Hello, lovely people!
How do you feel about sending invites to guests that you expect not to come?
Our guestlist is slowly continuing to grow and has about 20 more people than I would like on it. My side has 55 guests, my FH's side has 70, and our mutual friends add another 15. All the people on my side are my closest family and a few HS friends, only people that I really want to be there and that I know will be there if they can. I could cut 4 of my friends if I HAD to, but the next smallest amount for my side would be down to like 10 people. I asked my FH if there was anyone he thought we could cut, but he assured me that a lot of his family will not come. He actually pointed out like 20 different people that he was sure would not come (due to work, travel expense, poor health, distant relation, etc). To me, if they aren't going to make the effort or you aren't that close, why are we inviting them? Isn't it kind of a gift/money grab to send invitations out to people you know won't come?
He said that they would still want an invite to be kept in the loop, and equated it to sending it high school graduation announcements. I didn't send out graduation announcements, though, so I can't relate and still think it's kind of tacky. Is this a cultural difference? Do some families send out those kinds of announcements and invitations as a norm? I don't want to bank on these people not coming and then overfill our venue when they show up. What are your thoughts?