My husband and I got married on a whim between shifts at a courthouse. We didn’t even have rings, and no one knew we were doing it. We don’t have any photos of the day because we weren’t allowed to have cameras in the courthouse. We were a dual military couple, and that life threatened to separate us. Not only that, we were not stationed near any family members. We made it happen out of necessity with the intention to have a ceremony later.
We are coming up on 12 years, and I still cry over the wedding we never had. It’s not all of the time, the feeling comes and goes, but right now is one of those times in particular. I never wanted to just go to a courthouse.
It has been far too long to plan a wedding. I am wondering what is the social difference between a vow renewal and anniversary party? What kind of dress am I allowed to wear? I can’t find many resources on this, just a lot of hate for “second weddings.”
Sorry if this is the wrong place. There really doesn’t seem to be any place to discuss it, and my married friends just like to chime in about how I didn’t miss out on anything because their weddings were stressful.
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