The worst advice I've ever heard..

5. (Cont) People will ask and they will get the hint when it's a limited registry.

6. "Ask guests to 'stock the bar' for your new home". (Least annoying post I've seen once I understood the point the poster was making. When I first read it, I thought she wanted guests to actually stock the reception bar!!)

All of these ideas are in multiples and my head is spinning. I finally posted that she should check the boards here for advice. I couldn't take it anymore. How is there so much bad advice on a single post?!

My stupid ass brother and his now ex wife flat out told people they wanted money and it really pissed me off. I was already pissed at both of them due to events a few months prior. I got them a gift card instead, I almost did not go to the wedding, but for the sake of my father I did. People today have no manners for everyday stuff, why would weddings be different?

There was similar post in a group for my area. They bride also asked what was the best way to tell her guests that there wasn't going to be any alcohol provided but that the guests could bring their own because the couple would be bringing their own. -_-

Ah yes, I too am in that FB group. Sadly not the worst thing I've seen on there. I need to get rid of my damn table numbers so I can finally leave it! The photographer admins are such assholes on there too. Would never recommend them to anyone based on their stupid little rants they go on.

I saw on FB where a friend of a friend had a stock the bar engagement party and it made me cringe. I don't see how people can not see their tackiness.

I keep seeing ads for Zola. For some reason I'm suspicious. I've never clicked it. What is it??

These options are just tacky and sad. Why are some people so clueless.

Zola has products as well as honeyfunds

@Caitlin, do what I did and go to Zola and just type in your own name, look at some random couple's registries. Many of them register for things like "home downpayment" "wedding flowers" "help paying for my dress" etc. I was embarrassed for them by proxy.

FH and I are getting married shortly after his brother. This is a conversation I had with my FFIL.

FFIL - "Why don't you set up a table at your shower to collect money for a honeyfund?"

Me - "No, I won't be doing that. It's against etiquette to blatantly ask for money."

FFIL - "But that's what FBIL's now wife did at her shower."

Me - "I know."

FFIL - "..........."

Me - "........."

I don't see the problem with requesting gift cards for home repair stores. If you really need to make renovations of buy new appliances this is fine. The honey fund however I do not really agree with

@rosie9615 here's another group I'm in, saw someone just posted about table numbers

https://www.facebook.com/groups/542926205768815/

Some people just don't know better. And they like to to listen to other people who don't. The OP will probably gloss over your suggestions, Kaitlyn, and just go with the ones that told her what she wanted to do, anyway.

@zoe I definitely agree with you. unfortunately many people post but are hoping to hear what they already intended to do. Smh

How about the debt relief jar?

Seems like a lot of people post for opinions when they really just want confirmation. Not my circus, not my monkies...

Oh I forgot the worst! Someone posted the shadow box they had out at the reception that said "honeymoon fund" on the front with an island picture in the back

I seriously thought some of those were good ideas. I guess not.

Thanks! Left a comment on it. I sold pretty much everything else so I've gotten kinda lazy. All the interest I've had is from people in Akron and I'm way too lazy to drive there.

I love the FB people looking for vendors who say '"don't want to spend an arm and a leg" or "on a budget." Wtf does that actually mean?!?! I'm tempted to post "ISO photographer. Must be completely overpriced. Willing to spend an arm and a leg. Budget is $****. "

Nothing wrong with Zola... Many people give gift cards or cash anyway.. I don't care either way. Gifts or no gifts I am going to enjoy every dollar I spent. If I never see a dollar back, I'm ok with it

I was invited to a wedding once where they actually put a number they wanted as a gift on the invitation! The line on the invitation was something along the lines of "You are in for a great dinner, we are in need of a great vacation. Donations of $150 per person will greatly be appreciated, please no physical gifts."

After I picked my jaw up off the floor I immediately called the bride and asked her what the hell she was thinking. She didn't think it was a bad idea until more than half her guest list began calling her and saying they probably wouldn't be able to make it to her wedding. She was heart broken, apparently. Ended up sending out a 'retraction' email to everyone later. It was so embarrassing! she was one of those people who didn't ask for anyone's opinion before she did things!