So let me start this out by saying I plan on sending them out. However, I have gone to two weddings so far this year that did not do thank you cards. Both weddings we attended, stayed the whole time, as well as bought them a gift. I’m wondering if it becoming something that is not done as often...
So let me start this out by saying I plan on sending them out. However, I have gone to two weddings so far this year that did not do thank you cards. Both weddings we attended, stayed the whole time, as well as bought them a gift. I’m wondering if it becoming something that is not done as often anymore as it used to be? Or did they just not follow etiquette?
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Me too. This is the first time I heard about thank you cards being a big deal. Honestly I dont want to send them and now that I read all of these comments makes me weird like maybe it's wrong to not send it? Lol I've been to lots of wedding & only got 1 thank you card and I was like ok and trash
That's so interesting! They've definitely been a thing at every wedding I've gone to, but I have had some friends who sent their thank you cards very late (like 9 months after the wedding). Maybe the bride and groom are just very behind schedule for their thank yous.
I'm definitely sending them for mine since I think it's a non-negotiable part of wedding etiquette. We just got our first gift this month from my FMIL - who's one of only a few people who even knows our registry information at this point, so I was shocked to see that she'd already started buying stuff for us! - so we ordered some cute thank you cards in our wedding colors to get the ball rolling on that.
I think its just rude to not a send a thank you card and take a minute to let someone know you appreciate them and their gift. What's the big deal? Even if you have a lot to do just do a few every day and be grateful you have so many generous, supportive people on your life. I enjoy getting them and don't throw them right in the trash. It's a small thing and a nice personal touch, which there are too few of as it is.
No, it's still the right thing to do - people just suck and don't care about being polite. You should always receive a thank you note for a gift and send one if you get a gift for your wedding. It's just lazy and entitled not to send one.
I'm super crafty and got bored after finishing my diys for wedding decor, so I actually handmade a bunch of thank you cards to send after the wedding! I couldn't imagine not sending thank yous forna wedding!
My future mother-in-law provided my thank you notes and was nervous I wouldn’t be sending them out on time. After I saw how upset she was at not receiving a “thank you” from another wedding a while back, I realized how big of a deal it was to send a proper handwritten thank you. Now I get upset (whereas before, I didn’t really notice)!
Emily Post says that thank you’s are a must. You can get nice ones at Michaels online for a reasonable price. Why risk being rude, especially if you can maybe make somebody else’s day by a simple thank you note?
Definitely send them. I sent ours because 1) we got a lot of money from our guests. Almost $2,000 worth. 2) I had one friend who I ended up sending 3 follow up cards to because she texted and asked WHY she never got one. Turns out her mail was being mishandled... but imagine the weirdness of that conversation if I wouldn't have already sent her one in the mail?
Whether or not it's outdated, I think if anything at all, it shows you have some manners.
They didn’t follow etiquette! I’ve received thank you cards for every shower, bachelorette party, and wedding I’ve attended to this year. And I also plan on sending them. I think it is the nice, and correct, thing to do.
Thank you cards in my opinion are a must! This new generation is doomed because they do not do such things anymore. I attended a wedding last year gave a gift and did not get a thank you card. I just got married June 8th 2019 and my thank you cards were already signed sealed and delivered. I'm an old soul and believe in sending a good ol fashioned thank you note. I use to sit with my grandparents when I was little and help them write out little thank you notes to friends and family that they had received birthday gifts from.
If someone gave you a gift you should thank them for it. When you think about your wedding, guests are going to leave cards in a generic pile of cards, it is the nice thing to do to say thank you to them.
I think if you've sent your wedding invitations out by email, and you want to email a thank you note, fits your theme. If you are hosting a nice formal wedding, where you've sent out formal mailed invites, you really should mail thank you cards to those guests who were kind enough to give you a gift.
personally I cannot imagine not sending a thank you card to someone who has given me and my FH a gift to celebrate our marriage.
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Every wedding is different and every culture is different as well. One should not be judged if they dont send thank you cards. A simple "thank you for coming to my wedding" should be sufficient. In the end it's your wedding you do you and do as you please.