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Those who were flexible with their wedding dates, how did you come up with a final date?

Sydney, on July 25, 2019 at 12:04 AM

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Did the date have significance? Was it the first time you met? First kiss? First I love you? Or was the date chosen based on venue options or family travel convenience? Should the date we get married have some form of significance?

Did the date have significance? Was it the first time you met? First kiss? First I love you? Or was the date chosen based on venue options or family travel convenience? Should the date we get married have some form of significance?

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  • Kristen
    Dedicated August 2021
    Kristen ·
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    Great date choice! And great meaning to it too Smiley smile
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  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
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    We knew we wanted to get married in 2019, we got engaged December of 2018, so we looked at venues in january, loved the first one and then asked what dates they had available!

    We were set in on a Saturday wedding, there were 5 dates open, June felt too soon, the July date was my birthday, August date was fmils birthday, which left September and November. November felt too far so we picked their September date!
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  • Sydney
    Beginner November 2021
    Sydney ·
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    My FH told me that even if we pick a random date it won't be random after it's chosen bc it will become our anniversary dateSmiley heart I thought that was a cute response but I still wonder if deep down he hopes we settle on a meaningful date since he proposed on the day we first spoke to each other.

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    We were shooting for September of this year (back in March 2018) since that is when a lot of our relationship milestones happened to be. When we found our venue, which was AMAZING, especially compared to the others we visited, we leaned that they were already booked through October 2019. So at that point we just took the first available Saturday, which was November 9th.

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    I didn't want to be hot and liked the way it sounded. 10 10 20!
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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    We didn't want a Fall/Winter wedding and didn't want to wait more than a year, so we decided on July 22 - but my in-laws were going to be out of the country, so we moved it up to July 15.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    No need for significance— you *create* significance by getting married on that date!
    Our date was simply what made sense with our schedules. It was a really quiet period at work for me so I could take many days off without it becoming a huge issue. We wanted a Saturday wedding to make it easier for guests since most of them had to travel . That left about 3 dates in the running and our final decision was based , I kid you not, on the tides — it was a beach wedding so we wanted a nice long low tide, so we went with the one out of those three that would give us the best timed low tide window.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    My mindset was the day will be significant no matter what because it’ll be the day we get married 🤷🏻‍♀️ Our date actually inadvertently ended up having a meaning beyond that... we just wanted a Sunday in early June and were debating between 6/2 and 6/9, and then my husband realized 6/2 is the same numbers as our dating anniversary (2/6) so we just went with that because it seemed like a good sign haha. But if it hadn’t worked out coincidentally like that, I wouldn’t have cared much (like, if our dating anniversary had been a day earlier on 2/5 it’s not like I would’ve given up the June wedding I wanted to have a 5/2 date or something lol)
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  • Candice
    Devoted July 2020
    Candice ·
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    I let the venue pick more or less. To be honest I told every venue that I wanted a Saturday or Sunday during the summer school break. The venue we chose in the end made a joke about 7/11 being international Slurpee day and I fell in love with it for that reason so of the five dates she could offer us that's what we went with lol.

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  • Bride2020
    Devoted May 2020
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    If it had lined up, I would have pushed for a significant date. November 6th is when we started dating, so if that had been a saturday I would have probably shot for it despite wanting a summer wedding. But I'm glad it didn't, we have a lot of college friends so summer is a lot easier for them. We chose 6/20/2020 because my fiance liked that there were a lot of 20s in it! We were between two venues, and the one he liked didn't have that date available, I asked if he would be willing to compromise on the venue if the one I wanted had his "fun date" as he calls it. He said he'd take it as a sign if the date was available, and it was!

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  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
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    We picked our date because we needed to get married during one of my breaks from grad school and we wanted our engagement to be about a year (or at least I did...H wanted us to have a 6 month long engagement lol). I think people get too bent out of shape trying to find a "meaningful" date. Our date is meaningful because it is the day we got married! Smiley smile

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    We had initially chosen May 18th (the 6 month mark of our dating anniversary) but the venue we were looking at got a contract in for that date before we officially said yes. So we bumped it up a week.
    We didnt have a real attachment to the date so it wasnt a huge deal. I just thought it was cute and worked with the no more than 1 year engagement!
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  • Jessica
    Savvy May 2021
    Jessica ·
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    We knew we wanted out wedding to be in May for weather reasons here in NJ. We were hoping for beginning of May 2021 but the venue we were set on was already booked for then. So we went with May 23rd 2021 because that was what was available for the venue we wanted.

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    Honestly I chose my date because (1) I wanted a fall wedding and (2) In the future when we have kids I can send them to one of our parents for a few days so FH and I can do something for our anniversary. Our wedding is the weekend before Thanksgiving so the kids will be out of school the following week.
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  • Kaila
    Savvy October 2020
    Kaila ·
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    We are getting married in New England. I’ve always loved fall and wanted the leaves changed for our wedding. I figured October would be best weather wise (not to hot/ not to cold) and still have the leaves. Our date didn’t really matter to us so we picked a Saturday we preferred and went from there. If vendors said it was taken it wasn’t a big deal. I’m glad for that bc it gave us a lot more options. We couldn’t fall in love with a place then count it out because our date was taken. But I do love the idea of a date that means something to the couple. Just don’t feel pressured to have that! Whatever date you pick will end up meaning a lot and be just as special!
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  • Chelsea
    Savvy May 2020
    Chelsea ·
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    Narrowed down to season based on preference... Date was purely based on venue and convenience
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  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We were flexible on date but knew we wanted September because it's the end of summer (FH's favorite season) and the beginning of fall (my favorite season). After that we basically just picked a date that was available at our venue. We could have picked my grandparents' anniversary but I decided to let it stand as theirs and not take it over. The original date we wanted was already booked for an annual festival our venue has so we just pushed it up a week.

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  • A
    Dedicated May 2020
    Abigail ·
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    We thought about getting married on our 5th anniversary (June 5th) but we decided to get married on my great-great grandparents' 100th wedding anniversary (May 15th 2020). It worked out perfectly with our schedules and we knew we wanted it to be in May or June. Plus, he proposed with my great-great grandmothers ring so it was really special Smiley heart

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  • Danielle
    Expert March 2019
    Danielle ·
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    We got to Spring by process of elimination...summer too hot, winter weather too risky, and fall has too many family birthdays etc already. We knew we wanted a Saturday, and the venue we found had tiered pricing, so a Saturday in March was cheaper than a Saturday in April. They had 2 Saturdays left, so we picked the 9th because our first date was the 29th (of April), and we got engaged on the 19th (of May).

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  • Gmm
    Devoted October 2019
    Gmm ·
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    I wanted a Saturday night in October and the 19th was available....sold! Lol
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