Uninviting guests

Wow, I can't believe someone would go so far as to tell any of your exes anything. That is so absolutely uncalled for. Good for you for taking care of it though! Sorry you had to deal with that in the first place.

I wish I could have uninvited my mother.

We shared the details with my ex (and invited him to the wedding), so we didn't have to worry about that one!

Yep, I uninvited a co-worker.

I sent a STD to a family member, but never sent the person an invitation because they were horrible to my father. So I sort of uninvited them. No regrets.

Unfortunately our uninvited guest is my Mom. I don't think our relationship can be repaired. Now I stress she will show and cause a scene.

Haven't had to uninvite people, but people have definitely been removed from the guest list in advance of sending out STDs. I also had to tell a (now former) co-worker that she wasn't invited. We weren't even close & she didn't invite anyone from the office to her wedding. Some people are unbelievable. Good for you for getting rid of the drama!

You go girl! Sounds like you made the right choice! The only person you should worry about pleasing is you!

I'm hoping with our small guest list that we will not have to uninvite somebody, but the first person on the list who we will want to will probably be my mother. She's the family drama llama. If there isn't drama, she has to create it so she can look good. But, that's what you deal with when somebody who's supposed to be important in your life has NPD.

She's been known to do things in regards to her children's weddings in the past. She refused to go to my first one (so its not a big deal to me if she doesn't go to this one). She usurped the Mother/Son dance my BIL was supposed to have with his mom at my sister's wedding almost two years ago... instead she jumped up with my step-dad as soon as the Father/Daughter dance was over and insisted that they needed a special dance. Made some sort of announcement about it too.

DH wanted to uninvite his mother and we almost went through with it. She's nothing but drama. If the day isn't all about her she's not happy. When she refused to come to my shower DH went through the roof, he was livid. Then she spent the whole time during my shower texting family that was there saying she couldn't stop crying all morning, wishes she was there and blah blah blah. She didn't come because she "wanted the day to be about me and didn't want to cause drama". Whatever, it's forgiven I guess but I'll never forget that. It's not even the icing on the cake when it comes to all her craziness though!

I haven't had to uninvite anyone yet (hopefully never), but we did make the decision to cut a few genetically close relatives from the list before sending invites. Everyday I nervously wait for them to realize they aren't invited.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that Nena. In the end it sounds like the best decision. You don't want to share your happiness with people who want to crush it.

@nenabear very. She instead went on a cruise with her married BF and then wanted us to just hand my sister back over when she returned and "felt up to it" again.

@Jaklyn.... omg. That's pretty effed up of her to do..

Ours was only a verbal invite. But my ex-BFF started doing drugs and then came at me telling me she had a problem with the fact that DH is too honest and he needs to watch what he says around her. DH speaks his mind, but the instance she was talking about he said nothing wrong at all. I defended him & she wasn't happy about that. She tried dragging me into a bunch of drama and I just stopped talking to her. It was too much. She texted me about a month before the wedding, I didn't respond.

Crazies are everywhere. It's amazing how people can do this stuff.

My mom keeps reminding me that not everyone is a good person. Hard for me to grasp because I couldn't imagine doing any of these things to people. On the upside, I'm finally able to cut them from my life without feeling guilty. I'll take that progress and keep my sanity ;-)

I'm on the fence about doing it and FW doesn't want me to but I'm thinking of uninviting my ex-best friend. We were close for almost 7 years, talked daily and even worked together for about 2 years during that time. When my ex and I broke up, according to her she didn't "choose" sides but everything seems to point to the fact that she did. We have been distant with each other in the last year or so even though we live less than 5 miles from each other but I still asked her to stand as a bridesmaid in my wedding. Less than a week after I told her about the wedding and asked her to stand, I got a text from my ex. At the time, it wasn't public knowledge that I was getting married and my ex has no connection to anyone else besides this friend. I told the ex that she needed not to contact me any more and blocked the number. For weeks after that, I got calls from unknown numbers that would just be silence on the other end, until I asked said friend where my ex was living now(she was overseas for a time). I told said friend what had been happening and magically the calls stopped. This friend claims she doesn't speak to my ex about me or even frequently yet everything that has occurred related to my ex seems to have a connection to said friend. FW tells me not to uninvite her because of our previously close relationship which I say at this point after her actions, means nothing.

People change and relationships change with them. Actions speak much louder than words. In our case, we didn't want to look back at pictures and remember what that person did. We only want to see our happiness and make sure that is not tainted with the sting of feeling betrayed by someone included in them.

People are aweful sometimes

Uninvited a friend because we found out from another friend that she said she thought my FH was a sleezebag. Instantaneosly uninvited.

Haven't finalized my guest list, but I just want to say I LOVE your drama llamas!