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Uninviting guests

NenaBear, on October 15, 2015 at 3:23 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 40
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Yep, we did it. We have uninvited a family and in a separate instance an old friend. I have ZERO patience for people trying to create drama. Especially, when it involves exes. Why do people feel the need to talk about our goings on with our exes?! This is beyond my comprehension... Has anyone else run into situations where they feel the need to uninvite?



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Latest activity by Ivory, on April 12, 2021 at 5:17 PM
  • N
    Master November 2015
    NenaBear ·
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    Both situations occurred today, but separately. My mind is blown...

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  • MrsTex
    Super October 2015
    MrsTex ·
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    Unfortunately yes. Like you, I had one "friend" making drama and somehow making the wedding about her. She was upset she wasn't asked to be in the bridal party, upset about the date of the bach party, stopped talking to me and then made a scene on facebook of all things when she found out she wasnt invited to my FAMILY shower. So.. I let her know she wouldn't be welcome anymore.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP December 2015
    Jennifer ·
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    We uninvited 1 guy and It sucks because we actually met at their bridal shower, then she went crazy. She cheated on him and they were getting divorced so FH invited him but then he got back together with the psycho so yes, uninvited.

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  • Mphgirl23
    VIP September 2020
    Mphgirl23 ·
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    Ouch--yes. Only luckily we haven't sent out physical invitations or save the dates yet... FH felt the need to verbally invite a bunch of random people and we simply do not have the money for it (nor do I even want these randoms there in the first place).. so we are just hoping that they don't ask about it!

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  • Ally
    Master October 2016
    Ally ·
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    This is one of the things I support brides on. If someone's purposely making your life hell after they've been invited then I will rescind that invite. I'm sorry they're blabber mouths to your exes. I know we had to cut some 'friends' out of our lives because they wouldn't stop letting her come around.

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  • N
    Master November 2015
    NenaBear ·
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    Ugh.. It sucks so bad. One of the uninvited was a GM. He was becoming a pain anyway, but when he decided to share our wedding information and recent trip details with FH's ex, that was it! Not ok.. Not ok at all.

    My lone uninvitee was just being a big baby. Our friendship was on the outs anyway, it was time to let go.

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  • Devin94
    VIP September 2016
    Devin94 ·
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    Wow, people feel the need to do that? WTF. Good call.

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
    Original VC ·
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    I had some stressful issues going on in my life (school related and family health related) and a BM somehow became convinced that my stress/anxiety was from not wanting to get married. She bugged me so much I considered uninviting her. Luckily, she left me alone in the end.

    I'm sorry you had to go through this Smiley sad but in the end you need to have people around you who support you, not the opposite.

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  • Glam0rous
    VIP June 2016
    Glam0rous ·
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    Awe I hate when things like this happen -- in the end if it takes stress and drama out of the picture then you have every right to make those changes.

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  • OG Kristen
    Master October 2015
    OG Kristen ·
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    We uninvited one of FMIL's friends who literally wrote her a letter a few months ago telling her how awful she is and how she was done with their friendship. I think that was enough to be uninvited to our wedding, not like she would have the guts to show up anyways.

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  • N
    Master November 2015
    NenaBear ·
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    @MrsBrinkleyToBe - I know right.. WTF is wrong with some people?!

    I appreciate the validation ladies. I'm trying not to feel guilty about kicking people out, but it was necessary. I don't want to look at pictures and think about how two faced that guy was right before our wedding.

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  • Trisha
    Master August 2015
    Trisha ·
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    I uninvited a girl. She created huge drama with my bachelorette party. We weren't super close to start with, just in the same group of friends.

    This girl is bad news anyway. She's getting married next month and when she saw that someone else was using the hashtag she wanted to use (not even something original), she reported that poor girl's pictures as inappropriate on Insta.

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  • Danielle
    Expert July 2016
    Danielle ·
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    I'm scared to send my save the dates too early. People can be so drama filled and shady these days. I'm probably going to send them to family this month and hold off on friends. I'm not gonna hesitate to cut someone after invites go out if they're gonna cause drama.

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  • MoSunshine
    Expert March 2016
    MoSunshine ·
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    I am completely blown away that "friends" would discuss another's wedding with their ex. My gosh that is just banana nuts to me! Don't feel bad for booting people from your wedding, because in the end that is one less plate you have to pay for!

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  • JaKLyn
    Master November 2015
    JaKLyn ·
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    We univited one couple who wrote FH a letter begging him to move out of our home and basically saying I'm a she devil that made him stop going to church. I also uninvited my mom. We pretty much cut ties with her after she lied to us about dying so we'd assume responsibility for my sister.

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  • Samantha
    VIP August 2015
    Samantha ·
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    We didn't uninvite people but we had countless people assume they where invited and we had to set them straight. I was completely shocked who just assumes there invited to a wedding. They weren't family where talking friends we haven't seen in years or barely spend time....people I would consider more acquaintances than friends.

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  • N
    Master November 2015
    NenaBear ·
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    @JaKLyn Wow... That's some messed up shit.

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
    MzRosaLu ·
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    We haven't sent invitations or STDs yet, but I did decide not to invite my aunt. She created a big scene at a family party because she feels I should have asked her to be a bridesmaid. Basically started saying horrible things about me, FH, and his kids. She's done these types of things in the past because she is mentally unstable (I think she fits the description of borderline personality disorder exactly). So while I have compassion for her, I no longer care to have a relationship with her or give her access to anything going on in my life.

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
    Kimi ·
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    My only sister (who I am not close with anyway) decided that she would rather go on a trip with her church than attend my wedding - which was planned before the church trip. She didn't even have the courtesy to tell me, she made my mom tell me. Meanwhile, my mom is so angry and upset she's not speaking to my sister and took over a week to tell me. I was more upset that my sister upset my mom than I was that she's not coming. Especially after the hell she put me through for her first two weddings. (Mom & I made ALL of the dresses for her first. Informed the morning of her second - while I'm four hours away - that her photographer was double booked and I HAD to do it - not would I, but that I HAD to.) I am not even wasting a STD or invitation (that she'll just decline) on her.

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  • ashley
    Master November 2015
    ashley ·
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    I uninvited my best friends, ex's sister. we were kinda friends, but her brother choked out my best friend and beat her dog. so i said sorry, none in your family is welcome around me and mine.

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