The rude things people say to the bride and groom

I am very sensitive so some of you may not think that this is rude, but when FH gave one of his friends a save the date the first thing he said was ," I am going to get drunk at your wedding". That was the only thing that he was excited about. When FH told him that we are not serving alcohol ( FH and I don't drink) he said, " OK, I'll just get drunk before the wedding." I just shock my head lol; some people are soooo "strange" and inappropriate lol.

Wow luckily I haven't had anyone ask me those yet!!

@Shelley, I think it's rude. That's the attitude that many brides fear when they think about open bar. Is that how that person is normally, or were they joking? Eh.

I had a buddy (we were close in college, but don't really see/speak to each other much in the last 2-3 years) offer to pay to come to my wedding, when I said I didn't think I had the budget to invite him. He also said he thought my not inviting him was payback for him not inviting me to his wedding. And this was while at a mutual friend's wedding. It was a fun night.

Here is my list. I am in town for a funeral so I am coming to your wedding. Do you hate kids or something, adult only event. I don't need a seat. I want to dance. This comment is from the same person who made the first comment.

Only 60 ppl. That is tiny.

I've already heard about 75% of those. The most prominent ones being "Am I invited?" "Who's paying?" and "When are you going to have kids?"

I guess I don't really hear "am I invited?" so much as I hear, "You're getting married? Can't wait to go to that! Count me in!" and they are nowhere near even being on a back-up guest list.

This past winter I heard A LOT of the "Are you sure want to wait that long?" (in response to our 18 month engagement). The funniest one was when my MOH's mom said that, and my MOH's engagement was 18 months long too! I thought, "WTH? Why all of the sudden is it too long for me, when it was the perfect amount of time for your daughter?"

People never think before they speak...ever.

When I told my 1 and only sister I was getting married her comment to me was You are fing stupid to get married. That to me was very rude and uncalled for. Just because her marriage went south does not mean it is stupid for me to get married. FH and I have been together for 9 years a few days ago and will be 2 days short of being together 10 years when we get married.

"When are you going to have kids?" - We've been getting this question for years LOL. I don't find it rude though.

My mom's the only one out of her friends that isn't a grandma yet (granted, most of her friend's kids had babies when they were still teenagers) so my mom's been wanting grandkids for awhile!! And my cousin is super excited..at Christmas, in our card he wrote "Bring on the babies!" FH and I just laughed - everyone knows we won't be waiting too long after we're married to have kids.

Wow Brandi that was rude of your sister to say that. My former MOH was my cousin. She is going through a divorce and trying to make my little tiny wedding as she saw it to a 350 event. then when i said Hell to the No. She made rude comments about my colors,and hotel block for my guests. I demoted her to guest. She is still trying to control things and I laugh.

Oh gosh, the "You're getting married? Count me in!" comment rings so true.

When we first got engaged, a coworker was like, "You shouldn't get married. Marriage changes everything. You'll fight about everything" and was very negative about the whole thing since his marriage has not been that great recently. I've pretty much put it out of my mind, but when he said it I was PISSED.

@Reenski this guy was serious; I was kind of shocked. When someone invites me somewhere I say thank you and congratulations, but people these days don't seem to have many manners.

I also had a girl who I am not really friends with text me asking if she is invited. Sometimes I want to say, " if you have to ask for an invitation then you probably are not invited."

I got the ring comment about the size, someone called it delicate, i wanted to punch her in the face but then I took a deep breath said thanks and bounced, she wasn't worth it!

I got "is there somewhere to stay since I plan on getting wasted"..I brushed it off but this was my best friend saying it! My venue doesn't even do shots, double shots in drinks, or double fisting, personally I don't want people inebriated at my wedding, good and drunk yes but not completely smashed off their faces as I will NOT be taking care of anyone if they drink too much!

At my wedding my aunt asked me "do you like my dress? I was trying to make a statement" I just brushed it off because it's expected from her. I should have asked if she liked MY dress because I DID make a statement.

I haven't had any of these, yet. Fingers crossed!

Gurrl! Thank you so much for posting that article!

I wish I would've seen it yesterday! I posted a rant on WW about a coworker asking me why FH and I were waiting so long to get married AND when we planned to have kids! I was ready to hurt somebody yesterday. LOL

Thanks everyone. Here is one to add. So I know I can't bring my 4 year old to the reception but we bring him to all the pictures and the ceremony. My mom promise to pick him up after the ceremony. GRRRRRRRRRRR.

i told these crack head no kids and this woman ( FSIL) and her husband( FH brother) don't get it. FH says nothing but call them back and tell them no. NO YOU call them back.

I've had a few people ask us those questions such as "When are you going to have kids" - his family keeps asking because his older brother doesn't have a kid yet and no one thinks he will....and we get asked "Why is your engagement so long"...most from his family and I always say "Because we are paying for this ourselves!" - some stuff that is rude to me and it's what his mom says but she literally sent FH a text saying "Well since you guys are spending all this money on your wedding where is the down payment for your house"...like really...#1 we aren't even trying to get a house just yet that's our decision like she keep worrying about how much we paying....oh and here's another rude thing she has said since we got engaged because FH is working on becoming a cop in Baltimore...she goes "you might as well end it with her because she's not going to leave everything behind for $45000 and marry you" like really!!!!! I just think she is salty because she has had 5 failed marriages!!!

And she has also said to FH that I think he is made of money because of this wedding like I'm the only one making decisions over here...FH and I both want the same thing...yeah she pisses me off sometimes because she says crap like that but then comes to me and be like I really like you - whatever!!!!!!! I think she is also salty because I'm taking her baby son away from her!

The financial questions are the worst. it makes me reconsider what I ask others. I find it highly inappropriate.

"How much did that cost?" erghhh..

Hah, you guys think the "When are you having kids" question is bad, wait until you already have had 2 kids and family members keep asking when you are going to have a third! I love my boys and wouldn't trade them for anything, but there is no way I'm having another, thank you.