My FMIL is adamant about having a unity candle. While I've seen it in movies/tv- I've never seen it done during a catholic ceremony so of course I google it and come to find that it gained popularity after being aired in an episode of General Hospital and holds no religious meaning. I really don't want to include it. I understand the symbolism and all but we're already having a full mass and don't want to prolong it with yet another addition. My FMIL is so sweet to the point it's hard to say no to things because she gets so excited about the wedding. I'm about to just say the priest won't approve of it (because I did find that some parishes will not allow this).
I guess this is more of a vent than anything but there are times like this where I'd rather just get married at city hall than argue about a stupid candle.