THE GREAT CAKE DEBATE! (To smash or not to smash)

Amen Gamecox! I don't eat cake with my fingers, unless if its a cup cake, and even then, I usually still pull out a fork. Why would I eat wedding cake with my fingers!

Sorry just watched the video. That was heart breaking! He ruined her makeup, made her bleed all over her dress, she was so upset (I would have been, too, I might would have walked out). It was almost abusive. I'm sure she was embarrassed in front of all her guest. That just seemed so upsetting and awkward for everyone. That would sure put a damper on the wedding memories.

No cake-smashing at our wedding... If FH attempts it, I'll be livid.

I just watched that video ... totally disrespectful! He pushed her down and actually made her bleed! What a jackass move.

Omg. I would be MORTIFIED if i were that girl. My parents would be so ashamed of me and they would hate my husband from that day on if he did that. That cake smashing i agree is disrespectful and will probably lead to divorce. I would never let FH smash cake all over my face. I do think it's disrespectful but if you're one of those people who are ok with it then it's fine. I have only seen that done at a wedding once and I just cringed. It was done out of meanness though not playfulness

I have seen it done where both had to go to the bathroom to clean up afterwards...not interested. But FH thinks it would be a lot of fun, and really wants to do it. So we agreed: yes, but only what can be cleaned up with one napkin. I'm guessing it will be just a bit of frosting for each of us. I think the important part is agreeing on it together.

Well I guess we won't be doing the cake smashing after all. FH doesn't want to. lol oh well. I didn't plan on going all out with smashing cake, just a little bit.

No smashing for us. I just went to a wedding where there was cake smashing, but the couple is just like that. Also that wedding was very...um...nontraditional. I would attack my FH in front of everyone if he smashed cake in my face because I have terrible anxiety already, especially with eating in front of people, so it would send me into a fit against him. Not good. He knows better than that, thank God. I'm not going to spend thousands of dollars on hair, makeup, and my dress to have it ruined on the most photographed day of my life.

Nooooo on the smashing. Ick. My husband was the first one to bring that up -- as in, "I don't like that; please let's not do that!" I was 100% on board. Ruin the makeup? Nooo thank you.

I love the post about 9 days...hehe..

I would hope my FH wouldn't smoosh cake in my face but I think if you are the kinda people that don't things that seriously that it might be a tension breaker to d something silly...but yeah not for me.

I brought up the cake smashing to FH a while back, at first he said he thought it was cute. But then when he learned how much my makeup will cost, he wasn't so into it. And then one day he said to me, "I don't want cake on my face, I'll never get the frosting out of my beard." :]

I went to a wedding this summer where the bride asked the groom not to get cake on her - and he hit her in the side of the face with it. I'm not opposed to getting a little cake on my face, but this was pretty deliberate and mean.

@Future Mrs.Whitaker, from what you describe it sounds like the second set of points the author of that article says - it sounds like you and your FH will be respectful, playful and loving!

FH is insistent on it. At first I told him no then I changed my mind and said whatever. The video did go way too far. It's not disrespectful it it is done right. To answer your questions, yes there will be cake smashing at our wedding!

I told him not to "smash," and he didn't TECHNICALLY smash. He sort of put his piece of cake to my mouth, and basically *smeared* the icing on one side of my face. I knew what he was doing, and just looked away, and decided to smear his face back! LOL. It wasn't too bad.

I have no clue if we will or not. My FH is a jokester so I wouldn't be surprised if he did. I don't care one way or the other because if he does he WILL be getting it back.

Ehhh im playful and wouldnt mind a small smash as long as its on my mouth area not in my eyes or hair we havent discussed this yet

No we won't. O just love cake too much to even waste a tiny bit LOL. That video was horrible. I honestly think I would have pressed charges on my new husband. He pushed her down so hard that was totally out of line.

Oh, I would just like to say that I have not seen the video yet, but it does sound pretty terrible.

If you're worried about your makeup, that's why you have someone there to touch it up throughout the night. I think it's silly and playful, not disrespectful. If you can't be playful with your new husband, I feel sorry for the marriage down the road.

I would say a full on face smash isn't necessary, but a little shoving of it in the mouth is fine. I don't get where this is tacky or disrespectful, especially if both expects and does it. Loosen up people...

There will definately be no cake smashing for us!

To each their own, if you're okay with it and both in agreement with then go for it. For us it's not something we would do. And it doesn't mean that we are not a playful couple because we joke around all the time but for me I don't want that sugar and frosting on my face, I have super sensitive skin and I don't really want hives on my wedding day.

If my FH did that in the video, we'd be getting divorced. And that bride looked pissed. We will NOT be cake smashing....we paid too much for that cake to smash!