To invite coworkers or not

Don't worry too much about people's feelings. If you don't invite anyone from work they "shouldn't" be offended. If they do, it's kinda their problem more than yours. Now if you have a couple of coworkers you spend time with outside of work, that to me is more of a friend that you could invite without the rest.

I say don't. I was running into the same dilemma. Reality is, they are not the most important people in your lives and you don't have the budget, most people will understand. Besides co-workers may say they are coming but unless they are close friends won't show up anyway. I say don't invite them, or only do as you get RSVP's back declining from your guest list you already have.

Thanks for the advice!

Brittany-I am glad you posted this. I am in a similar boat. I am not especially close with my coworkers (I work 3rd shift by myself practically) and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I do think that they would understand. Still trying to work through that dilemma myself though! Good luck!

My situation is slightly different. Shortly after we were engaged, my contract was not renewed at the school that I taught at. It was not handled well by the administration and left a very sour taste in my mouth. I was close friends with a few of the people I taught with (2 are in my wedding), but not very close to others. I ended up inviting every single person I worked with on a daily basis EXCEPT the principal who fired me. Was it partly out of spite? You bet. Bottom line...had I still been working there, everyone I worked with would have been invited.

I think it depends on your job. Do you work TOGETHER, or just work at the same place? Do you have daily interactions with each other? Do you even consider them friends? If you end up not inviting some, and they are offended, I'd say they weren't a very understanding 'friend' in the first place.

My FH did invite his coworkers. BUT now we wish we hadn't! The company screwed him over and basically forced him to transfer locations and his co workers including his boss who my FH had just paid to help him outside of work could have cared less. It showed us that although you may like the people you work with they aren't always true people or good friends. If you aren't close with them I wouldn't invite them.

I am inviting some of my co-workers and so is FH. We privately asked them for their home addresses, and they all understand that we are not inviting the whole company, so they are pretty hush-hush about it.

My FH only invited the guys that he talks to daily about stuff outside of work. I only have two coworkers so I was able to invite them both.

Ugh. We invited some of our coworkers because we have over 100 coworkers and couldn't possibly invite them all, especially ones we don't talk to or don't like. Some of my tactless coworkers like to talk about receiving their invitations in front of people who haven't gotten invited. (It's about half and half, the other half pull me or FH aside and tell us about their excitement or whatever lol). A couple of the people that aren't invited are going to be upset, but FH & I can't stand them anyway, why would they assume they are invited? People are jerks, anything can happen, invite who you want that makes you happy.

I say don't! Maybe you guys can have a celebration later and then you can invite them!

Don't invite any of them, and show them pics if they are interested. With the exception of a co-worker you hang out with outside ofwork

I am in the same boat....I'm not super close with people at work like we don't hang out outside of work but we talk everyday and honestly I spend the majority of the day with them and they ask me about my wedding plans....my outside sales rep who I see once every few months said I hope I'm invited to the wedding because I make sure to always bring at least $300 in the envelope...made me feel a little awkward since I initially was not inviting her but then again they always look out for me and acknowledge the good work that I do.....as of right now co-workers are on the B list and as I get declines they may get invited because our budget is not all that big...we wanted no more than 150 and already we are at 168 people

I didn't broadcast my wedding at work, so it made it easy to just invite my co-workers, who I really consider my friends. So, the only ppl who know that I'm getting married are the ppl who I invited. Now on the other hand, my FH didn't do this, which caused confusion. But b/c he works in a small office, it wasn't a big concern. He just invited everyone in his unit and called it a day. Here's my advice - only invite ppl who YOU and your FH want at your wedding.

I invited a handful of people from work, but only people that I hang out with outside of work. I advised the ones I invited to be discreet because I couldn't invite everyone due to budgeting and too many people. our limit was 150...I sent out 104 STDs this am each one is for a guest +1 or a family. I think we are over LOL

Im on the same boat, i was actually talking about it today ... i dont really hang out with anyone from work and they seem kinda fake .. but i almost feel like i have to invite some of them just so they dont talk crap...seems very high schoolish... but i think im gonna say no to inviting them i dont like people that are your so called friends half of the time...

I am inviting the few here that i am close too--

I work with a great group of people, closer to some more than others. I struggled with this very question. I started off by just inviting a few and then found myself wanting most of them there anyway. I say if you are close to them, and enjoy their company then invite them. In my case, most of us are like a family

I am only inviting coworkers I hang out with outside of work or talk/text on a regular basis. I do feel bad but I have to save money somehow...

I work for a law firm of approximately 150+ people. There are about 15 people in my department. I am inviting everyone to the ceremony but only about 6 to the ceremony and the reception.

I am only inviting the few that I am close to also