Wearing white to someone else's wedding

Funny fact-- my Aunt In Law *still* gripes that her MIL wore off-white to my AIL's wedding, 30 years later! So, some people care. On the other hand, I'd been married over a decade when I looked at a picture and suddenly realized my DH's boss had worn white. Granted, it was a suit, but I had to laugh. But, really-- who's going to get confused about who the bride is?

So rude. Side eye those hookers.

Hate that!

I honestly won't care or even notice if someone wears a white dress to my wedding. Everyone will know who the bride is because it's my wedding. Duh.

I wore a cream/beige dress to a wedding last month. I bought the dress to wear to that wedding and just totally forgot about that rule until like, the day before when it was too late. I definitely wasn't trying to outshine the bride with my $30 maxi dress from Target, though. That's ridiculous. Regardless, there were well over 100 guests at the wedding and I barely spoke to the bride. I doubt she even had time to care about my dress. ETA the dress had a black tribal pattern going right down the middle and I wore a denim jacket most of the night as well. Target had the same dress in dark green. Once I remembered the rulei checked several Targets trying to find the dress in green and none of them had it. I don't think I'm going to hell for this guys...

Still rude!

I have seen some weddings that request it for a "look".

But if it doesn't clearly indicate the bride wants you to wear white/cream/ivory then yes I think it is rude.

I wouldn't wear white to a wedding because its so controversial. And it's not so hard to find something to wear that isn't white. I wouldn't care if someone wore white to my own wedding though. It's not like anyone will be confused and if they want to put themselves in a position for all the other guests to judge them, that's their problem.

I still find this to be super rude. There are so many other colors and they choose to wear white?

Some of you are completely overreacting here. The "rule" is more about not upstaging the bride. So of course no one should show up to a wedding wearing a long white gown. But it does not mean that white can't be worn at all.

I don't see anything wrong with a white sweater or blazer over a colored dress for example. Or a black and white dress. It is just not THAT big of a deal. Everyone knows who the bride is. I have looked at photos of weddings my parents attended decades ago, and lots of women were wearing something white.

And "special place in hell" - seriously?? It's is not that serious. Calm down.

FMIL is wearing cream. I honestly don't think it's a problem. My wedding party is in really light colors too and so it just will look better with her in white.

...but it's NOT a ballgown.

I personally would not wear white to a wedding because I know how people feel about it, but I wouldnt care if someone wore white to mine unless it was one of the mothers or a member of the bridal party (mine are choosing their dresses) and/or the dress looked similar to a wedding dress. And if its white and another color? or patterned? go for it. I seriously dont understand why people are so horrified over this.

Every wedding I've been to, there is always one (aside from the bride).

Rude! you shouldn't wear white to a wedding unless you are the bride

I had a dream people wore white to my wedding, i woke up really mad! Haha. Definitely not okay!

Meh. As long as it's clearly not a wedding dress, I'm fine with it. Also, white dresses are so on-trend right now that it's bound to start happening more.

FH's aunt wore a solid white dress to my shower, and my brother's girlfriend wore black and white. I honestly didn't side-eye either of them (I didn't even really notice until looking at photos later). I assume I'll have the same non-reaction if anyone wears solid white to the wedding.

No, still a dick move!

I would never ever wear anything white or mostly white to a wedding, but I honestly wouldn't be bothered if someone wore white to my wedding.

I don't think a guest wearing white bothers anyone because they think that person will be mistook for the bride. I think it just shows a level of either disrespect or a huge lack of social graces on the part of the guest.

That being said, my FMIL is wearing a floor length white gown to my wedding so......

ETA: I also have heard it's considered rude to wear red to a wedding. Although I see lots of it. I'd be interested to hear other's opinions of this.

Still rude. Ridiculous people who do that

I think wearing all white would be rude. I don't think a white sweater on top of a colored dress is an issue, though.

I've never heard of the red rule, but had heard that it was taboo to wear black to a wedding. I've also heard that wearing black is becoming acceptable.