The worst advice I've ever heard..

@Anna, that's horrifying! How tacky of your friend. I'm shocked she thought it was a good idea.

FB groups are the worst! I think because it's less anonymous and you're more likely to have a friend on common no one calls anyone out for being rude to their guests. My local one recently had a bride whose mother backed out of throwing her a big shower. She was asking if she should throw it herself or throw a jack and Jill (yes, the tacky fundraiser kind). Everyone chimed in supporting both those options. Because of my job I can't risk a confrontation with strangers and it was apparent my suggestion that both options was rude wouldn't go over well. ::face palm::

Every time I see someone post "future wedding idea!" with a picture of a honeyfund jar I cringe. I put one simple word on their post. Tacky. They took it down after that.

I don't mind the couple wanting some form of money instead of gifts, especially if they've lived together and have the typical registry stuff. There's just tasteful and tacky ways to put that point across. FH had friends getting married and when we asked about their registry, they told us where they registered but said really they were looking to build some savings to move (closer to us which was a plus) and I wasn't off put at all because it was an honest response in person. my personal problem with sites like Zola and Honeyfund are they take a cut. We slipped a bill right in the card and I was happy knowing they would receive every dime we intended to give them.

@jaci the bride wasn't having a bridal shower (Either not being thrown one or because the lack of registry items, not sure exactly) so somebody suggested they have a shower with a registry the remodel things they needed instead and theme it as a remodel shower. Like I said above, don't see anything wrong with wanting cash/gift cards/etc but just have a regular shower and pss that by word of mouth IMO