a white dress to me is disrespectful to the bride, therefore unacceptable. I think even some men know that (or maybe just my guy LOL) We went to a friends wedding last month and he points out a girl that was wearing a long white dress and says, "Wait, aren't women not supposed to wear white to a wedding? That's super grimy"

And Danielle C.. Ohhh no =(

Meh. I wouldn't care. Black I definitely wouldn't care. Even white, while considered rude, I'd be fine with. I'd never wear white myself though, ever. I would never want to be perceived as anything but polite.

A couple women wore short white or ivory dresses to my wedding. I didn't care. They looked lovely and I didn't feel "upstaged".

It's not that people are going to get "confused about who the bride is" it's the fact that it's disrespectful. I always glare at anyone who wears white to a wedding I'm at. It's just rude.

Honestly it's not like the guest in white will 'steal attention' from the bride. As a guest, I'd side-eye another guest for wearing it though. I feel like if you can't find ONE freaking outfit in any color BUT white then you're not trying hard enough. It is one day that you can try to fly under the radar but still dress nicely.

So my FMIL is considering this. It irks me but she'll look tacky.

Just saw a picture of Bide and her SIL. SIL was wearing a dress with white on top she had her hair and make up done and so did the bride. A picture of them from shoulders up I thought the SIL was the bride..... thats why you dont wear white.

I agree wearing a completely white or nearly white dress is a no-no. But white with a prominent pattern doesn't bother me. I did it for my cousin's wedding almost 2 years ago.

I wouldn't wear an all white/ivory dress just because I don't like it on me. I'm getting married on the beach so I would be surprised or care if someone wore white. The sun will be hot!

I've worn several dresses that have white to weddings but they always have a large colored print on them. I have a white and black polka dot dress I've worn to a few and I always get compliments on it.

My FIML is wearing white to mine and I am unhappy! She bought a dress for her other sons wedding but gonna wear it to ours to and when I seen it was white I freaked! I do t even know how to go about this!

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