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Expert April 2018

Two bachelor parties (venting)

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@brd2be, on February 7, 2018 at 1:24 PM

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So my fiance heard from his groomsmen that they are planning a trip to for his bachelor party. But not all of them can make the trip, so they want to plan a second bachelor party in his home town where most of them live (1+ hour away from us) another weekend. I'm really not feeling this idea and I am questioning if I am overreacting for being annoyed? I feel like if not everyone could make the trip then they need to find a place closer to home and do it there. But I also know he wants to go on the trip so I don't want to be a jerk about it and tell him how I really feel. But two full weekend bachelor parties within 3 weeks and very close to our wedding is really rubbing me the wrong way.

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SaraBear · on February 7, 2018 at 6:27 PM
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I don’t think it’s a big deal. A week before my “official” bachelorette party, I spent a night two hours away from town with three of my closest girlfriends. We said it was my first bachelorette party and the next one would be my second. Similarly, my H lived overseas and he had a stag party in Europe and a bachelor party in the states. Not a big deal. Unless your DIYing literally everything, you won’t be that busy leading up to the wedding; let him hang out with his friends.
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Super July 2018
Mags · on February 7, 2018 at 6:35 PM
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Def overreacting. For all the reasons PP stated. Let him have some fun!
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Ashley · on February 7, 2018 at 6:51 PM
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Is there something in particular you don’t want them doing? Like going to strip clubs or shows like that? Could that also have something to do with it?
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Ashley · on February 7, 2018 at 6:55 PM
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Agreed. He could have no one to do these fun things with and he’d be put in a very awful position of you having a fun party and he doesn’t.

I cut my bach weekend by a full day because I knew more effort and planning was being put into my party and they were just going to Vegas without any set plans.
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Just Said Yes May 2018
Crystal · on February 8, 2018 at 9:07 AM
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This sounds crazy to me. The only thing 'necessary' about a wedding is the ceremony. THe rest is traditional and fun; and hopefully something you only do once.
If hes able to have 2 bachelor parties with his friends, why not?! These are memories he will have forever. If its 2 weekends away within 3 weeks and you are worried you wont get to spend time with him...let it go. You are about to say vows to spend the rest of your life together, there will be plenty of time. If its 2 weekends close to the wedding; that i understand. Would you be able to ask him if he could do one of them a little earlier? I am lucky enough to have 2 bachelorettes; one with my girlfriend and one with my mom and family friends. My wedding is in May and both are full weekend get aways; but i spaced them out, this coming weekend and one in April. Maybe if you explained to him you were concerned about the time to do things right before the wedding, he would consider pulling it ahead
Other than that, who cares if its necessary
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